Being the eldest sister

I am also the eldest sister among four siblings. There are ten years between me and my youngest sibling. She happens to be my only sister and my best friend. When she was growing up, people used to think she was my daughter. Sometimes it was funny and sometimes it wasn't. As for your situation, it can never be too late to learn to do things for yourself. Don't feel guilty about the things you've done for your sister. Just guide her in how to some of these things for herself. She will thank you for it in the end. Good luck to you both!

its never too late my friend, it really not true what she claims that she don't know how to do things. as old as 21 that is such a lame reason that she just use to you so she can get away with her responsiblilities. Then next time she gives you this reason tell her that you will teach her and do it and tell her that next time she will do it since you already teached her how. You need to talk to her and set some rule, and this time you need to be firm cause if you keep on giving into her it will become a hopeless case.

Well I am the eldest of three siblings too and I always used to say that my little brother should learn to do things on his own .My smallest sibling my little sister was so competent at her chores ,it was amazing while my older brother was almost a cripple when it came to doing any chores.My motehr at the time thought I idnt liek him but I was just concered ,he eventually turned out well I must say

Well I am not the oldest I am actully right in the middle with my twin. There are 8 od us kids the range of numbers of us kids goes 25,24,21,18,18,17,14,and 2. I am one of the 18 year olds. I am very prtective of my younger siblings expecially the youngest one put growing up I realized that she dose have to do some things on her own her she will be like my 17 year old sister. Becouse the older ones always protected her her. That is why I relized that I have to let the youngest sibling do things for herself. Becouse I am going to want her to be a strong independent women and my mom and dad told me that if I did everything for her she ould end up like the 17 year old. But it is never to late to teach someone new things. It is just like teaching one of your kids just they are bigger and will give a little more attatude lol. I hope this helps with your problem.

Being the eldest sister, it's very hassle. But so far, I'd cope it. My brother always disturb me with his stupid teasing and stuff. I hate it when he do that but i have no choice. My brother is just a year younger than me and he still acts like a child. well, I do too but not like him. My brother and I doesn't do chores so, I dont know. Haha

I also am the eldest of 3. My baby sister was born when I was 14 years old. She grew up to be a spoiled self centered person. For a very long time I blamed myself and my parents for giving her anything she ever asked for, but as time has gone on and she has finally started growing up (she's 25 now), we've realized that it's just her personality to be self centered. I think that anyone can learn at any time as long as they are open to learning. (did that make sense?) She has to realize that you won't be there to hold her hand and take care of her forever, and unless she has a LOT of money to hire a personal servant, she's gonna have to learn to take care of herself.

I agree that we make our youngsters more dependent onus or rather lazy. I bit different from you in this case as I never help my sister in any work as i want her to do her work on her own.I want her to be independent for any kind of work and want her to active which she is not.She even do not take a galss of wwater when needed. and nothing can work now as she never listens to me ,even being younger than me .

No, it is not too late. I know we love them but we aren't doing them any favors when we do everything for them. If they can not take care of themselves, then who will take care of them if something should happen to you? In the beginning she may not want to learn but if you are patient and loving, as it sounds like you already are with her, then she will eventually want to learn and love doing for herself. I guess that one day she may want her own family and they will need for her to help take care of them.

Be patience, sooner or later she will know her responsibility if she start has a couple or husband someday