Dreaming of EX!!!! Why?

Eve301345, I think that Iknow what you are going through, I had the same experience with a guy that I was dating a few years ago. he got what he wanted and started to cheat making me believe it was my fault. Well I was rather stupid bacause I didnt break up with him until he got the girl he was screwing pregnant. Anyway, after a nasty and devasting break-up for me I finally pulled myself together and found a new love, then I started having dreams like yours. It would make me so mad and pissed off. It actually got to the point that I was really paranoid that he would pop back into my life, I mean jumping when the phone rings to not sleeping at night. it got so bad that it started to effect my new relationship because I was constantly talking of this other dude. My best friend actually " cured" me. Iw as talking to her and reliving all the nasty details and blaming him for the rockiness in my new relationship. She said " Answer me straight up, is it him you are mad at or is yourself since you let him effect you. Have you forgiven yourself for getting involved with him? " It was a question I couldnt answer, I mean I wanted to believe that it was him I was still mad at. Biut the more I thought of it the more that subconsiously that I had not stopped blaming my self nor had I forgiven my self for falling for my ex. When I did forgive myself, the dreams stopped. Peroid. Its been six-months since I have had a dream about him, and my relationship is healthier than ever. So anyway, I have been told that dreams are the window of the subconscious, and maybe subconsciously your having trouble getting over the fact that you got hurt. And I dont know if theree is a real way to make your relationship bullet proof but talking with your man may help. If he doesnt know about the dreams then I wouldnt say anything to him, because as long as you know you will never cheat and that you love him and dont want anyone else, what is there to really worry about. Hope it helps

hello eve, that was some fine dream you got there. but you know, dreams are dreams, unless you do it for real, it will just fade away, we can't control our dreams but sometimes it had something to do with our past that we kept remembering them. just love and trust each other and don't be bothered simply because of a dream

I have many dreams, but I do not worry too much about them. it's the dream then it means non-logical, ridiculous. I read a few books about dream theory, but to be honest i don't believe. I think dream is very random. they come and they go. You don't need to analysis to find the reason. So it's not surprise you have a dream of your EX since the EX was a part of your life. so he could be in your dream. I dreamed my EX boyfriend a few times, but nothing happened after these dreams. I also don't think these dreams changed my idea about him.

hi eve, well reading your story, it seems you are still attracted to your ex, and if you say no of course you will say it because you just say that you really love your present bf now.. or else you are thinking him always that's why you always dream of him.. as what i have remembered when my grandmother told me 2 years ago that if you dream to a certain person it means you are thinking of him/her all the time, and that is why he/she always comes on your dream and yet you always wonder why you dream to that person.. janebeth.

Dreams are said to be occuring in the unconscious. I even recalled our lesson of Freud in which he said that dreams are "repressed wishes" and "wish fulfillment." In your case, you're not really wishing for your ex-BF to come back, right? In my opinion, you're only having those dreams because of the past love that didn't work out. Maybe you're having regrets because you were fooled and that you really want to forget about it but can't. I think you're still attached to the thought that there is a possibility of you getting fooled again, which is actually expressed in your dream that you are the one who is cheating on your current BF. If you were to ask me, I believe dreams are the opposite of the reality.

Aaaarrrg. I really didn't want to answer this one, but i had two. I myself have dealt with it for 8 yrs now. No it doesn't go away. it might get better but the dreams will always be. Why? because you loved the piece of crap more than your own life, would've done anything for him, even forgave him for stuff the "real you" would have never forgave. but you did. Because you loved him unconditionally. But he didn't love you that why. The mofo broke your heart in devious and scoundrel ways. But have faith. Karmas a bitc* and every dog has his day!

hello eve301345, maybe you are still thinking about him that's why. or maybe you are wondering what is his life now? but they say that if you have a dream it is always the opposite. so, you don't need to worry about it. besides, you have a new bf now and as you have said, you love him so much. just do your best to be his perfect gf.

hi eve maybe this strange dream is trying to tell you maybe its'time' you settled down and married instead of all the living together'and boy friends marriage is a big committment and it seems modern women want to be able to get out of any relationship in a few years,while marriage means a life time.are you really committed to your current boyfriend or will he just be another in in a stream of them over the years? maybe your dream is trying to tell you something.slow down and stick to one guy and marry him.

