She's done stuff with other guys, what do I do?
By bbpstudios
@bbpstudios (320)
United States
September 27, 2009 1:24pm CST
hey guys, it's me again. I recently found out that my ex has done stuff with another guy. What do I do, how do I react. Do I let it go. I love her to death. And I don't know what to do. I'm hurt. I think I should let her go.
7 responses
@loganirado (249)
• Brazil
27 Sep 09
Why you let your relationship end if you loved and still love this person?
@bbpstudios (320)
• United States
27 Sep 09
She wanted to take some time off, but she said that she would want to get back together when she had some time to clear her head. I got mad at her and said some things that she wont forgive me for. So she said that she didn't want me back because of what I said to her.
@loganirado (249)
• Brazil
27 Sep 09
OMG, and you are still concerned about the things she does and criticizing her acts? You have already let her go on the moment you said those horrible things to her. There is no turning back from my point of view.
@ashimseye (9)
• India
28 Sep 09
be cool did she confide or you came to know otherway look ahead and thigs going to shape as moments pass by it will show you the way to your desicion cheers
@ashimseye (9)
• India
30 Sep 09
HI! FOLKS IF YOU ARE A STRONG LOVER THEN SHE WILL COME TO YOU MAY BE SHE IS IN RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU BUT PHYSIOLOGICAL NEEDS ARE NOT FULFILLED AS THE SAYING GOES THE RELATIONSHIP TURNS BETTER IF A CASUAL DATING DONE BY A PARTNER THATS WHY PARTYING ARE NECESSAR THAT HELPS IN BETTER BONDING THE POSSITIVE SIDE I MEAN CHEERS MAtE I AM WITH HER FOR HER BOLDNESS SHE DOES,NT HIDE CHEeRS MATE for the ensuing autumn festive moments try to be a bold lover
@bbpstudios (320)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I wanted to know if she did or not, I sent her the following message -
"Hey jay, I have a question, I just need to know for me... have you been in a relationship or have you done anything with another guy?"
Her response was -
"I have not been in a relationship, yes I have done stuff with another guy."
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I can understand this and I sympathize with you. Sounds like she is confused and doesn't know what she wants. I've seen some girl intentionally provoke a fight so they can walk away from the relationship with a clear conscience. Sad, but true.
That she said she needed to clear her head? I"m sorry I don't buy that. If she is out messing around with other guys then she still doesn't know what she wants and she doesn't know how to clear her own head.
Personally, I think she is immature. People who jump out of a relationship to jump back into one is saying they are lost and just trying to replace or bury whatever feelings they have. She might not be ready for a commitment, she might not understand how much you really care of her, your whole relationship migh also have been one sided where you cared for her and she didn't for you.
It's hard call there trying to figure it out. Personally, if she is out there with other guys though, sounds like you need to move on. She clearly doesn't know what she wants and if she has to sleep around to find it - well, is that really something you want to be attached to?
I think you need to look long and hard at what you had and what she is doing now and rethink if this is really a long time relationship or was she just passing time with you till something better came along. Sorry a bit crude, but I've seen it before.
@bbpstudios (320)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Wow... That's a bit harsh, but I understand you. She was the best female in my life when we where together, that's why it's so hard to just let her go. But She does seem to be a bit immature right now. So yes, I think that you may just be right friend.
@fruitcakeliz (2638)
• United States
27 Sep 09
If she wanted time off, then you should give it to her, and not judge her for the actions she took during this break. There is still the possibility that i the future she will want to sit down with you and talk about your relationship. I think you would be better to let her go for now. Sitting around obsessing over her, and what she is doing is not helping you, or any possibility of a future relationship re-hash.
And look at it this way, at least she waited until you two weren't together before she hooked up with someone else. She gave you at least that in the terms of respect. Her feelings about wanting to take time off didn't come in the blink of an eye, and if she had been feeling this way for a while (which i am sure she was, as girls tend not to make descisions like this overnight) she could have just gone out and cheated on you while you were still together, then come to you and said she wanted a break.
@bbpstudios (320)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hm, as painful as that sounds, I see what you mean, and I agree friend.
@nenaandtrey (223)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Let go and move on life is too short to sit back and wait on anyone.
There are more fish in sea. I would not talk to her because all that does is make you think of her. She knows this she's playing with heart. So i would say use your head (not the one between yuour legs either) move on and get yourself a real Lady.
@bbpstudios (320)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hmm, I understand what you mean friend. But that may just be the most hurtful response of them all though. LOL...
@bbpstudios (320)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Hm, to be honest, when I think about this with her, It makes me less attracted.
@princess07031980 (5412)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Wait-she is your ex? If you guys are over, the you can't let these things bother you. You have to let it go, or you will find yourself going insane.
@bbpstudios (320)
• United States
28 Sep 09
um... okay, a little vague, but I see what you're saying.