If your best friend told you today that they were in love with you???

Hi, BStuff That actually happened to me years ago. The guy was one of my closest friends. When he told me, I was really flattered and I felt some excitement. However, when he started courting me, calling me day and night, and sending me love letters, the feeling of something like being betrayed started creeping in. Maybe I was being illogical but I started getting annoyed. I guess it was because of the thought that when I was openly being friendly with him, he has this plan of being more than friends with me. Anyway, we were ok at first, we never quarreled. But it was never the same anymore. We do not see each other anymore and I have lost contact with him. He's married now so I guess no harm was done. Have a nice day!

I would tell them how flattered I am. I think it is easy to fall for a best friend. You obviously have a lot in common with the person if you are that great of friends. I would let them down gentle so as to maintain the friendships. I learned at my bachelorette party that one of my best high school friends is a lesbian and I never knew in high school. I spent the night at her house nearly every weekend. She said she had a crush on me then. I was flattered with that. She never went further then a crush because she knew I would not be interested because she knew me that well. I call that a tried and true friend.

Wow.That would be a diffcult problem.Until now i never met.and i wish i won't meet You best friend if she/he have the same gender as me.I can't accept this stuff.I mean personally i am a traditional gril.i don't this i can hanld this situation i know it will hurt our friendship.So i hope it never happen to me..

This has actually happened to me in high school. My best friend (a girl, like me) told me she was in love with me. I had known all along that she was gay, but I wasn't so I didn't really think about it, you know? It blew my mind when she told me that and I don't even remember how I reacted, I was so shocked. After that encounter, I had to think about it really hard because, though I am and was hetero, I loved her as my best friend and I didn't want to lose her or hurt her. I actually considered trying the 'gay thing' out (sorry if I offend anyone with this comment) to avoid the hurt, but I just wasn't into it. When I finally told her that I couldn't do it, she was hurt of course, but she tried to hide it and we tried to stay best friends after that. That was the beginning of the end of our relationship and things got really weird after that and she made my last year of high school like a living hell for me. I suggest that anyone in that situation do what they think is right, not what they think is going to help them keep their friendship together. If you are not attracted or in love with that person, tell them directly. It will hurt them, but it is better than getting their hopes up and then letting them down again. I wish I had done that, I can't say things wouldn't have ended badly like they did, but maybe it would have been a little easier on both of us.

If they did tell me that they were in love with me, I would freak. My best friend is one of the closes thing that I will have in life. Just thinking of them telling them they love me more than just a friend. I would be shocked! It would be nice to have a BF as a best friend but, it might change ways.

I feel that it's easy to fall for your best friend - you're comfortable with each other, have the same interests, and great memories together. Whether you do or do not have the same feelings for your friend, there are imporant things to consider. Having a romantic relationship with someone who is already your best friend could be wonderful since you already have a close, loving history with each other - even if up until this point it was a platonic kind of love. The romantic love you share could be even deeper than anything you have ever experience simply because the foundation of friendship was there first. On the other side of that coin, what if it didn't work out in the end? You would then not only be losing your significant other but also your best friend. It would be a very profound emptiness in your life without that person, because it's like losing 2 people instead of just 1. If you don't have the same feelings for your friend, there is always the possibility that the friend will be unhappy with your rejection of him or her. Of course they should be treated with kindness, and I would tell them that I was flattered, and I hoped that wouldn't change our friendship. Either way, it is a tough situation to deal with. It is something that is a very personal decision, and it's hard to honestly say how you would deal with it until you're put in that spot.

Hi there BStuff, this has happened to me. A girl who was one of our group, suddenly told me that she was in love with me and she always used to love me. The unfortunate thing was, I never considered her as a love mate, bust just as another guy. The was she told me was dramatatic, we were in a movie and when the actress was telling the hero that she loves him, this girl took my hand and kissing my hand, whe whispered the same dialogue in my ear. Well, when I told her, that I do not love her, the good friendship got broken, and she disappeared from my life.

well, that depends on a lot of factors. First the friend is male I'd say "Dude are you out of your mind? Fine you are gay and all, but I am not". As for female, I don't really recall a friend I'd call best but the one close, I'd say No. Cuz she is ugly.

