how to tell if its really love

September 25, 2009 7:22am CST
i had been in a relationship for how many times but still i really can't tell if it is really love. everytime i met a guy i would always say im inlove but the truth is im not sure. when i was a little younger my definition of love was very shallow. i considered all my crushes as my love ones. im more on to physical appearance than attitude. there was one time that i really did like someone despite of his flaws. he was a chick magnet and worst an addict. but that really did matter to me. good thing my perspective change.
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9 responses
• Malaysia
26 Sep 09
Well, love has something to do with affection. It has something to do with concern. It has something to do with care. If you feel all these three aspects all at one go, it is likely a potential love affair, if both sides feel the same way about it. If not, it is a straight one-way street to no where or into an annex with no hope at all for both parties.Yes, we all have crushes for someone when at a very tender age. It will be a passing fad.
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@evoshen (15)
• China
26 Sep 09
what is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind.Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love.But no one can give the proper definition of love.To somelove is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it.No matter how you defne it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind. Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with you matter of affection.
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• United States
25 Sep 09
Usually you would know if you were in love or not, especially if you've been seeing a guy for a while. And if you are unsure if you even consider yourself being 'involved' then, that's a big sign right there. Deep down, you know if you are in love or not. And maybe that fact that you're saying you don't know, is your answer. Maybe you just dont want to say goodbye.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
why should you lie to yourself that love somebody when in fact you're not? i think you're really not that ready to be in a serious relationship. you're not in love with them that's why you won't feel any negative feeling during break ups. it wouldn't be fair on the guy's part if you'll let him expect for nothing and make him believe that your love for him is true... :(
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• China
26 Sep 09
What is the really love? I think many people have the same feeling like you . We want to stay at his side doing the usual thing with him, but felt so happy! I think it is really love as long as you are blessed with him.
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• India
26 Sep 09
If you are really in love, believe me, you will know. It is not just infatuation and not just momentary dreams of spending sometime with this person. You would want to spend your entire life with such a person. It is a huge commitment and you will find your inner self will tell you without any doubt when you meet the right person. Listen to your inner self, analyse what you see in the other person and just think whether you want to spend your entire life with him or her. Good luck!
@kid221 (150)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
Hi Cute.. Love is an unconditional feeling of commitment to take care and devoted to your partner. Being in love is not always determine by physical attraction but how will you perform your deeds for someone you love. Your feeling right now might be infatuation to that person. He has such a strong physical attributes that you like most and makes you wanting to catch sight everyday. Where's the love in this situation? Do not deceive yourself that you're madly in love with him. Love and be loved..
• China
26 Sep 09
I don't know if my opinion is right, but I really think that if you love a person, you will accept whatever shortcomings he has and with the time passing by, you will find that there are more and more advantages he has. I think love is a kind of tolerance. It makes you mature and know the life better. If you really like a person, please be cautious and see whether this kind of like is love.
@riyasbass (118)
• India
26 Sep 09
It is appritiatable that in this world atleast som are bevare of attitude of people ...in my area beauty costs every thing...The real love is somethhing which originate from heart...you can understand the depth of love only when you lost your love...If it is just a love for name sake it will not yield any emmotions in you..(i think the same is happening with you...)..BUT IF YOU WERE ONCE IN A REAL LOVE AND LOST IT THEN YOU WILL NEVER BE WILLING TO LOVE ANOTHER ONE ,,, YOU WILL FIND NOTHING TO REPLACE...