Do yo think children should be taught household chores? Why?

Philippines
September 28, 2009 3:18am CST
It is said that the first informal education of children start at the home as the training grounds. Parenting to rear good children are implemented with rules which speak of values formation and growth bearing which prepares a child for formal education and helps them to become responsible adults in the future. However, their are instances when children are being taught the values of knowing household chores. In your own understanding, I would like to know the reasons and importance of helping in the household chores? Why children need to be taught household chores? At what age should children need be taught to do household chores? Is it necessary or not? What kind of household chores would you taught your children to begin with that they found fun to do without complaining?. Kindly share your thoughts. Thanks..
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@buping (952)
• China
28 Sep 09
hi, i think kids definitely should be taught to do the household chores. and these chores help them to know how hard when their parents do it, and everyone should keep hygiene and also learn to share the responsibility. in my opinion, so many advantages to teach kids to do household chores. aboout age, i think 8 years old is ok for them to learn.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
We should inculcate the kids the value of helping the parents in the household chores. They should be taught the importance of helping each other.
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Yup that is true teaching children at early ages and motivate them is a way to let them see the values of working and helping to lighten the parents load of the household chores. It teaches children to be independent and responsible children up to adulthood.
@derek_a (10873)
28 Sep 09
I was always given chores to do at home and I learned that I could not just keep getting things for nothing out of life. When I needed extra money, I would ask if I could have some extra chores. And sometimes I would take a job delivering newspapers early in the morning before school started. I don't know whether it is necessary, but I feel that I value things a lot more if I [i]earn[/i] them than if they are just given to me. - Derek
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
The younger we teach the kids doing household work the better. They will find it easier to do when they are already grown-ups and have their own families.
• United States
28 Sep 09
I agree with Derek,I started doing chores when I was like 6 years old and I also asked for extra chores when I wanted to make some money to go do fun things with my friends.it also helped me to learn that all things are not just handed to me on a silver platter.I have 3 boys and me and the father started the boys off with small jobs when they were 5 years old.we had them sweep the floor or take out the trash and just help keep things picked up around the house.now that the boys are use to this they always ask what other things they can do to earn some money too.the cycle just keeps going and will be passed on to my grand kids and beyond that even.our kids turned out great and they are so smart and love to help people out and are not afraid to lend a helping hand to anyone.so I am a strong believer on this subject and any kid who gets chores at a young age will grow up a better person and have more value and self worth about everything around them and in their life.
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Yeah, you are right all the things which a person want to achieve in life is not easy to acquire and one must need to learn the values of working coupled with perseverance before they could get the the things they need.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
I have a daughter who is almost eight and she has been making her bed since she was four, not very well but trying anyway. Now I have her drying dishes. I am introducing her to household chores because like it or not, they are very much a part of every day life and it will be helpful for her to be familiar with how a house is run and the fact that in a family everybody has to do their fair share. I would do the same thing if she was a boy, by the way. I was not taught very much about taking care of a house when I was a child and consequently had a difficult time when I got married and left home; I had no idea how to clean a home or cook a meal. It took me years to get a clue on how to cope around the house. I think kids should be introduced to household chores, it is a learning tool towards good work ethics and discipline, I think.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 09
That is the good things to do to train a child in helping doing household chores start from light household chores then adjust as the child grows. It is a must to train children even one is rich or middle income family need to know this household chores in order to learn to live and fix things without depending on anybody. Finally, learning to household chores teach the child to learn the values of working and helping.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
You are right paula27661. When one is taught the value of responsibility like doing household chores, the easier for them to do it when they their own families to take care off.
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 09
Yes, training our children some household chores is good! I remembered teach my son to put his dishes at the basin. This will train him to be responsible for his own things. When I washing clothes outside the house. I will get him to scrub the drain. It seems he was delighted to help me out. He felt a sense of being able to cintribute and appreciated!
