Should I give another chance?

Since you didnt say anything about the nature of the "lies" it is quite hard to decide. But I think you should give her another chance.. or at least give you another chance to know her again. The thing is by not giving her a chance, you are the one feeling hurt, you are the one missing her and you may miss out on a great relationship. What I would do in your position is to hear her out and give her another chance, and then take it from there, if I feel I can trust her then continue on. If not then, you can call it quit :) I have had this happened to me as well. It was when I was still a very young teenager around 13.. at that time I have just move to a new country for study so I was all alone. And in the chat room I found this nice "girl" (btw Im also a girl) she is older than me, pretty from the pics, basically a very nice person to talk to and I felt like I found a sister (I never had one) so i opened up to her, share secrets and all that stuff. She introduce me to her friend a guy, and later on he became my boyfriend. Whenever there are problems I always talk to my "sister" and tell her everything including problems with my bf. Even after I broke up with the guy, I was still friends with my sis. A few months later I found out that actually that sister is the same eprson as the guy that becomes my boyfriend. When I found out I was soo hurt and worse is that.. this time I dont haev a "sister" to talk about this to... But I learned from that that you cant be too trusting with a person on the net, but that doesnt mean everyone is like that, and that you just have to give yourself another chance to learn to trust :)

In one way perhaps she thought if she told you the truth that you would not be interested about her or that you would be put off by the truth so perhaps that is why she told you a lie.On the other hand perhaps she is once a liar always a liar.Depends on what she had told a lie about.

Unfortunately, that is how people seem to be. Scared you won't like them for who they REALLY are. The fact that she finally decided that you were worth sharing the truth with is what I would focus on. She trusts you now and you punished her honesty with isolation. Did she apologize for not being honest in the beginning? If so, she definitely needs to be forgiven. You are only starting to think of talking to her because YOU need/want her interaction again. Try and think about it from her point of view as well, this and next time you make a sudden judgement. But I am glad that you have decided to give her another chance, but this all hinges on IF she can trust you now again NOT to make a harsh judgement. I would have talked to her about my anger and disappointment, to try and clear the air, before making final judgement and cutting her off. So, maybe you should start the converstation back up by apologizing for your sudden judgement, explaining that your feelings were hurt and go from there. It may actually open even more doors to a more honest relationship. Good luck! Blessings.

Relationships developed online is somewhat complex. You never know who's lying and who's not. Another dilemma would be making others believe that your being sincere in everything you say. If it's not that big of a deal forgive her and give her a second chance. As the saying goes "Everybody deserves a second chance" but from here on be cautious she had the power to lie to you the first time she'll definitely have the power to do it again:)

I do think you should give her a chance. She might have been lying to you at first, but at least she had the courage to clear whatever she said back then. And I do understand why you reacted that way. But then, giving your situation, which is an online friendship, many times the internet can be a venue for lies, and she might have done it just to protect herself. It's like saying that she's afraid to invest in something that she's still unsure of. It's just like testing the temperature of the water, you don't go jumping right in when it's freezing. Online friendships can be a bit tricky as you don't really "know" who you are talking/chatting with, not like friends you get to see everyday face-to-face. :)

She made a mistake and admitted it, I think that's worthy of forgiveness. Don't expect somebody to trust you outright just after meeting you, especially online. Sharing the truth with you after lying to you in the first place is better than never telling you the truth at all, also remember that she could've either thought that you wouldn't be interested and run away if she told you the truth, or she was just playing around and is taking it a bit more serious now. She was lucky that you were honest from the start, many people online aren't, many just play with you, she might be a liar in general, but I think it's too soon to judge. I would forgive anyone who admitted their mistake without me finding it out first, takes a lot of courage and honesty.

