Disagreements -- good or bad?

Disagreements are an inevitable reality of life and have nothing to do with the relationship to another person with whom we disagree. We are, each of us, uniquely individual in our thoughts, hopes, dreams, feelings, needs, desires, etc. No two people are ever going to agree on every single thing which is why maturity dictates we learn to agree to disagree.

Hello my friend In my experience if you are someone that has a mind of your own you will disagree with alot of people, I have this problem alot, even when I was younger, my mom is from the old school and tries to have us do things that worked for her years ago,I try to tell her times have changed people don't do these things anymore so we disagree all the time lol, she said I talk too much but thats o.k I have my own mind so say what you will but if I don't agree trust and believe I will let you know, Thank you my friend.

Well I think in a way it is human nature and that some disagreements can even be beneficial for relationships. However to much leads to anger, fighting ect., and that isnt good. I do think that the longer you are with someone and the better that you get to know them the less you tend to argue or disagree. I think some of the most agreements are over money. We used to argue all the time about money and bills. Then It got to where I realized we are doing all that we can to pay them and my hubby works hard, so as long as I do my best that is all I can do.

I think disagreeing w/family can cause alot of problems but i think the truth needs to come out when it needs to. I don't think hiding problems under the rug to keep someone from getting upset is thew solution to the problem.There are times when something needs to be said.

My mother always said that disagreements are a healthy sign of any kind of relationship! I truly believe her! We all can't have a one track mind! Life would be dull! Have a nice day PeacefulWmn and a nice weekend!

Disagreements are common. That's because nobody will generate the exact same idea as you at one point of time. Thus, disagreement comes by. However, it is good for generating a win-win solution because ideas are discussed and improved. Just try not to make disagreements into quarrels.

disagreement has never been good thing. it cause friction and of course lots and lots of fight actually. it has not done me at all. not one thing.

I believe disagreements are healthy for those who takes it as constructive as it can be. However, for those who can't take it positively, it's more likely to be a pain in the neck. So, before you disagree on something to someone, weigh it first if the person is up for it or not. You might save both of you from unpleasant situations. Up for it, calyxus

Hi! I think to much disagreeing is a bad thing. In my family the one thing that causes the most disagreements are my siblings thinking i need to pick sides between our parents. Our parents got a divorce 22 years ago, and to this day i have not nor will i choose a side. It has caused some really big disagreements between us, but in the end sometimes it works out and we go on. Sometimes it doesn't work out that way, but i never worry to much about it.

Most disagreements are caused by misunderstandings. That is, you disagree with someone not because you have a different opinion, but because you misunderstand the opinion of your friend. The first thing to keep in mind is that misunderstandings are unavoidable. The bad news is misunderstandings can become quarrels. The good news is that with awareness, you can change misunderstandings to understanding and acceptance, which will deepen your friendships. Why is misunderstanding inevitable? Well, it's got to do with the nature of casual communication. Let's say I'm among a circle of friends and wish to share an idea, and it's my turn to speak. The idea is completely clear in my mind, but to explain it in great detail is somewhat laborious. Besides, if my explanation is too long-winded, I'm apt to be cut off by a friend who is eager to jump into the discussion. So, to make my task less laborious and reduce the likelihood of being cut off in mid-sentence, what do I do? I abbreviate, shorten, and clip my ideas to get them out faster and easier. However, by reducing the details of my point, I unwittingly introduce vagueness and ambiguity. This lack of clarity leads to confusion and misunderstanding.

.....Hi PeacefulWmn9, Your name is great, disagreements between relatives happen in all different circumstances. Husbands and wives have disagreements over things related to the marriage, the house the children if there are any. Relatives disagree over parents or living arrangements or money if one wants to borrow from the other. Friends could disagree over something as simple as where each of them want to go to eat. But as people have said in the past, you probably should not start a conversation about religion or politics unless you want to release the most strident responses that some people can muster. It is great when people are able to respect the fact that other people can have a different opinion than they do and the world will not end. :o) Take it easy.

According to me disagreement is the key to express our views..it is a unique ability of humans....But disagreeing too much to our best friends ,shows that you are a failure in choosing the correct friend rather than its bad...The agreement or unity itself is the major symbol of friendship and understanding......................

I think disagreements in the family is normal and it has a good and bad effect. It's good when the communication between the members are good and they can accept their mistakes and learn from them. It's bad when no one wants or no one is humble enough to accept the mistake. One of the common disagreements I have encountered is budgeting family's money. I hope this helps.

Nice question disagreement good or bad. But let me tell you that it depends upon los of things. Its depend upon the situation. Human disagree only if they are in a situation which doesn't allow them or force them to disagree. Suppose you want your one of the friend to help you for something but he has to go to pick up his/her parents from Airport. Such situation can cause disagreement whether you are loved one or not. In my experience disagreement is always neutral thing. Neither good nor bad. Anything which a person never wants to do or never wants to be happen cause them more disagreement. Moreover in this world 2 equal and opposite things always exist for example ghost and angel, evil and God, Hell and Heaven. Similarly agree and disagree.

Hi Karen! I think when our ‘ego’ clashes with the other fellow, be it our partner, colleague or a friend, our minds tells us to ‘disagree’ with the other fellow. I think before giving our verdict about disagreeing with an issue, we should think from all angles and we should ponder rationally to see what is in the overall interest of the ‘given situation’. Keeping aside our ‘ego’, we should agree with others and should not think that by agreeing, we have surrendered to the other fellow.

there is a merit in having disagreements. in this way, one can learn and know more of the person/partner. a relationship is not always a cloud-nine feeling. there will be arguments and disagreements. these are able to show the values and thoughts of one's partner. after disagreeing, partners may feel closer because they are able to unload and settle their differences if the disagreements end in good terms. still, i like disagreements from time to time to challenge the familiarity and comfort of the relationship.

hi,Karen.in my opinion that disagreeing with loved ones is a good things.everyone has a different views at the same thing.then we can share our opinions and discuss it if it is necessary.we will understand each other better.so why not share our ideas to the one you loved.have a good day!

it is never good to have disagreements but it is the one way you can exert your point if your decision is not honored. what causes it? i guess its pride. happy mylotting. ann

i think on the whole it's a good thing. i've noticed that some people can be easily influenced and take up the views of people they are close to. disagreements tend to indicate that they are thinking for themselves. however it can go too far the other way... will come back when i actually have a proper opinion on this...[dense and arrogant british rabbit hops off]

As you say disagreement once in a while is normal. Disagreeing a lot may be a cry for help. The person who does that is trying to draw attention as he or she may be feeling lonely. A righteous approach to an issue can also trigger a disagreeing bout.