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• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Children should be train to learn household chores, the earlier the better and it could really bring smiles to any tired mom having children around to lighten the work load. Thus, mother is saves from a lot of efforts to be tired all days doing the work with no help at all. Children too feel bored in the homes doing nothing or doing the normal stuffs like watching tv, eating or playing games without a changes in their routines so it is good to introduce the to do household chores match to their age capacity. Thanks for responding.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
"It seems he was delighted to help me out." You are right about that. I have witnessed it myself. When I taught my niece things like washing the dishes , she is even more delighted to do it. I still vividly remember the smile on her face when I asked her to do that. They are happy with it. They feel a sense of satisfaction. It is a good way to teach your kids the confidence that one needs.
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@janebeth (2032)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
hi neelian, for me honestly kids should be taught everything in life, for them to be successful in the near future.. parents are very responsible on this, if they want that their kids to be wise and to be a strong one to face all the hard things in life, this would be the greatest thing you should do to your kids.. train them well because they are still young, not like the old ones they are very hard headed.. i really believe that being a good kid is all because of the good training a parents gave them.. we can really compare kids who knows how to do those house hold chores compared to those who really don't know it.. it really differs, when time comes that you will die and your kid is the only one who will face all the problem, better be happy because you train them so well, to be wise and to be a competitive one.. janebeth.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 09
yeah, very true children need to be train at an earlier ages starting from the basic down to the complicated household chores . It teach children to learn the sharing of responsibilities and by helping the workload of the parents is minimize. Thus, household chores is very important that everyone should learn to teach children the values of working when one grow old to becomes adults he would no longer worry to live away from parents as he already know to do it by itself. Also, when one get married she would no longer have to face a great deal on what to do in the kitchen or taking of the family as she already know to do all the household chores.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I agree with you. One would have the difficulty of adjusting to a new environment, like married life when one is not taught at an early age the value of doing household chores.
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
yes definitely. it is important to teach them household chores at an early age. doing that will make them independent and industrious and organized. instilling those values to them will make them a more well-rounded individual when they grow up.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 09
yeah, it also makes the children aware of the values of helping and makes them an assets of the society rather than a liabilities. Thus, it is not forever that parents would guide them and it is necessary to let them learn at an early ages the values of working when they becomes adults they would surely becomes responsible individual with a high sense of commitment.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I agree with you that we have to instill the value of doing household chores to kids at the very young age. They are more likely to remember it than teaching adults. Teach them responsibility and they will for sure turn out to be good kids.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Mine never liked to do thier chores but they did it any how. Cleaning thier room and making bed was about the first one I picked and it started early say 3 or 4 years old may not be done all that good but they tryed! Grand daughter has to pick up after herself in the front room for most times looks like a tornado had hit it. SHe dont like to and wants help but we tell her we didnt mess it up. but sooner or later someone does help some.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Oct 09
yup
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Yeah, that is good to train children at earlier ages giving them appropriate tasks which they could easily follow starting from the basic and adjusted to the more complex tasks as they grow old and already capable to do household chores at their own way without relying on the help of other people. Even though they seem not too like it sat fist the important they try to do it than never.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
29 Sep 09
Yup, i think all children shouldbe taught to do household chores, regardless of being boy or gal.. haha =D In a way, it's teaching them about discipline as well as tidiness within the house.. IF not, they will tend to take it for granted, and becoming spoiled as a result of it.. haha =D PLus, it teaches them about being responsible or even 'work' for their own pocket money, making them realise money does not come easy too ^_^ haha
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
30 Sep 09
YEah!! Let doing household chores be a habit to them, so that they will volunteer to do it in the future ^_^ Also, it makes them more desirable to their future partners, and they will feel more secure with them around.. lol =D HAving someone to share workload is what most ple wants, and it's an added 'skill' to our love resume.. lol =D
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
yeah, and it is in the homes where to start as a training grounds for children to learn household chores and becomes industrious than becoming lazy bones for not having been introduce to it.. It teaches children to learn to take care of their selves in cases the parents is not around at not every times they are around to do the household chores. Thus, learning it could be a way to help a child becoming responsible and independent.. yup, it is a good things both partner know to handle household chores it is a matter of shares responsibility and commitment is a plus bonuses adding to lifetime partnership
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
yeah, doing household chores need to be introduce to all children irregardless of genders as early as possible so that when they grow old they would no longer depend for assistance from other people to do the household chores for them. Then, it is also importance to gives only assign household chores to children that is appropriate on their ages and teach them the values of helping at home. Thus, helping lighten the parents workload. It mainly teaches about being self reliance, independence and resourcefulness..
