The choice you have to make...

Hi, Envy! I respect your choice. As for me, during that time, after weighing the pros and cons, I was thinking positively that there were always better opportunities else where. I would rather let down the employer who I have just met than to miss the important moments of the sister I grew up with. It made me realized that it was not all about the expenses I have spent, but the choice I made. Each choice I made would change the future. After a couple of months, I secured another job and guess what?? I met the man who's destined to be my husband at my new working place.

Hi, Dove! I love the quote, it's quite inspiring. I know how important a job is, going through so many stages of interviews, so, I did not reject the offer just like that. I did try and I was glad that I chose the latter.

Hi, Dream! Yes, most employers prefer us to be honest and tell them straight to the point that we have other plans and unable to start immediately, and they are very understanding. Unfortunately, in the situation I encountered before, the person-in-charge was not one of them.

Oh, actually, this has happened to me a few years back. I just wanted to know other people's thoughts on this kind of situation. I so agree with your response about being regretful of not attending such an important event of one of my family members.

Hi, Laurie! I am not in this current situation actually, but I have faced it before and I would love to hear the opinions from others should they have to make a choice between those two. I love your response and that what I exactly did. I was offered the job immediately by one of the 'Directors'. I told her about the pre-paid trip, but she has shown no interest in fact she asked me to make a cancellation as she has other candidates to consider. I said I would think about it. A week before the trip, I did come for one day to see if I could cope with the environment, but I was still not happy. Well, actually, half day because during lunch time, I went to see her right away and told her what I felt and had to reject the offer. I thought she would respect my choice, but she clearly said that she was sooo disappointed in me! Looking back, I was glad I made the right choice.

Hi, DC! Well, I was in this situation a few years ago, so swine flu definitely was not a good excuse. Seriously, it's good to share and hear some people's thoughts on issues like this. I did just what you have said, asked for some considerations if I could start a week later, but the employer was not being understanding with my situation. She even said that I could make the cancellations otherwise the place would be given to somebody else, but after weighing the pros and cons and not feel happy about it, I went for the graduation, which I have no regrets at all. Anyway, frankly speaking, I don't like the idea of cheating especially mocking my state of health, and swine flu?? Everybody is hoping and praying that this plague would over, you know...

No worries on my side, Dranz. I was not offended, but some people might especially the families of the victims.

Hi Crystal, I guess we don't take it that seriously over here anymore. In the beginning it worried me, but then all the reports were that people were recovering, and now it has vanished off the radar completely. Even at a family gathering my aunt was joking like I did here so I guess I figured it was okay . Sorry if I offended you with this, and I hope the graduation is very enjoyable Dranz