hitting that brickwall

Hi, amandakringle! I know what you mean about hitting a brick wall in your relationship. I've been with my man for almost 8 years now and things are quite different now as opposed to the beginning of our relationship. Truth is, all relationships go through changes. Those new, excided feelings you felt at the beginning will wear off sooner or later. Newness settles into comfortableness and unfortunately, sometimes complacency. First try to accept the fact that relationships change. Unless you and your man both lose your memory of each other and "meet" each other all ove again, you can't really go back to those inital new and excited feelings. Another thing you can try to do is think of what made you fall in love with your man in the first place and try to focus on that. Try to do new things together. Even something a small as going out to eat at a new restaurant or taking up a new hobby together. Keep the affection alive between you both with lots of hugs and kisses and holding hands. Also, it's important for both of you to maintain your own lives and your own interests. Spending every waking moment together is not healthy for a relationship and a good way for two people to get sick of each other very quickly. I try to balance my "together time" with my man and my "me time" as best as I can. Finally, try to look at your comfortableness in your relationship as a positive aspect. Take it one day at a time, relax and have fun. Good luck to you!