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Yes, children should be indeed taught household chores. This develops the sense of independence when the time comes. When they finally move out of their parent's house and into their own living quarters at least they know how to take care of themselves as well as the dwelling place that they are inhabiting without the need to depend on other people just to cook or clean. Children might dread chores but there are ways to make them fun. Or it can be a part of a parenting program that has the effect of reward and punishment. I mean, if they do their chores without being told then they are given something for being responsible enough to act on his/her own volition. As for the kinds of chores that should be taught, the most basic ones will do. Like how to properly sweep the floor, wipe dusty surfaces and objects, make one's own bed, light laundry like handkerchiefs and underwear, and cooking most especially. He/she doesnt have to cook an elaborate cuisine, just simple frying will do.^_^ That's just what I think anyways.
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
hi bj, Yeah,that is true as not forever in our lifetime that parents are there to assist their children all the times as when the children grow to becomes adults they are going to get married and start a new life with their husband/wife. Thus,it is only necessary that all children are able to know to do house hold chores as it teach them the beauty of being independent, self reliance and boost one's confidence to handle all things with their own ability. yeah, all the household chores you mention are all important and i believe when parents taught it to their children they are giving them a favor rather than a command. As children would realize in their later life that earlier exposures and training to do house hold chores help them a lot. Basically the reward process helps but it should be done moderately as in doing so may even make the children lazy as they would only move because of it. So far doing all those tasks voluntarily is even better as children learn the values of fair sharing of responsibilities and learn the values of working. have a nice day!
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
I totally agree that the reward system should only be utilized rarely or on special occasions or an occasional surprise that would delight the child for acting upon his unconscious effort and taking the initiative to do it all on his own because he wants to and not because he has to. Whew! That could have been a mouthful.LOL
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
hi bj, Yeah,that is true what really makes parenting success is a lot of motivation on the part of the parents and on the willingness of the children to volunteer to learn household chores and rewards is just an added inspiration to make them more excited to do their shared responsibilities on the household.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 09
I think children should be taught household chores because it teaches them how to be responsible at an early age..I remember when i was still young, our parents divided the household chores that were really easy to us kids, even though we have a helper with us.. I thank God everyday that my parents did that, cause now I'm living with my siblings, and we can be independent, and I know I can live on my own cause my parents taught me at an early age how to be responsible.
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Yeah, earlier teaching of a child at an earlier ages greatly benefits a child as when they grow up they would no longer to call their mom to do all the household chores for them as they already know to do it. Thus, shared responsibilities and values of being hard working is taught making them independent, and self reliant.
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
well that is the very worst things to do to become ignorant on doing household chores is a bad things unless one is rich and could pay a maid to do it for him. Then, having no knowledge of household chores is an exemption as one is capable of paying. But, it is also importance that the parents insist on teaching children at earliest ages as when they grow old to become adults they would learn the values of working, self reliance and being independent that not everything comes quick and easy without perspiring..One need to work hard to learn whether we like it or not doing household chores makes the children aware of its benefit to itself never ever depending to anyone to do the household chores for them
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
exactly... I have friends now who don't want to leave their house and live independently cause they don't know how to cook, how to clean, and just how to be independent... It's really hard for them.. good thing my parents taught us how to be independent from the beginning.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
children need to learn household chores under the guidance of both parents. Thus, they become responsible, kind, industrious and obedience toward their parents and to their superiors. teaching them to do the washing, ironing, cooking, sweeping the floors and dusting makes the children values the beauty of working.
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
Yeah, it is all important to teach children as early as 3 years old to get used in seeing household chores and may do it to in the future. Then the task progresses too as the children grow up and becomes mature adults. They would no longer hesitate to do work which involves cleaning as they are already expose to it when they are still young. Thus, with the training grounds that is held inside the homes. It would be better for the children to learn all the types of housekeeping as it have something too say to the personality of the children upbringing..
