Does time help?

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Hello again friends. I am in a situation where I have discovered that my ex is my love. I can't imagine myself with out her. She broke up with me for obvious reasons but said that we would be getting back together once she cleared her mind. However, in my anger, I said some hurtful things to her and as a result she said that she could never forgive me and that we could not get back together. I want to show her that I didn't mean what I said. But it seems as though the more I try and show her that I care, the more she doesn't want me back. Many of my close female friends have told me that I have to give her time. So this what I have done. I went two days with out talking to her and I've already realized on reason why I want her back. "I could always talk to her about the stresses in my life and she would always listen," is what I've learned. I miss her every day. But the point is that on the third day she called me. She lets me know about her friend who buys her food, and is basically taking care of her. She has told me in the passed the she doesn't want him, and even he himself has informed me that she doesn't want him a couple days ago. Even still, when we broke up she started drinking, and she lets me know of these occasions, I truly hate this about her. But I let her know that I couldn't do anything about it(I told her in a calm way and she agreed). But her reactions are not the same any more, it's almost as if she is wanting to feel her pain. I try to act as though it doesn't bother me, because my close advisors tell thats what I should do. But for some reason I feel as though she is trying to send me some sort of sigh, as women often do. But I'm incredibly confused. Every day I know that she is with him, she is hurting herself, but what can I do? She's not my baby any more(Yes I am a guy). When we where together I did what ever I could to protect her, but now I don't know what I can do to keep her safe. Even still, she's acting as though she doesn't want to be kept safe. To be honest though, I think that giving her time may be helping the situation. But I don't know how long to give. I love her to much to keep letting her hurt herself. I need experianced advice. DON'T GIVE ADVICE ON HOW TO LET HER GO. PLEASE, THAT'S NOT WHAT I'M ASKING. Thanks Guys.