What Makes People Mean?

For me, being mean is bad. but when the person is mean to you you can't help but be mean to her as well.But anywhere you go, you can always find a person who fulfills himself in insulting other people.I beleive that these people, they also experience the same thing, maybe in their family, school or friends. So for me before i judge them I asked them first if not them the people around her.

I have always wondered this myself. Its not fair for people that have to deal with people like this. I don't understand why everyone can't just get along, be nice, and be friends, the world would be a much better place. I don't think there would be as much crimes as there is now.

Hi princess07031980! I know just how you feel because I've worked with mean people, myself. It would always upset me, too. I worked as a nurse's aide in two nursing homes and some of the nurse's aides who had been there a while just didn't have any patience with a new nurse's aide. This is bad, I think, because not everybody catches on as fast as others. I have a slight learning disability and I don't catch on very fast. Most of those nurse's aides were low character people and their language, especially the ones who worked at night was just awful! I talked to the LPN coordinator at one of these nursing homes about the way they talk and she was really shocked that they would talk this way in front of the patients. As for the girl you worked with ten years ago and the guy you worked with at your recent job, did you try talking to them about their attitude? I know it's hard because I was always concerned that I might make matters worse if I talked to them. In that case, you might can try talking to the manager. I don't understand why the guy you worked with would suddenly turn on you, if you know what I mean. It's possible that he and the girl both could have been jealous of you for some reason. I don't really know. I'm just guessing this. I just know that when somebody is jealous of you, they will put you down in order to bring themselves up. I have a book titled "Nasty People" and it says there are three re4asons why people are mean. One, is because somebody else was mean to them. Two, is because they don't feel so good about themselves, and three, is to get their way. It's possible that the girl and the guy both were dealing with somebody at home who was mean to them. You never know. Kathy.

Hi princess07031980. People become mean when they rejoice in hurting other people. They find satisfaction when they know that you are suffering or are in pain. They will do every thing just to make you feel less of yourself. I had experienced one of those people. I was , I guess, very weak at that time that is why I yielded to her being mean. I left work because of that. Your self-esteem is attacked when you meet people like that. Others have the courage to face them head-on. But then for people like me, the best thing to do was to get out of the situation. Looking back, I think that I feel that I made the right decision because I never wanted to be with pathetic people and that was what they were.

we cannot please everybody. whether we like it or not, mean people will always be around. lucky enough not to have them most of the time. they may have bitter backgrounds or childhood that made them mean. in my crowd, we call them "deprived by hotdogs", so that whenever we encounter people like them, we can always understand the scenario. :)

Hi Princess, I recently went through some definate diferences of treatment by my supervisor at my old job...I was un-nessesarily harrassed by this same supervisor for about four years, I reported the harrasment to everyone from her manager on up, and nothing was ever done...This supervisor seemed to target ethnic and senior workers... several people in my department complained about her, but she continued to keep her job, though she showed evident signs of not only bias... but also extreme mis-management. Dealing with the treatment I recieved did make me somewhat bitter for awhile...but now I figure that my now ex-supervisor must have had such a horrible life, picking on those she felt were of "less" value (for her own reasons) brought some type of joy to her... maybe it made her feel more important...Not sure, but I think being treated a certain way just because of the color of your skin, age, looks, etc... is wrong, and can be one of the reasons some people turn into "meanies".

I think that some people are mean because they have had really troubled lives and are just plain bitter and angry and maybe jealous of anyone that is not as miserable as they are. I'm not sure...that is just my theory. As for the guy that you work with, he actually sounds like a lot of people that I know. They are not trying to be mean....they think they are funny...they really do. I work in a store and I get it a lot and I got used to it and started giving it back....all in fun of course. Maybe he doesn't realize how much his "jokes" are bothering you. I think you should say something to him. Maybe if he realized he would stop. I hope so.

I don't know but today i was kinda mean when i responded after my mom asked me to visit my brother. she has been silent for hours now. i guess when people having a bad day and they just trying to contain it something else comes out. there's a problem with this kind of people who prefer to see others humiliated.

I think people are mean because they try to prove something to themselves, about them, that they don't even believe. So if you believe it, it will make it easier for them to deal with themselves. Maybe they're just angry people. I think once you truly get to know people, you know that people don't just get angry for no reason. That's how most of the poeple know are. I haven't met any people that get angry just for being angry, but I bet they're out there.