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Sep 09
YES! kids should be taught household chores and i am doing it with my kids. they need to be responsible and develop the passion to do it. have a creative way of doing things so that they will appreciate and enjoy doing it. give rewards for a job well done... hugs and kisses too. my kids loved it when i praise and acknowledge them for finishing a task. their prize????? i cook them their favorite food--french fries and fried chicken!
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Surely, with hugs and kisses children could not resist a loving mother who would rewards them after helping in the house doing household chores. With the food on hand as the rewards even an adult would really be inspire to do household chores after working hard it is a nice feeling to feel good after eating gives more energy and inspiration to do the succeeding household chores without complaining..
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
yeah, it only show your strategy work on them effectively and guven a reward froma sweet mom surely the children would really cherish it and becomes more cooperate the next time you want them to help you. Then, you would no longer remind them to help you but they would voluntarily do it in a nice way. Your children are very lucky to have a loving and sweet mom like you. have a nice day!
• Boston, Massachusetts
2 Oct 09
of course aside from enjoying their food they'll request for a time to play computer games and i allow them (on an alternate basis). i am so delighted and really touched with their reaction... they're just so happy and excited to be given the time to play their favorite computer game.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
yes i think it is very important to teach your sibling and nieces to do some household chores for them to be independent in the future.this will lead a better personality.the advantages of teaching them early is that they do not have any problem when they are alone.they can confidently work on their own with great courage and perseverance in the future.this will give them an opportunity to excel in anything they want to be in the future.they also become responsible to things that they do.parents should guide them so that they can also learn as early possible they can.there is a saying"teach them as early as you can they just like sponges that can absorbs water as much they can".give them assignment in household chores to make them do their part.as matter of fact participation of children will help them grow morally.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Children need to be expose to see a mother or any companion in house to do the household chores and even demonstrating to children how they do it. Then, it is important to assign house hold chores eventually fairly distributed then the amount of household chores which many children could do should based on the capacity to perform task depending on their ages and capacity. Thus, children are deeply motivated to do some household chores definitely helping the mother to lighten her household chores through teaching. Children could do all things perfectly then you are the ultimate adviser which they could look up living by your own testament, When children grow old it would be easy to retain in their minds the values of working and helping hands...That not everything that comes is easy and have to sweat a lot before one plan or desires to becomes successful. Thus household chores takes a closer look for children to become a more, mature responsible adults who could do his own plans and act independently..
9 Oct 09
I would definately teach my kids to do household chores and learn to cook as well. I did, and my sisters, we were cared for a lot by grandparents in holidays adn the like and my nana taught the girls to do chores and bake and cook and sew, but my brother not. She thought men didn't do housework. As he grew up, he was forced to do it by my mum bad he hated it. However, the girls still did it without fail and did more for more money and treats. We girls are all now married with our own homes and families and my brother lives like a pig at times! I started my first job at 15 and have never been out of work, even when studying. I work hard to live life to my best, and that was taught to me at a young age. I can't rememebr when i started to help out in the house, but it would have been young 4/5 tidying up and things!
