Why are relationships so hard
By lilstar13
@lilstar13 (2)
United States
September 22, 2009 2:35pm CST
Just when you think its going to get easier its harder, why? My boyfriend and I moved in together about a year and a half ago... I thought after a year of living together it would get easier. What happens if we get tired of eachother? How do you beat the 7 year itch stuff?
4 responses
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
23 Sep 09
hi lilstar, you have to accept the fact that there is nothing in this life that is easy, everything is earned, even the relationship you are having now, and by the looks of it facing more hardship is not a bad sign, it is actually a good sign that you and your partner in this relationship are actually growing and building a much more solid foundation for your future. You have to always remember that in a relationship there will always be a ME, a YOU and a US which should grow all together at the same time.
If you really love him and he really loves you, both of you will never get tired of each other because both of you will find a way to work things out and eventually both of you have to excert the effort to surprise each other once in a while to spice things up.
@Archie0 (5652)
•
23 Sep 09
God never gives us what we want but what we need to make us better people. While our vision is limited to what we can only see in front of us (what we want) he can see what is to come down the road so he provides us with experiences (what we need), good and bad, so that we can learn from them and equip ourselves to deal with what is to come.
Having said this, maybe there is a lesson to be learned from this experience with your fiancee that you need to take with you so that your future relationship will prosper. Remember god has a plan for us all. Have faith.
@shajerrl (309)
• China
23 Sep 09
Welcome to mylot and wish you happy here everyday. somebody thinks love is easy and others think love is hard. why? i think it depends your atitude to love.if you can love somebody, you should love him/her from your heart, not only accept her merit, but also you will ready to accept his/her demerit. so kindly communication and understanding will important to both of you in your future life.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Hi lilstar..I would like to welcome you to mylot. By your number next to your name I see that you are new here. You will have lots of fun on here...
Now back to your discussion. Relationships is something that you have to work on all the time. It is very easy to get into the rut of things. If that is what has happen then I suggest that you do things a little different. Change things around in your relationship. One important thing that I have learned is that you have to give and take a little. Always give a little more now that you are past the 1 year stage. I wish you luck and have a nice day...
