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Changing lifestlye after near ones death
By malpoa
@malpoa (1213)
India
September 22, 2009 5:39am CST
Do you change your life style according to how your near and dear one wanted it to be after his/her passing away? Why do you change life style after the person is gone? Do you think it the soul will be happy to see your change? Had it been better to change when he/she was alive?
recenly my mother in law expired and after her death, her husband and sons started doing thing which she wanted them to do...Now whether they like what they are doing is for them to say...But I do not understand the logic behind the change...
It can be the simplest of simplest things like not being in touch with one of her friends whom she had a fight long time back or prefering to eat dishes she liked...getting house hold chores the way she did...why...
Tomorrow when I die, my husband will start doing things which I wanted him to do, but I wont be there to see that...so what is the point in doing then, mental satisfaction..? atleast to be assured that it was done atleast now!!!!
2 responses
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
22 Sep 09
Malpoa my dear, you must take this chance and use this sad event to your own advantage. Think of all the things you wish these three men of yours tom do, or change, and sob that they were Mama's greatest hopes which were confided to you woman to woman. Just think if what you could make them do to improve your own circumstances. Not dishonest at all, simply using womanly ways. 
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@malpoa (1213)
• India
23 Sep 09
Ha ha ha that is a great idea Thea. I have seen my bro in law trying to change doing this at the mention of his mother...Every change which is expected of him starts with, your mother didnt want you to do this...Unfortunately for him, there is little which others approve of him ha ha...Atleast he does things, I dont know out of compulsion or out of love...
But my husband insisting that I shouldnt keep in touch with a lady with whom my ma had an argument is simply baseless...I just gave a deaf ear and went to meet her, she was though right in her argument...
@picjim (3002)
• India
22 Sep 09
I get you its better to do it while they are with us. At least they would have got the satisfaction.After one passes away we are not sure whether they are watching over us and getting the satisfaction they would have had we done it in their presence.Even i notice such things happening and if we try to reason out logically its difficult to come up with an answer.
