Do you throw things away or break things when you are angry?

@daliaj (5674)
India
September 21, 2009 11:30pm CST
My hostel mate has the habit of breaking things when she is angry. Once I had an argument with her and she throw my specs away to the wall. It broke and I was very upset about it. But, she got a new specs for me the same day evening. I think it is fine to break her things if she is tensed, but it is too much to break others things. Do you throw things away or break things when you are angry? Do you break your things or even others things?
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@ivygrey (550)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Hi daliaj, no I wouldn't break a thing, Although when I was a kid, I can still remember I always throw things around when I'm very angry. I guess people does change, First I really don't get mad easily unlike when i was younger. I'm very temperamental based on my mother's stories. Good thing I'm not like that anymore or else I would scare the hell out of my kids.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Sep 09
Hey, that is a new piece of infromation for me. I have never heard that people throw away things when they are happy. Thanks for sharing the information with mylotters. It is good that you are not doing it now. It is a big process to buy the things which are broken. Happt mylotting.
@Cherryd41 (1119)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Hi Daliaj No I don't break my things when I get angry I work to hard for them to do that I just shout or just go off by myself , sometimes I clean to occupy my mind with something else to settle myself down.http://www.mylot.com/images/emotes/angry.gif I can honestly say that I don't want anyone else breaking my things when their mad eitherhttp://www.mylot.com/images/emotes/sad.gif my husband gets angry as we all do at some point in time but he never throws things especially not my things he doesn't throw his things either he feels the same way I do about it we both work to hard to have to replace something we damaged out of anger
@marguicha (223777)
• Chile
22 Sep 09
I wouln´t break an egg, if I wasn´t making an omelette. I take care of my things and when I´m very angry I shout. But I just can´t imagine myself throwing a glass on the floor on purpose, even if it costed 5 cents. It´s just not done. Worse still if it´s someone else´s things. Many of our material possesions have a history that makes them dearer to us. Breaking your things is as bad as if she stole them. Take care!
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@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
woh, i used to do that. be it cheap or expensive, when i was completely mad, all were equal footing to me. the last time was some years ago. good thing i wasnt holding my celphone and so i got my specs. even after i was pacified i didnt even bother to look for it. good thing my cousin found it for me. i havent done throwing other's stuff. only those i was holding which happened to be mine (thank goodness!)
@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
whoops! dont get me wrong. it happened coz i was pushed to the limit. ü
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
no i don't do that, if i am angry i just shout as loud as i can.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Sep 09
Shout as lound as you can?? You are just like my Dad.
22 Sep 09
Usually when I get angry i tend to scream as loud as possible until I get a sore throat and then I end up either throwing something or slamming a door countless times if possible. I have never thrown anyone elses things and don't think I would. No one that isn't related to me (ei, my mother or brother) have seen me throw these amazingly overexaggerated fits, and I think that if they did ever see these, I would still not throw other peoples things because no matter how angry I am, I still wouldn't be that rude as to break or attempt to break anyone elses things! An example of one time when I actually threw something was lastnight. The batteries in the TV remote control ran out so I couldn't watch a programme that I had been waiting to watch all night! I decided to throw the TV remote against the wall, then when I had an argument about it with someone, I repeatedly slammed the door against the wall and now theres actually a hole in the wall where you can see I slammed the door! Yes, I get very angry very easily, so much so that my friends that I used to go to high school with actually call me 'The Hulk' lmao.
22 Sep 09
Oh and by the way, it is NOT a good way of getting angry because as you can imagine, it is very destructive and it actually doesn't calm me down. I've tried not doing it but for some reason I cant seem to help it! I know people are gonna think that I'm just saying in but it is actually an issue with me, hence having anger management when I was younger. Think I need it again!
