Fear of being left alone
By rosey19
@rosey19 (951)
Philippines
September 28, 2009 4:26am CST
I had a problem about my six year old daughter who is currently schooling as kindergarten. She is afraid to left alone. She is just showing this anxiety two weeks ago since they are having a whole day practice for the presentation this coming Oct. 2. She will suddenly cry and will always ask me "Mama who will fetch me" Are you coming early to fetch me? Those were the questions she would ask me every time I bid goodbye to her at school. I already explained to her what to do and don't be afraid because Mama will really fetch you but I will be late in a few minutes because I still have to take a ride to be in your school. But she never listened to me, what she did was to cry and cry. Just this morning she cried again and did not attend to her practice. What's wrong with her? Can you give me advice on what to do with her?
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5 responses
@tonika1980 (155)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Nothing is wrong with her. She is just a normal little girl. My baby started kindergarden last year, and quite literally beat the snot out of her teacher the first day. The teachers ended up more or less ripping her from my arms, with her screaming to beat all else, tears rolling down her cheeks! I could hear her screams all the way out in the parking lot, and it took all that I had to keep from running back in and snatching her up. I spent the whole first day in tears! As the days passed it got a little easier, and after the first full week life was much better. IT did take my daughter until almost the middle of the year to talk to anyone besides her teacher and the aide that stayed in her class most of the time. But, she loves school now. What you have to do, regardless of how hard it is, is to put on the appearance that all if fine, and just have your girl stay there at the school. As long as she can see you, don't let her see that you are hurting, or tore up inside about leaving her at school. She will see that it is not bad, and that Mommy will always be there for her after school. Once she realizes this, she should do lots better, and possibly even start liking school. I do know how hard it is to take this advice, seeing as to how I had to do the same...even with me snapping at teachers who tried to say it would all be fine while my baby was screaming and crying. Just know that things will get easier.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Oct 09
hi rosey19 she is a normal little six year old and just
learning to detach herself from mommy so be patient and
she will slowly learn that she is fine and she will be
playing with the others in no time. just do not stress'
and let her feel everything is just fine and you are not
a bit worried yourself. Just comfort her and let her get
used to being with other kids and the teacher.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Whats wrong with her? Nothing..she is a 6 yr old child and this phase that she is going through is perfectly normal...Both my kids went through it at around that age as well and it should pass in time....Just keep reassuring her that she wont be left behind or forgotten about etc and sit and talk with her as well...let her voice what it is exactly she is afraid of...
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
Thanks for the comment, I appreciate it very much. Actually I did talk to my child and she really have the reason why she was behaving like that. She told me she was being pushed by her classmates, she was disturbed by her classmates who was not behaving inside the classroom and she was affected when her teacher scolded them and thought he was the one being scolded. So I explained to her and now she's back to normal behavior.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
29 Sep 09
I am guessing that until she went to school she was always with you? You are her life and suddenly she is having to be separated from you for hours. Its all new and scary to her. I think in time that she will get used to it. Once she realizes that you will be there when you say you will, I'm sure she will adjust. A lot of kids go thru this when they first start school. Its a big change for them. 
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
I would like to say thank you for responding my discussion. I already talked my daughter and I've learned the reasons why she was acting like that. For the past two weeks of September they are having a practice for their presentation during the Feast of Guardian Angels on Oct. 2. During those weeks they were all present the morning and afternoon session. Some of the children are pushing her during the practice which she did not like because the teacher will got angry. And she was afraid that the teacher will get angry with her which she said she was behaving so I talked to the teacher and the teacher talked to the child. I was so thankful she recovered from that traumatic incident.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
it happened to my 5 year old kid too, when he was in day care he wouln't want me to leave. Teachers usually allow parents to sit in for a few days until the child is adjusted but its been two weeks and he will still not let me leave him in the room so i was forced to cancel his enrollment and waited for another year. Although I'm quite furious about it since I just wasted a few thousand pesos for the school fees. The following year is still the same during the first few days but he just feel comfortable as days passed, after a week he would let me go out of the room but i have to stand near the window where he can see me everytime, and as days went by he's finally adjusted that he's longer keeps longer at the window anymore. I guess you child is not yet ready too, just give her time and just be patient she will get over her anxiety in due time. Cheers!
