When Friendship Turns Into A Relationship

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I find it important to have friends, but it's not THAT important for me that, in the offline world, I'm somebody's friend because he simply calls me that. The German word 'Freund' is the correct translation of the English word 'friend', however, it's connotations are different. In English (or as in the Spanish 'amigo') it's pretty easy to call somebody a friend, who in German terms would just be an acquaintance. A new friend of mine kept popping up at my place, he's married with a kid, and he likes to get away. I understand that. I just asked him to call beforehand, I might be in class or I might just not be in the mood to talk to somebody. But this 'friendship' turned increasingly into a relationship, as with a woman (in my case, I´m a man). We started arguing, would you believe it. And THAT'S not my idea of a friendship. I asked him for example not to show up when he's been drinking, not without making clear that I didn't mind about his drinking (it's his business), but I just don´t like it when people get feisty with me. Would you believe it, he called me back the next day, how I could say a thing like that, he would have never thought THAT of me. My male friends, does that sound familiar? I started thinking about this guy, wonderimg whether he would leave me in peace after I told him I didn't want to see him anymore? Does that sound familiar? And he found pretext after pretext to show up here, until I kicked him out. Now I'm single again, what a relieve! I like friendships to be mature, not some kind of battle field for personal issues. It doesn´t mean that I don´t like to talk about personal issues, but please, not like that! Do you have any similar experiences, where a 'friend' started living in your head without paying rent? Please share.