Help! Need Your Advice With A Guy I Met On The Internet
By purplerose
@purplerose (413)
United States
September 24, 2009 6:39pm CST
I joined a social site last year, my friend sent me an ivite. so i joined, made a few friend's, recently made a new friend on there. the problem is he is going to fast, say's he love's me already and we have only been chatting for two week's now. i am the kind of women who like's to take thing's slow and develope a relationship over time not as fast as he want's to. my problem is how do i tell him i want to take our relationship very slow and let it develop over time. right now i don't love him as he love's me, but over time i will get to love him. love is supposed to develop slowly, that is my opinion. any suggestion's will greatly apprectiated. we have been sending each other e-mail's and his are very romantic.
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4 responses
@purplerose (413)
• United States
29 Sep 09
jasmeena, thank's for your response. I am alway's careful of people i have met for the first time. even the one's i have not met in person, i sent him an email last week telling him how i felt that thought that we should take it slow and get to know each other first. well i guess he didn't like that letter, cause i have not heard from him in a week.I just told him that i am the kind of person who like's to take the relationship slow. just be friend's first and see what develop's from there.
@brooksmm3 (20)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Tell him that you really like him and that you are enjoying getting to know him but that you think things are moving way too fast and that you want to build a meaningful relationship and moving too fast could mess that up. Guys aren't very good at subtlety so you need to be up front with him. He may be saying those things because he thinks it is what you want to hear. Let him know how you feel and if he really cares about you he will modify his behavior to make things work. Good luck!
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@purplerose (413)
• United States
25 Sep 09
brooksmm3, thank's for your response. you are right i should tell him that i want to take thing's slow for now and get to know each other better. thank's for your help.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
25 Sep 09
Just be stright and tell him, personally I would stop it all, people who start talking love before meeting a person are the types you should stay away from...
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@purplerose (413)
• United States
25 Sep 09
lilaclady, Thank's for the response. you are right i should be straight with him and just tell him to stop all e-mail's and instant messaging right now. when they start talking about love before meeting you, then they are the type to stay away from. Thank's for the advice.
@areshstar (60)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
you really have to be honest. you don't know him that much yet and so he is to you. show him the real you, especially the negative ones. see if he would still love you.
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@purplerose (413)
• United States
25 Sep 09
areshtar,Thank's for your response. i have shown him the real me, i have some health problem's and i told him out right about them and he told me he was still on my side. but i think i will tell him some more thing's about myself and see if he still love's me. tell him the truth even though it might scare him off.