I think I would need more details in order to give you an honest answer. Like what was it that she was withholding from you and then came forth and told you. I know that I am a very private person and I don't jump right in and tell someone everything from the start. I get to know them and as I feel more comfortable, I reveal more about myself. I do think honesty is important in any relationship. Did she lie or did she just hold back from telling you everything? You said a couple of weeks ago that you opened the doors to an online friend? Had you known her online prior to that and if so ...how long?

I think you should. Online friendships are a bit tricky in that sense and could be so. Perhaps she had her reasons for not telling you the whole truth in the first place, even though you had told nothing but the truth to her. Give her the benefit of the doubt this time round, and if she does it again, then you know what to do..

hello, This is somehow a late response,but caught my attention. I can relate to this situation. I also had same situation and i started a topic like this...actually,my last topic i guess..(so far) It is really hard to trust someone online,but it happens. I did trust someone also from online,and from the start,(and i am always been)i never tell lies,expecting he do the same thing,just to find out,he is lying. And,that really hurts me. If asked if i can give another chance...i don't think so. I am not a perfect person,but,trust is the last thing to lost in a relationship. I don't even know when i could trust someone again

These kind of dual-personality complexes do occur when two people try to become close. She perhaps thought that you may not accept her for what she was and found it better to showcase another personality which is acceptable. Laater on, she must have thought that she was cheating on you and since she liked you a lot, she couldn't hide the fact that she had lied and tried to make you understand. I think you should forgive her and give her another chance. Remember, we all make mistakes and its forgiving which is the most important part of our existence.

I think it depends on what she lied about and how serious YOU feel it is. I believe that first impressions are a lie whether you are meeting on line or in person. You do not show who you truly are until that person gets to know you better.

many girls made mistakes when they were young.and when they grow up,they look themselves as a mistakable people.so they they don't tell others the truth.you said you miss her.i think she misses you too.she chose to tell you the truth,you should be pleased with that.this means you became a important person to her so that she wants to share her past with you.you defenily give her second chance. best wishes!

If she has a certain age and life experience,means the relationship with you was easy Relationship with she is something good that happened in your life but she hid the shadow of her life I think that this relationship was only half You must not find she guilty,she could only give you a half and you offered the whole Sorry for language directly Can you live with a piece of relationship? If yes,you must give this woman everything... without disbelief.

I think you should give her another chance. If this is the first offense against her, then why not, ya know? I always try and give people the benefit of the doubt unless they prove time and time again that they are untrustworthy. I think the fact that she came clean to you about this speaks volumes! She realized that her not being completely honest with you may jeopardize your relationship, so she came clean. This might mean that in the beginning she wasn't as trusting of you, but as you both got closer she realized that she could open up to you more than she thought. This is a good sign that she opened up to and showed her true self. I encourage you to however be on guard just a bit and see what happens from here. Just be careful and guard your heart, I don't want to see you get hurt.

If I were you,I would not give a her another chance. I think cheating is a habit which is difficult to change.

I would say depending upon what it was - give her another chance. If she told you she used to be a mass murderer - well that is hard to forgive. If she told you she was working and you find out she is not - then maybe there are good reasons for it. You will never know unless you talk it out with her. Let us know how you make out. Good luck!

For a man to open up truth about himself is easier when compared to a women. As far as i have seen, women take a lot of time to get close and reveal all the truth about them. It will sound as if women are very caring and close, though they are caring and expressive, they will wait and then share everything. Don't stop any conversation abruptly that will make the girl feel insecure and bad. So go ahead, give her another chance.

Well, there are some that could possibly not to tell everything about their self if you still on the midst of getting to know each other especially if there is an interest towards you. If you feel that you can give her a chance then do it..Do what makes you happy.

hi climber, well in my opinion, you should not give her another chance, she was not honest at the start, and being honest is the primary to make friends, i do not know why she did not tell the truth, maybe she is used to telling lies, so my advice is here, stop contact with her.

In my opinion, if you really likes her, then why not give it another try. There is no harm in trying. If she still not being honest with you on some tries, and you think it's kind of angers and upsets you, then just stop it