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Yup, that is good you learn the values of working at an earlier ages and the formal first training on it start at your own homes. Thus, children need to to be taught household chores to help a mother lighten her household chores. Children becomes independence and learn that if you like to have a money one should learn to persevere to work on his goals. Thus, children could realize money is not easily get but it is gain through efforts to find a job and earn at the same time, learning to live being independent when a child becomes adults.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
We are never forced by our parents to do household chores. My mother like to do all the household chores on her own but I like to learn to wash our dishes so I help her when I was young until the day comes that I was the one who is assigned to do that. My sister was the one who fetch water because we don't have a water of our own before. Now that me and my sister is now working, my mother was back to her kingdom and do the chores all her own again. As she said to us, household chores is her office.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
yeah, the same things with my mother when I was 5 to 12 years old my knowledge of housekeeping is limited and i do start learn by myself by imitating what my parents are doing then trying to perform all those household chores alone. The only household chores which is taught to me when I was a child is to sweep the floor, dusting and putting all my toys back in the toy bin. Then, as I pass at the age of 12, it is then that I was introduce to cook and do my own laundry. The only household chores which i hate to do is ironing while cooking is what I like most.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
1 Oct 09
Yes, I think they should be taught to do certain things as they will one day be adults and will likely need to do them. I think chores should be taught according to a child's ability and the safety of the chore. I think common sense should be used in teaching children certain chores they should not be chores where they could get hurt, or pull a muscle, or burn themselves or anything like that. My kids always help me carry the laundry upstairs and they put away their own laundry. Children can also do things like sweep. They can also help load the dishwasher. Kids can also help sort laundry sorting the whites from the colors. I don't believe in over bearing kids with chores, they are not given to us to be our slaves, but they can certainly help out from time to time. I know some parents who give their kids too many chores and then comlain because their kids have bad grades. Kids still need time to be kids too, and adequate time for homework too. Chores should not replace study time and kids should be allowed to have some down time every day where they can relax and play or do what they like.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Children need to learn to do household chores whether they belong from rich, middle or average family status. As not all the times children could depend to a parents or maid to do all the household chores, in cases they go to a far villages where their is absence of convenience..and need to move or help its companion or else they would likely feel bad having them as their companion. Children need to be given partial assignments of doing household chores depending on the age capacity of the children.. It teach children to become proud of their contribution and at the same develop great values of hard work, being dependent and self reliance at the same time becomes useful in the household by helping the mother lighten her household work. Thanks for responding.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Hi, neel Yes, children should be taught household chores. Among other things, it would teach them about responsibility. If you assign at least one chore that they have to do everyday, they will have a sense of responsibility or a thought that no one else would do that chore for them. That would be a great foundation for other great things that would come their way. Also, I think they should be thought as soon as possible so that chores can still be "fun" for them. Picking up their toys and putting them in the proper place would be a good start. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
A sense of responsibility and commitment lead them to becomes a worthy adults independent from the assistance of other people to do the work of the household chores alone. Then, when they becomes adults they would learn the values of hard work makes them more mature and have a good disposition stronger compare to children who have not been train to do household chores. The training should start by introducing children to light household chores and eventually evolves as into heavy tasks as child grows capable of handling more complicated household chores.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I strongly agree to teaching kids at the very young age the need to know some household chores. it is good to implant to kids the value of responsibility. You will be amazed that young kids are very eager to learn and to help their parents in doing household chores. The earlier you teach them, the better they will learn the value or the spirit of doing things together.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah, it is only right to taught children to know the basic household chores as when they become adults they would look at household chores as a responsibilities and not an obligation to do because they are being pressured bu it is necessary for them to learn the household chores for themselves never depending for anyone to do it for them. It teaches children to values work at this start at home when they grow up the same traits which they used at home would also be carried out when they face the outside real world and get their real job done. thanks for your responses
@ced_cap (207)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I believe that children should be taught doing household chores to become responsible people in the future. But depending on their age. You give appropriate task to them according to their age. Its very normal to them to complain but that's the way children are. I was also like that before. But as you get older, you will understand that this will do good for you. You can't always have others beside you to do things for you. There will come a time especially when you're entering into marriage, at least you already have the idea to run the household.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Every tasks should be fairly delegated and distributed to all children with regards to their ages which fit on their capacity to perform task with ease without complaining. Teaching children to do household chores in their earlier years have influences on how they would grow as a responsible adults who would learn to love the values of work without depending for other people to be the one to do the household chores for them.
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Hi neelianoscet,Yes of course,It is for their own good.As they grow older they must.I think at the early age of six they must learn little by little about household chores.For me as a mother I will taught my children for their future.Have a nice day.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah, household chores should be a shared responsibility and that is the meaning of having family is also sharing responsibilities with fair distribution of household tasks depending on the capacity of the children under the guidance of the loving parents..Thanks for your responses