How to manage to be a mom?
By janedell
@jndlponti (2402)
Philippines
September 25, 2009 3:48am CST
I was a career woman and when I got married gave up my job just to be a full time mom..I did not regret on my choice to give up my job.I enjoyed my time with my daughter that makes us very much attach to each other..But later my husband and I realized that if we depend on just his income it would be just be very enough for our bills and food, we could not even spare for a savings. So I was thinking of working again as a teacher to add on our monthly income, but these would also mean that I would be leaving my 1 year old child at home with a nanny.I feel so guilty just by thinking of the fact that my child will be crying out my name at home, looking for me, while I am out attending other children...What do you think should I do?
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4 responses
@lilhyppo (47)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 09
jndlponti, I am in the same dilemma as you. I gave up a good paying job just so that I can be a fulltime mum to my baby. But I will have to start working soon as I have bills to pay and being a single parent, I must start to save some money for my baby's future. But really, it's so hard to even think that they will be crying for us when we are not around.
I am going to tell myself, that 1 day when she needs to attend pre-school, she will also keep on crying and looking for me. And I am leaving her with someone who can take care of her so that I can earn some money and it's for her good too... That's what I am gonna do but I'm not sure if I will back out last minute.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
I hope you could also find some ways to earn money without leaving your child..but it's still you who will do the final discission. Thanks a lot for sharing
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
26 Sep 09
Just be yourself and give your share and care to your child and family and everything will turn out to be alright yea .
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
For many years now of being a working mom I think I have already adjusted to being in the situation. Though my child is really close to her dad so much than to be it's still okay, since later she would understand my situation.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
25 Sep 09
Hi jindlponti,
I am a working woman so I can understand your feelings in an easier manner. Your daughter is one year old now and if you can manage one more year then I don’t think it will be much problem and you can appoint a servant before one month so that your daughter will be comfortable with the servant before you join the job. I don’t know the situation in your country, if you can do some work from home and support your family in that way you can spend time for your little daughter too. As she grows the expenditure is also grow so it is natural your thinking to earn something for a better income. Discuss the same with your hubby and he can help you to take a wise decision without hurting your daughter’s feelings.
@onlinerep01 (490)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Hello,
That is wonderful that you are home with your daughter, this one of the times she needs her mommy the most , you can always get a work at home job, or put your handmade crafts to the test, people love things that are handmade, you can try to also sell some things that you are no longer in need of , and sell them on Ebay, if you need any additional help just send me a private message here on mY Lot.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
thanks a lot for that offer... maybe I could do those things any days by now... I would keep in touch with you whenever I needed help with those bargain sale of not used things.