@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
22 Sep 09
No, I don't. And I would never touch anyone else's stuff and break it, not for any reason. That's kind of bad, even if she did replace them. I'm a person who yells and cusses when I get mad. I try to leave the room though because I hate losing control and saying things that I have to apologize for later. Usually its stuff I wish I could say because I mean it but, for the sake of harmony, really can never be said. And saying them in anger, well, that's really bad. It can destroy a relationship.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
23 Sep 09
She is really acting like a spoilt kid. I wonder how she is going to make a living in the corporate world. I bet she may end up breaking the nose of her boss. I deal with anger in three ways, one is to eat, one is to walk very fast, the last one is to sleep it off. I think it's stupid to break things, after all, still have to spend money to replace it
@taztheone (1721)
• India
23 Sep 09
Luckily I don't have the habit of breaking things when I get angry because I know the cost of those things & I know how much hardwork is required to buy a new one. So breaking something in anger is never in my dictionary. Happy Lotting
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 09
Hello Daliaj, This is an interesting discussion. For me, I do throw things when I am mad. But I can self control very well, I only throw things that won't break such as pillows, books, soft toys... There was once I saw my uncle was in real mad and he threw away a glass towards his wife,!
@artistry (4151)
• United States
22 Sep 09
...Hi daliaj, Throwing and breaking things, I'm sorry to say is a sign of an immature person. Think about it, who throws things? Little children, because they want to have a hissy fit, this should not be the way adults behave under any circumstances. they are out of control or don't want to be under control. It is also a for of intimidation, what your girlfriend needs is anger management classes. You may think it is alright for her to break her things , it really is not, she in my opinion, need to practice discipline. I would think that her parents spoiled her, and she likes to get her way, living in the world is give and take and not breaking things if you don't like what is going on. Help her to see that she should invest in classes to help her stop this behavior which is out of the norm. Good luck. Take care.
@vdhaval (119)
• India
22 Sep 09
yeah i have this problem as well i wan once very angry and broke the screen guard of a computer monitor the replacement cost i had to incur was too much though i have now decided to throw petty things like pencils and pens whenever very angry i do feel that throwing n breaking things is not the most appropriate way of dealing with anger and i am learning to cope with anger without destroying things
@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Sep 09
Yes, it is sad to pay for the replacement cost of the things once we break it. I don't dare to break others things whatever be the cause. I may throw away my things. It is good to hear that you are learning to adjust with anger and control it. That is a good move. Thanks for the response. Happy mylotting.
@kylevinz (22)
23 Sep 09
it's natural to get the emotion of being angry.And throwing of things are just one of showing that you are angry with some things or some people.But throwing things that are valuable i guess is not right.Once she got got angry again buy her a tray of eggs and let her crushed it to relieve her.Just to avoid her from throwing your things.Silly but it's true.
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
It's a good thing I haven't done this my entire life. And I don't have plans of breaking something because of anger.Lol. I prefer to stay somewhere quiet rather than be throwing something to that person whom I'm mad at. I was never born like this and I would never want to do such a thing to someone too because I'm pretty sure I wouldn't like it if someone or my partner would do this to me either.
@pillusch (1147)
• Mexico
22 Sep 09
I personally don´t, but I understand people who do. It is a way (one of many) to vent your anger, to get it out of the system. It's kind of destructive, I have to admit, particularly if you throw and break things that are not yours. And again, I would recommend against it. What about shouting and screaming? It has the same effect, it can vent your anger and get the feeling out of your system, but it least she wouldn't have to destroy things.
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
nope when i am angry i just keep my pissed off.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
22 Sep 09
When I am mad, I don't throw things but I do like to kick something or punch something which is a very bad behavior I think... I try not to do that but if I am in a really angry mood, I cannot hold it and keep it underneath so I figure if I just punch hard on the couch, it should be alright because nothing will get broken or anybody will get hurt.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 09
Hi Daliaj, I never throw things either my own thing or other people thing when I feel upset and angry. It is NOT RIGHT to throw things away when you are in bad mood/angry. There are always other ways for you to release your anger like wash your face, have a cold drink,have a walk or either sleeping. When I have a small argument with my husband, I will just walk away and do my own thing rather than continue quarrel.There is no point to continue quarelling as it will make the situation worse. Walk away is our best solution.Let's everybody calm down & after a while, we will patch back again.
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Hello, honestly i did this maybe once or twice but when i feel the effect, i learned the lesson. It's really not good aside from losing any property, you might create an accident.
22 Sep 09
No, I don't break things even when I'm livid with anger. I might slam doors, cupboards but never break things. That sounds to me like a tendency for violence. Does not really solve anything. Maybe, she can channel all those anger/energy in sports rather than breaking things, especially other people's things.