what will you do if your ex comeback and you already have new.

This case is definitely a critical one. Let me explain my views. One for sure I can tell you that you are not much in love with you ex as you have suddenly fallen in love with some other guy. If you had really loved your ex no matter what you would have waited a longer time than you mentioned. Just let your ex know about everything happened and come to a conclusion. I hope after knowing this, he will seldom accept you.

That is really complicated if you are marriage with the guy. But if you are not bind with your ex this is not a problem, my friend. Just choose who you feel much heavier in your heart...That is my suggestions, my friend. I hope this will give you an idea, to resolve your problems...Have a nice day!

love is a feeling that binds the seperated together and its tested when they are seperated and if another replaces then the other should be happy to be departred cherishing those moments of togetherness and relishing those feelings and still loving her from a distant to ensure she is happy and then as the days goes by she might start missing those or may have found the other better as what happens happens for good n thats the way it is cheers folks have a great autumn festive days ahead

Hello homeshoppers, Try to reflect on your situation and the feelings you have on both man. On the second man, do you love him and willing to accept every thing about him even if he has flaws? Or you just love him because he was there when you were so down while your ex was gone? You might be confused with your feelings on the second one, it might be a more of a companionship or friendship that's why you are so happy with him. Aside from the fact you are entertaining the thought of going back to your ex, means the love you feel with the second guy is not enough. Try to talk to your ex also, that if ever you will give him a second chance, that would be his last and hopefully you will stay together for good. I wish you luck!

Why your ex left you without a word in the first place? Did you ever wish he would come back? If yes, I think you should have waited longer before you are getting involved with this new guy. Every person in the world would feel blessed if they have found their soul mates. You love your ex, but do you think he can make you happy like the new guy? Personally, I would choose the one who makes me happy, what's more if I have the intuition that he is my soul mate. Take sometime alone for yourself, and think of all the possibilities, who you can live with and who you can't live without. It is not my place to decide, but I hope you will find happiness in whoever you choose to be with...

If the guy you say is your soul mate really is your soul mate you should love him too. You should think about the two relationships, which one makes you the most happy? Which one is likely to work out and what problems do each of them have and think about whether they are things that can be worked out or will keep coming up again and again. Also are you prepared to lose the soul mate forever?

hello homeshoppers, just fine to go back to your ex if you still love him. if you really think that his reason is valid, i think everybody deserves a second chance. your new guy will understand. anyway, you did not answer him yet, right? you are just enjoying each others company.

I think girls should be smart when in love. You may have to ask yourself which one your love best, and whether he deserves your love. after you know this, can you make the right decision one this issue.

From the grand old age of 48, I've been there,done that and bought the t-shirt shop. The "if you love something set it free option"; that's nice. But I've found from experiences of mine and MANY friends. That if they leave once to check out greener pasters. THEY'LL GO AGAIN. And soon all you'll be is the fall back person. Even worse than second best. You're just the comfortable position when the others don't pan out.

Hello If you say he left you without a word, then I would think twice, what happens if he decide to do this again, he did not care about your feelings when he took off, how could he be so heartless, if he was not held prisoner with no means of communication, or laying in a hospital bed with tubes down his throat, I would continue with this new found relationship 2 months is a long time to wonder what is going on,and to not hear a word, he has to know this is not o.k maybe he heard about your new love and wants to come back to see if he is able to win your heart again, I would be really careful, what he did was wrong, he sounds like an accident waiting to happen. Thank you.

It really depends on the situation. I your case I think you should choose the one who came back. The saying "If you love someone then set them free and if he comes back then he's truly yours" is not applicable for everyone. I was caught in this kind of situation recently. Here's how the story goes; I had a girlfriend years ago, she was my first love, and I left her, she waited for me. I found a new love but then later realize she was the one my heart yearns for. I came back and found that she had moved on and found a new guy, she chose the guy over me. It was hard but I learned to move on and found that the girl I left was still waiting for me. I didn't came back at once because that wouldn't be very good I would only cause her so much pain. When I saw someone approaching her I felt jealous and realized that I was stupid. I courted her again and vowed to never leave her again, I was glad she accepted me. Now the girl, who had chosen the other guy over me, comes knocking on my door again and said that she had made a mistake choosing the other guy. Instead of hugging her and be glad she came back, I just offered my friendship. Hope my story helped you:)

choose what your heart says. to be with someone love should be a major ingredient of that. when you are with the one you love nothing can be compared of the happiness once you find it. a soulmate doesn't always the one we love.

Hi Home.. Go on with your life with your new partner. During the time that you need your ex, he was not there for you. Not even a call to console your worries on his whereabouts. That would do injustice to your new one if you will go back to your former partner just because he comes back with out notice. I think before you accept your new lover, you have already got over with your past. Do not ruin your new relationship. It will be complicated once you give in to your former partner..

I think you should choose you ex one...

Hmmm....I think that the one that you love and the one that is your soulmate should really be one and the same. This guy left you for 2 months. He may have a valid excuse but I would have to hear what it is to agree that he did not in that length of time have access to a phone or a computer to let you know why he disappeared. Most guys that really love you won't just up and disappear like that and ironically show back up just when you've finally began to move on. I guess I would need more info to really answer this any deeper. I am kind of feeling bad for this new guy. This is a classic example of why one should give plenty of time and space in between relationships before moving on to someone else. You sound confused and this new guy is going to pay the price. Sorry you are going thru this. Hope you make the right choice.

Well you don't say why the ex disappeared but I would have to go with the guy who makes me happy and is my soulmate. Who is to say the ex won't do this again and leave you wondering what is going on. I rather be happy then deal with worrying that he would disappear again. Good luck to you in your decision.

A recent study by psychologists found that, with only one expcetion, everyone in their top 10 percent of extremely happy people was in a romantic relationship. Another revealing fact is that 40 percent of married Americans say that they are extremely happy, while only 23 percent of Americans who have not yet married claim the same. Finding the right partener is a ticket to happiness for many people. Yet the time, effort, and intelligence that we devote to finding a mate is ofter very limited. Most romances still spring from the local neighborhood, a samll circle of friends, or colleagues at work. And many people follow the "but stop" approach to love. They take the first lover who comes alongs.

Hi, I think what you need now is time and consideration to clear who is the one you really love and you can be with him, instead of instantaneous happiness. After all, the relation between you and the new guy is just beginning such that there are sth curious and green. meanwhile, you should get your ex know what you think now, make hime know his leave without a word brings you problems and you've met a new one who makes you happy so that you need time to consider, while he'll think about it too. Best wishes!

the only bad thing about taking ur ex back.. is that what if he desides to do this again run off... are u suppose to stop ur life just because he desides that he wants u back...u need to be with the one that makes u happy and the one that is ur soul mate....like they say everyones soul mate is out there...... just do what ur heart is telling u. you'll make the right choice...

then simple for me ...il choose the one that i love most...just be true to your feelings then you can find peace and happiness in your feelings..:)...