help, i can't stop being angry

Hello I get that from my mom, she yells all the time I grew up with it and became a yeller myself it sucks, my grandson hates when I yell,I taught myself to calm down, I look at his face and make myself relax, i feel bad and its so not worth it, you have to get control and make yourself not do this, keep telling yourself how bad it is, remind yourself of the question your son asked you, yelling is annoying and no one want to hear it, we can get our point across by talking calm, in time to will see a difference, remind yourself yelling is bad, calm is good. Thank you.

Aaw, maybe you are depressed? Sounds very possible, have you spoken to your doctor about this? Please do, he will be able to help, and calm you down.

Take a very close look at what else is going on in your life. Any child that age can be a trial but of course they are just being a child. You may be angry at your circumstance or feel something is not right in your world and your son only adds to that by being what he is suppose to be. A child. If you are able to determine what is stressing you out it will go along way to help control your temper with your son. But you must get to the bottom of it. My son at that age really got on my nerves at times and while I didn't yell at him my anger would come out in other ways. Often as I think back I would talk to my wife about how I felt knowing that he more than likely could hear me. This was much the same as you feel like you are treating him as an adult who will know that you are mad and that there really isn't anything wrong with him. It had it's effect. He is now 40 years old and a pretty passive man. Very nice guy but he will let almost anyone run over him. He may get some of that from me the rest I fear came from the comments I could not control. You can do something about that now. You must do something because it can have an effect on him later in life. If you need to take an anger management class, do it. You may find exactly what is causing your stress and allow you to give your son, and yourself, the break you both need.

Hey! Relax! It happens to all of us. You are just reacting to loneliness. You had your son for company for four years and suddenly he is at school and you are alone and don't know what to do. Use this opportunity to rejuvenate yourself. Keep busy to tone up physically and mentally. I know most women ignore their wellbeing in early parenthood. It is time you made up for the lost time. You need to feel good and happy for yourself. Once you do this you cannot even think of yelling at your son. I am sure you will have a wonderful life.