If your friend fallen in love with your Ex......... What will you do?

I'm not exactly sure what I would do. I guess it would depend on whether I still have feelings for the ex or not. I think it would also depend on how serious the ex and I had been in the past, if we have children or not. If we had children I don't think I could help my friend get with the him. I think that would just be to awkward to deal with. I have been with the same person since I was just 15 years old, 21 years now. So I don't really have many love stories to tell about my life. But I did have my heart broken a time or two when I was younger and I mended well.

I think I am having Deja-Vu here. Or this two love stories has inter-related and interlocking... I believe two of you are the guys loving the same girl. Wow, this girl is so lucky! If both of you are true friends and buddies... and you have espressed your love to this girl. However her heart already belongs to someone...and the good news is this guy is your best friend. Why not, for the happiness of your two love ones. One is the girl you love and care, another one is your good friend. If these two person are good, will really love and care for each other, then I will advise you to tell this guy. Let's their love grow and they will always remember what a true friend you are. You are not a selfish person. Your love to this girl is even greater and you are a true blue 'gentleman'. I believe you will find a better girl in your path, the one that God has planned for you to be your life partner. All the best

hello dbutheking, if that will happen, since the girl doesn't like you and what she likes is your friend then i guess just be happy for them. no matter how much you love her, you must accept it. besides, if you really love her, then you must set her free. maybe she is not the right person for you.

Hmm, can I change the characters and the script too? Looks like I have to carry the girl (heroine) character in this love story! This guy likes me, but I like another guy who is his friend too. He knew that I like this friend of his. So, he decided to give a hint to that guy. However this guy is not ready as he has just has his heart broken. As time goes by, this threesome are great friends. Something happen to me (hahah, the girl) and ended up this girl closer with the first guy. As their relationship got closer, this second guy felt the lost, he get angry and left the group. The first guy and the heroine married and living happily till today. The second guy still stay single..

hi king, well that is the right avatar for you, it really suits you so much.. a king sitting on his throne is really nice and cool.. well back on your topic, hhmm it depends.. honestly, i don't know what to do when i am on that situation.. maybe i will cry and i will tell her not him, just find another one.. it sounds so hurtful on my side watching them laughing and eating along.. so better sacrifice our friendship if she will still continue to do it.. janebeth.

Hi dbu, still around! I must be looking angelic. LOL. Anyway - ur question - in ur place, of course I'd be hurt. What I cant have, I wouldnt let another have! But, in any event, ur friend has not told u that he likes are, so getting lost in that hypothetical situation would come only if the friend confesses he likes the girl. Up until then, I wouldnt burn my blood worrying on the issue. Now let us suppose ur friend really like her. U've lost him. Believe me, it is not going to be easy to accept him, even though it is not his fault! Some envy will take over, and u would be moving away from him. Having said all that, I think u r much too young to have met the first and last love of ur life. Love comes in many forms. It is just a feeling. It can come even as late as 45 so do enjoy as many times it comes in ur life instead of confining urself to just once, because some writers have said that is true love! Hah! :) I have lost count. Heart breaks only two. :( I've broken heart - possibly 10 times that. LOL. Actually, I realized I wanted more - something different, and had matured more, and so I couldnt really accept and therefore moved on! Nothing for the sake of vanity though. :) That would be such a waste of time! Possibly somebody whom I could really like would be watching on sidelines, and give me a pass!

Sure, why not tell your friend that she loves him? I mean, if you love her for real, you want her to be happy, right? To me that's real love, wanting the other person to be happy, even if it is not to your benefit.

Well, it's always not good to be falling for one's ex gf or ex lover, for there will always be conflicts of interest.. ONe will never be feeling good to see their ex lovers ending up with their frenz or whoever.. IT's a normal feeling.. BUT then again, we cant stop them, for it's their freedom to fall in love.. ANd for guys in your scenario, whom might not be able to face it, will tend to think that your fren is the 3rd party, causing the breakup, even though he's not.. haha =D IN real case like this, dun do anything.. Just let nature take its course.. AS love cant be forced ^_^

hi dbu. i don't think it will be a BIG deal for me, if my friend fall in love with my EX. since she's my EX, it only means we already broke-up and we have no connection already. so anything she will do with her life, our rights with each other are already waived. with my friend, good luck to him.