hi eve! good day to you my friend... We all know that we really experienced that kind of relationship in our younger time but we have to move on instead of back to the past. You know in your situation I experienced that before I always dreamed with my old bf even I am married I always dreamed of him .I keep on asking myself why ,it just maybe I am in love him before or is He also remembered me . We all the same I cannot answer your questions , all I know I'm happy with my life now and I pray to God that he is also happy w/ his life now . What I do in that dreaming of him I pray to God that's it and don't be bothered with your dream eve because it just only a dream. GOD BLESS xchyler

I really don't think you need to worry - dreams are just that, they have no real meaning in reality. You were obviously very upset by the behaviour of your ex so it will pray on your unconscious mind. You seem worried about your current relationship and the dream could be a manifestation of those concerns. No one can make a relationship "bullet proof" as you put it, but discuss any concerns you have with your current boyfriend. Once you are totally secure in this relationship the dreams may stop.

Since you broke up with your boyfriend you have been thinking of him all the time. When you do that, you will really or sometimes take it into your dreams. What you are experiencing is under your own control. you have to avoid thinking about him. When you do, try and get yourself busy ( meaning get something doing to avoid thinking of him ). When this continues you will one day mention your ex's name in your dream involuntarily in presents of your boyfriend. Dear friend, try and avoid thinking of him. you should know that he is not the right person for you. If you go back to him, he will take you for a ride and classify you as a fool ( sorry to say that ).

Hi eve301345,My name is butterflygoddess, For many years now I have been interpreting my own dreams as well as my sisters and friends. When they ask about their dreams and what it means I first explain to them that our dreams are made up of our hopes, fears and desires. And because we are in a subconscious state of mind as we are dreaming what is in our minds tend to come forward in our dreams. As I read the details of your question I would interpret your dream as "fear and desire" Lets start with desire first. When you were with your ex at the time you had the desire to get close to him affectionatly and emotionally...but because he cheated on you and you found out even though you are with a new love you have that "fear" that your current boyfriend will cheat on you as well and you will catch him. (see where the fear and desire play roles in your dream?) Your dream does not necessarily mean you are going to cheat on your boyfriend and get caught. You have the control over your conscious state of mind. Let me explain my dream to you...At the moment I am going through a tough time in my life. I laid down to rest one nite proceeded to talk to God about my life and started to ask him questions as to why this is like this and that...I fell asleep and in mydream I dreamt of an old friend who lived down the street from where I grew up. His name was Mark Ritchie. In my dream I was sitting on a couch Mark at my side...other people I didn't know were there. Mark did not look like Mark in my dream. He kissed me...I woke up instantly still feeling the imprint of his kiss on my lower lip. I was shocked that why would I dream of him...The next morning I looked into my dream (I am a follower of numerology and nameology.) I looked up the meaning of the name Mark. The only thing that kept coming up was ST.Mark. St. Mark is the author of the second Gospel in the New Testement which talks about Jesus' power and bravery even though his deciples turned on him. I then looked up the meaning of Ritchie. A link took me to the meaning of Richard (Ritchie being a nickname for Richard) The meaning of Richard is "brave and power" I then knew what my dream was about. God sent me a message in my dream. The answer to my question I asked him the night before as I laid down to rest. Always pay attention to what your dreams are telling you.

Eve, in your situation I think your heart still remember you ex bf and don't lie to me you still have feelings with your ex, right? because no matter how far he is as long your brain and heart always remembering him you still have a little feelings with him, Because our brain is the center of everything, it is wide and it is powerful, remember that what your heart(in doctors hypothalamus) is still remembering the past you are link still link in him. I hope I helped you with this, Start forgetting your past and start a new day with your new bf, as long as you love your bf no matter what trials push your life you wont betray him. Thanks

Dreaming of my ex? No, I don't dream of him but, I do wonder about him. That's very weird that you have dreams of him. Well maybe once in a while you do think of him and get paranoid that your boyfriend now might do it to you. That's my thought on this situation. I'd rather not worry about it and just keep on living with the one you are now with.