Wanting peoples' opinions
By julier05
@julier05 (26)
United States
September 25, 2009 12:09pm CST
Okay, I found out after I married my husband that he is alcoholic. Since I found out it has been one heck of a ride of ups and downs. For 14 1/2 months he stayed sober. Then in the past 4 months he has admitted to about a dozen drinks. Before he got sober he almost lost his job because of things that happened there. Last night I had to go bail him out of jail. The police were extremely nice and only charged him with drinking in public. But he was in a park in our vehicle the vehicle was parked. The officer said he actually could have been charged with DUI. Now, when my husband has been sober he has been wonderful but then he goes and does stuff like this. There were other things that he did when he was drinking before that almost tore us apart too. I guess I just thought I was beginning to see a light at the end of the tunnel while he was sober. Was I being delusional? I don't know. I don't want him to drag me down with him more than he has if he has not hit rock bottom yet. So, I guess my real question for people would be when would you say enough is enough?
2 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
30 Sep 09
Only you can decide when enough is enough but I'm glad to see that you're wise enough to realize that your husband's problem will drag you down, too. Even though he is able to stay sober for some periods of time, as his disease progresses, he will find it harder to stay sober even for a short time. He needs a program...AA...or counseling of some kind. He needs tools to help him to stay sober if that's what he wants. He very well might not. Don't fall for excuses. Expect him to do whatever is necessary in order to stay sober and to stick with it. Good luck to you.
@globalstar (6)
• Nigeria
26 Sep 09
Julier, in a relationship, one does not say "farewell". No matter what happen, you must remember that very day when you both sworn to love each other for ever saying "FOR BETTER FOR WORST, FOR RICHER OR FOR POORER, IN HEALTH OR IN SICKNESS, FOREVER DO US PART". Those are strongs words you both said on your wedding day. But now that the situation is getting you frustrated, I think you must look at the situation very closely and see how you can be of help. I am sure your husband never told you of his drinking habit basically because he knew you won't agree to it; but because he loves you and never wanted to lose you, he kept it secretly. Well, its a pity that the world we live is so dimm that one finds it difficult to see things the right way. Now that the road btw you and your husband seems rough, he needs you most. BE THERE FOR HIM! NEVER SAY DIE AND DO NOT EVEN THINK OF SAYING ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. INSTEAD, CHANGE HIM..... Wishing you best of luck.