If my friend fell in love with my ex I would feel very sorry for her! (LOL) Seriously it would depend on how soon after the break up it was. If I was still grieving the relationship it would be difficult to be happy for my friend and to want to spend time around them. If it happened a while after the break up and I had already moved on and was with someone else I probably would not care although at first it would feel weird being around them but I would get used to it. I had a childhood sweetheart who I ended up marrying but we broke up after four and a half years because we grew apart; we were only 15 and 16 when we got together and way too young. We have both remarried now and we’re happy with our current partners.

I would not have any problem with them getting together. She/He is now my Ex and I want both of them to be happy and if it is together than why not. There is no reason why she should become a block between you and your friend. You need to move on and fine someone who will want to be with you.

If I am in your situation, The girl and my friend fall in love, maybe they will get married later, I will congratulate them. If you fall in love with he or she, I consider you wish he/she happiness.

my imaginary answer to an imaginary situation: it's on a case to case to basis. there should be acceptance on ur part that we can't get anything we want in our life. when u have accepted the fact that u can never have the woman for u and turned out to be ur friend's, maturity comes in. otherwise, r u willing to sacrifice the friendship out of rivalry? in the first place, u never had relationship with that woman. i go for moving on and give myself a chance to fall in love again with open doors!

our friendship will die very soon may be

dbutheking, I think the feelings must be mutual before you can cultivate into anything great. Very often, friendship is somewhat like love - if you are not comfortable with somebody, it's kinda impossible to develop that friendship further. And if those friendship ain't developed further, it's merely just causal friend ultimately. Of course, it would be great to have friends which you can count on and further those friendship - these are the kind of people worthy to keep and of course, you do what you can to maintain them including your exes. Our time and resource is limited and obviously we cannot upkeep all the friends as we would have like to. And because of that, we will can never be able to give them the necessary and equal attention, so when I see that there is compatibility or opportunity between a friend and an ex relation, you can be assured that I will not hesitate to help them. It does not have to be at odds with me as whatever is the past is already history and whatever had failed yesterday may not be the same tomorrow. We should always be free spirited and levelheaded at all times. For me, I am already having issues to upkeep different cliques of friends in reality and wouldn't have that time/energy/resource to think so much or hold on to whatever is fruitless and futile to hold on to. I rather focus more attention on people who are presently close and more important to me. Life is just too short for us to waste it away with pointless issues. Have a nice day.

yaa..it's very critical situation..for me..when my friend fallen in love with my ex girlfriend.. but i tried..to understand him.. that she is not better for him....she cheated her..as..she cheated me..

My first reaction was "Oh my god!". If my friend falls in love with my ex-boyfriend, my reaction will depends, I mean if I am not yet over with the guy, I will definitely feel bad. A bit betrayed cause I know that she knows that I still have a thing for that guy. Just to show respect, I think she should wait until I moved on. Am I a little selfish? hahahaha. But on the other hand, if I have no feeling anymore for that guy and I know that the guy is a good man, I will be very much happy for my friend. This answer is exclusive for exboyfriend only. For ex-husband, thats a different story. Thats a big no!no! girl. With regards to your imaginary story, if I was rejected by someone and later on learned that reason behind it was, as you said, he has a feeling towards my friend. Honestly, I can't do anything about it specially if my friend likes him too. I mean there was no us, in the first place. It was only me who likes him. A one sided love. So I don't have any right to intervene. Though it hurts but thats life. I just have to accept it because I cannot simply force others to like me. And I will not forced myself to someone. If I do that, I will just hurt myself.

well if i am really a true friend i would understand that if that will make her happy. at first i would be hurt but i think that will just fade away.

The problem can be simply solved by a sacrifice and a SORRY...Its your guilt in the imaginary story or your emotions which make you feel that the girl will be an obstacle....Rather if you are able to join them by sacrificing your love she would be sooo much happy and could be one of your true friend... SO DON'T LAG BEHIND IF YOU GET SUCH OPPORTUNITIES...

Well, it's not that troublesome. If you still love her, just keep chasing her. If don't, there's no problem. Since you don't love her, she won't be a block between you and ur friend. Whether you should tell him that she loves him?...umm...you should ask her, if she approves, then you can even help her chasing ur friend. And in my experience, by helping her, you two will get closer and closer, she'll think you are better than before, and finally you may have the oppotunity to be in relationship with her.