Favorirtism is expected in every family!
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
September 25, 2009 7:03am CST
Once,I've watched a television talked show and they talked about favoritism in a family. And all mothers admit that they have favorite child, they can't helped it. There's always someone who's more close to their heart. Someone who stands out and caught their affection. But it doesn't mean that they love their other children less.
Like my mom, she always told me that she love us equally, but I could feel it and experienced sometime, she loves my older sister more because she's has my mom's face and attitude and I'm more like my dad. It was quite difficult for me to accept at first. But it was okay!
How about you, do you have any favoritism in your family? Do you think it is good or not? Do you believe that there's always favoritism in every family?
3 responses
@tvb2009 (237)
• Singapore
25 Sep 09
My mum told me the same thing too. However, there are times when i feel that favoritism takes place too. I cannot and don't blame anyone. All i can do and have been doing is to do my best in everything i do. And hopefully, make my parents proud of who i am.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
Yeah, it's all happened in every family, there's always favoritism, and you're right, it's better to do our best and make them proud. I think that's the best thing we can do in our family, especially if we're not the one who is favorite.LOL
Anyway thank you for sharing with us tvb and have a great weekends!
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Hello 
Favoritism is wrong, I am not saying you should be mad at your parent for doing this, but parents need to know this is wrong, I like how you are able to handle such things but wrong is wrong, what give any parent the right to treat one better than the other, if the child does not have health issues which require a little more time spent then there is no excuse for this at all, my mom seems to favor my sister although it pisses me off at times, I feel she does this because my sister is the weakest of the four, yet I still told my mom instead of helping her you make things worse, she will never learn to stand on her own as long as she has you to make things easier for her.
Thank you.
Favoritism is wrong, I am not saying you should be mad at your parent for doing this, but parents need to know this is wrong, I like how you are able to handle such things but wrong is wrong, what give any parent the right to treat one better than the other, if the child does not have health issues which require a little more time spent then there is no excuse for this at all, my mom seems to favor my sister although it pisses me off at times, I feel she does this because my sister is the weakest of the four, yet I still told my mom instead of helping her you make things worse, she will never learn to stand on her own as long as she has you to make things easier for her.
Thank you.
@stevelvis (394)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
My mother doesn't want us to feel that there is favoritism in the family. But she lacks effort to convince me that she gives more favor to my youngest brother. I tried to understand them as much as I can but sometimes it's too much when we feel she is being abused. She would sermon my brother when he does something bad without her permission like drinking late at night with friends. He gets financial allowance in spite of no intention to find a job for his wife and baby. I had always told her not to tolerate his ways by giving financial allowance because he will not learn to be self supporting especially now he has a son. Financial aid is different from regular financial allowance.
I believe she loves all of us and it's hard to balance her attention since we are seven children but I try to shut my mouth sometimes because most of the time me and my brother end up fighting.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
I have also known someone who has the same situation as your brother. He has her own family but still depend on his parents and so other siblings get angry since it's not their parents responsibility to support their brother in financial needs, since he's already married. So thought of favoritism arises.
Even If I were in your situation I would not tolerate that kind of brother. He needs to stand on his own since he has his own family and child. Giving is not way of helping him, it's on teaching him to to live and earned.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us stevelvis, and have a great day!
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Hello my friend
I know people do this,when I see it I speak up,this really sucks,there are so many things to favor in this world, why do this with your children, these parents don't realize the impact this can have on a child, how dare you treat her better than me, this really stinks, I knew someone that did this and I told her about it, she said she did not realize she was doing that, not sure how true that was, she did change so I guess there is a chance she was not aware, I only have 1 but if my daughter has another child and she did this, I will put a stop to it quick.
My sister does this, and she stinks as a parent on a good day, so to show favortism to one is worse in her case, thank god my niece has us to make up for the love she is not getting from her mom, this is really sad,any parent that does this should be ashamed of themselves 
What a great discussion this is something that happens and people should be more aware of their actions.
Thank you for this my friend. hope many people read this discussion.
I know people do this,when I see it I speak up,this really sucks,there are so many things to favor in this world, why do this with your children, these parents don't realize the impact this can have on a child, how dare you treat her better than me, this really stinks, I knew someone that did this and I told her about it, she said she did not realize she was doing that, not sure how true that was, she did change so I guess there is a chance she was not aware, I only have 1 but if my daughter has another child and she did this, I will put a stop to it quick.
My sister does this, and she stinks as a parent on a good day, so to show favortism to one is worse in her case, thank god my niece has us to make up for the love she is not getting from her mom, this is really sad,any parent that does this should be ashamed of themselves
What a great discussion this is something that happens and people should be more aware of their actions.
Thank you for this my friend. hope many people read this discussion.