I had a situation like that happen to me years ago. I used to work with a really nice guy, we became friends and often went out together and he would come to our house and visit my room mate and me. I considered him one of my dearest friends and I poured my heart out to him about all my problems and whenever I was hurt by some guy my friend would be there to pick up the pieces and dry my eyes. After a two year friendship all of a sudden he began to send me flowers at work, I am talking every single day, it must have cost him a fortune! It was clear he now wanted more than what I could give him. To cut a long story short I had to break his heart in the end but it broke mine too because it ended our special friendship and I have not found another like it. All this happened almost 20 years ago and you know what? I was never in love with him, but I still miss him!

If my friend different gender (female) with me, I am sure I love her too . But if my friend is male, I will say to his "Hello are you crazy?"

That is a tricky scenario. If the friend is of the opposite gender, you can rationally judge if that person could be a soulmate. Being a great friend is being everything. If there is great deal of understanding, probably i would say yes. having said that i would be a little upset that he never confessed his feelings to me.

Ahh... i would certainly say to him you Edi-at...Get lost from my sight

I would not want that to happen to me. Being in love with a bestfriend will complicate things and strain your friendship. I will be uncomfortable to know that my bestfriend is 'romantically' inlove with me. Of course we do love our friends especially those close to us, but it's a different level of love more on sister/brother love. Thus, knowing that they feeling more than a sisterly/brotherly love is awkward. I will definitely discouraged the feelings over me and worst of it, the friendship that we have might have come to an end.

Just like my situation on my High School days. I love my best friend, but i just keep it inside me. But one time a common friend told me that my best friend has a feelings towards me. It's kinda awkward. Time comes by, he confronted me that he love me more than as best friends. I myself told him the feelings I have for him. I was in loved with him and I was afraid to lose him. But we never proceed to any higher level of our relationship. It's better to be Best Friend. I was afraid that someday, we might hurt each other and will ruin the friendship we had for each other. At least, we say what we feel towards each other.

i guess that is natural... i mean when you start to know a person really better and you know that person inside and out you tend to fall in love. thats a natural thing. but sometimes it makes the friendship in trouble. sometimes when you fall inlove with your bestfriend it does not work smoothly like when you are just friends. this happened to me already when i was a teen, but we are better friends than lovers. we are still friends up to this date.

very tough questions. the best situation is you also love your best friend and if he/she tell you this, it should be very lucky to you, you will get a happy life together. if not this, it's so bad, you should tell me not do this, i just want be your friend, best friend not others, in this situation, I think your friendship would be over...it's not easy to go on with your friendship again.

I would admire them for their honesty, but I would always be honest that I couldn't love him/her in way that is more than a friend. I once had been courted by a person whom I treated as my EXTENSION-BROTHER. I was not so delighted about it because the only thing I feel for him is a love for a brother. Until now, we haven't reallyspoken because he is also abroad but I guess we could be civil when we see each other. I ugess I was pretty immature at that time when he told his feelings to me and I also have a boyfriend so I guess I was pretty harsh when I turned him down.

this wud be the thoguhest thing to do for both of u. one hand ur best frnd loves u and on the other if u dont feel the same way u dont wanna loose a frnd b besides not hurt them either one shud rather talk such matters out and still be frnds as its not worth givin up a lifetime of friendship,yes it will be akward initially but then it will be fine eventually. u wud rather have ur best frnd in ur life rather than not have them at all

Had this experience before when I was in high school...he was a my male best friend then. I had crush on him before we became close, but never admitted to him because I don't want our budding friendship ruin. Until we became very close..i still know then that he is special to me just don't have the courage to tell him coz i'm a girl. but then, i fell in love with my boyfriend. When my bf and I broke up, i had a deep heart to heart talk with my bestfriend. He then told me that he was in love with me for two years! And he didn't have the courage to tell me coz he doesn't want to ruin our friendship. It was then that I admitted to him that I also HAD special feelings for him and he will always be special to me because he is my male bestfriend. However, I told him that it's impossible for the both of us to have relationship as a boyfriend & girlfriend other than being bestfriends because he has a girlfriend at that time, even if he admitted to me that he loves me more than his girlfriend! I don't want to hurt the feelings of the girl coz she is also my friend. We both accepted the fact that we were really not meant for each other as a couple. After our high school graduation, we parted ways...now i'm married to my loving husband for 10 years already! Last time that I saw him(bestfriend) was 5years ago..miss his company, though.

I would ask her if she bumped her head. Even if I were into women, she's too OCD for me. Would it effect the relationship? Probably.