quiet persons: harmful or harmless?

Hi janebeth.. I'm quite type of person. I am very observant because I don't really want to hurt the feelings of the people around me. But sometimes others thing that I'm so hard to approach. Maybe they are afraid also hehe. But I can say that in my case I am a quite type of person but harmless. hehehe

i don't see any problem to this. everybody has a right to marry one person. i can also say that she's lucky that she gets pregnant with a man and not getting involved with the same gender or something. at least she proves herself that she is capable of having a baby. well, it's just that unfortunate that she might be too young to raise a family. i hope she will be a good mother and wife.

Well it happens in a number of times. Those who are quiet have been the most flirtatious in the end. Well of course in fairness, not all all quiet persons do the same anyway. But I also have classmates in college who are really very quiet, very dainty and were comparatively well behaved but they were the first ones who got married even without having finished college!

World is a big stage. Here we find all types of characters playing their part of life. Some are very extrovert and some are very introvert. Feelings are displayed in so many ways. So nothing wrong as long as it ends on a happy note.

I guess it depends. But I have experienced the same thing with my shy and quiet type friends and classmates before. It is really something shocking to know that a very quiet person will suddenly get married. I haven't seen anyone, say guys with that friend too.And yes, her reason for getting married is that she's pregnant. Well, as they say, it's a trend nowadays, especially here in our country. I think we should be careful for those quiet type people as you cant really determine whether they are harmless of harmful. Also, I hope that people won't judge those liberated and show off ones.

it depends. there are quiet people who really are quiet because they do not have anything to say or they are shy around people. some are quiet because they are too preoccupied with their problems and thoughts that they do not participate in the conversation. being quiet is not synonymous to being prim and proper or whatever. being quiet is not synonymous to being nice and kind. being quiet is not synonymous to being able to make good decisions and wise judgments. being quiet is just about not making loud noises, talking a lot or something like that.

I believe that people change with time; and some don't. Some quiet people are extremely nice, while some have their own agendas. I don't judge over-friendly or too quiet ones, and I basically take it from the top; with no expectations. I believe anybody can be anything; like behavior wise and stuff like that, and it is basically about the type of people we surround ourselves with and whether we can be influenced readily or not. If I were you, I'd be surprised too; in fact, I was surprised to find some of my old school-mates married and having 2-3 kids, when in school, they were the ones whom were single and did not have any indication to settle down.

This is a very good question because quietness can hide a lot of things especially among the emotionally disturbed community. When somebody is attepmting to do something wrong they also tend to be quiet in order to lull others into a lax attitude to give them a better chance. Remember - " still waters run deep. " There was once a very quiet co-worker of mine years and years ago who tried to assault me once when he was drunk. Watch this.

I do not think that a quiet person can never indulge into any wrong doings.It is just that they do not want to share their lives with anybody ,however close he may be.She has got pregnant with one guy and getting married with another is a testimony that she is quiet but clever too.

[i]Hello janebeth, see not all quite people are harmfull.Your friend as you say may be quite because she is into many troubles, i am a quite person too but i can firmly say i am not harmfull.And in what way she is harmfull then?because she loved someone and now pregnant before marriage, i think she is humblt that she is getting married and not killing the baby inside her because she know how guity she is about that.I have seen people who get pregnant 10 times and then abort too and stay merrily.Not the question of child and stuff but it is that she is your friend and i think she expects you to understand her and that is why she told you this thing.Dont misunderstanmd her infact get the point that she must be into some deep troubles and traumas in her life try to get her out of that infact.You can make your friend's life beautifull by giving her support and taking her out of every mess.[/i]

I have a girl cousin and she was very shy also and she would rarely tells her secrets and join us when we go to the cinema or hang out with friends and cousins and then all of a sudden we heard one day that she has run away with a boy she has loved for three years. Okay this was the biggest shock we all got because we never ever saw or heard her talking about her boyfriend and now she has run away. So I believe these people simply do not like to share their secrets or small daily stuffs with others.

It depends I think? When a person is quiet sometime, he/she is really shy to speak or he/she doesn't even bother to speak or group that he/she don't wish to talk to. Many people behave different at different place. Example most of the people will behave yourself when you first few time visit your new partner's parents and won't show your playful character infront of them until you get along with them.

My mom has always told me that quiet people usually keep all their problems and feelings inside, so they always look very serene on the outside. That can be true or not true, simply because... I'm a very quiet person myself! I've been told many times that I'm very very quiet and soft-spoken, and I agree. And yes, I actually do keep many of my problems to myself and try to appear all normal inside and not talk to anyone about my troubles, but I consider myself reasonably sociable, and I have lots of friends. But some quiet people are really truly isolating themselves, and that's when it becomes dangerous. You never know what that quiet person is thinking, and you never know what kind of things he or she is going through. Luckily, I don't have any friends like that, and if I did, I would be very worried about him or her. I guess the best way is to talk to them, see if you can slowly let them open up.

There are really some instances that happen to my friends too. I never expected that she will get pregnant. Never heard that she have a boyfriend.

Hi Jane! I think that it was personal choice and decision of your friend to get along with someone and made love with the fellow, knowing fully that she was not married to that guy. I think, you cannot do much in this case, let her face the music of his decison to get pregnant without getting married. I think she took inappropriate decision.

Hi janebeth, Maybe she didn't peole to know anything about her or didn't want anyone to gossip about, she just kept to herself and he private life is just that private, well there is a saying "Still waters run deep" Tamara

Oh I can't stand quiet people. I'm never uncomfortable around them as you don't know what's really going on within them. My grandmother always told me that quiet people are dangerous people. My brother is one of them quiet folks. One day he brings home the worst girl that has ever breathed on this planet and she's pregnant. I never saw my brother with a girl either so boy was I shocked too

Well, you can never tell by appearances. Things do happen as it is in your friend's case. Still water runs deep.I know of a friend who tried his very best to develop friendship with the girls back in college days. They always treat him like a living joke as he could not speak English well and behaves more like a bumpkin or redneck. One day, out of the blue, I received an invitation card for his wedding luncheon. Believe me, he has imported a beautiful foreign bride from Taipei. Wasn't I jealous!

Well, looks can be very deceiving. You could not really know what's on their minds. They can be secretive in their own way, and maybe others are only pretending to be so innocent inside. I don't know, that's only my opinion. I know some of the quiet type of persons but they are actually friendly if you get to know them more. I would say we are not to judge other people immediately. And as what the saying goes, "silent waters run deep." Haha :)

Well. If she hadn't hurt anyone with her actions, than i suppose she is harmless. Maybe she is quiet because she doesn't want to show too much about herself.