This is mind boggling!
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
September 28, 2009 6:09am CST
I have this "friend" on Facebook, actually she isn't really a friend at all. She's the wife of a guy my husband used to hang out with like 10-15 years ago. Some of you may remember the discussion I started maybe a month ago about how this woman called me on the phone, and the majority of her conversation was about who my husband was dating long before I met him. I am still confused as to why a woman I'd never spoken to before would have the nerve to talk to my about my husband's ex-girlfriends.
Anyways.. as I said, I barely know this woman, only ever talked to her the once, and that conversation didn't exactly make me like her.
So, Saturday I spent my day preparing for my husband's and MIL's birthdays, baking cakes, having the kids create some cards, bathing the kids so we could visit MIL, etc. etc.
Most of the day my Facebook status reflected what I was doing at that moment. At one point this woman, who I barely know and never actually speak to, decided to post her entire daily schedule on my status... including what time she woke up and how now she's working on dinner.. blah blah blah.
My first reaction is, why is she bragging to me?? Why do I care what she did all day, and it's not like she's the type of friend who tells me what's going on in her life all the time! I honestly have not spoken to her since the phone call like a month ago!
So I made a comment about a restaurant she mentioned in the post, and she responds back "Well we had 5 kids with us and didn't feel like chasing them around"
Doesn't this show you how well this woman knows me?? Either she forgot that I myself have 5 kids, or she's just being that annoying!
Seriously, how would you react to something like this? To me it's all sorts of irritating! I am considering deleting her so she doesn't tick me off again by budging in on my status!
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17 responses
@picjim (3002)
• India
28 Sep 09
If her intention was to forewarn you about your husband she ought to have done many years ago.She obviously has an axe to grind about your husband hence she is trying to create doubts in your mind.Delete her from your list of friends in facebook.Be abrupt with her and if she continues just tick her off.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
There's really nothing to warn about my husband, his past is squeaky clean. I think she more or less was looking for drama and trying to make me feel like I didn't know my husband as well as her. Too bad for her my hubby told me he history long before she tried, so she didn't tell me anything I didn't already know.
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@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I think I would have found a way for her comment not to show on my page. I don't know how come she didn't post her daily activities on her own page. That's what the page is for.
How do you feel about de-friending her. I probably would. It's not like she's a good friend of yours anyway. Who cares if she gets her feelings hurt.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
My only real concern is if she and/or her hubby decide to confront me after I've removed them from my friends list. I'd have to come up with a good reason that won't create more drama. I don't really want to come out and say "Because you bug me" because I don't want them to realize they get to me, that would be like admitting they win.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Tell me about it! Sadly I'm thinking of just deleting my hubby's account! He hardly uses it anyways, and this would save us some drama. When they realize he's not on their friends they'd see it's just because he deleted his page. Not sure, I'll have to talk to him first.
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@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I can see your point. That's the thing with some of those networking sites, people make a big deal about who you want to delete on YOUR page. But they are to inconsiderate to not be jerks on your page. It sucks!!!
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
If I say it was a FB glitch they'll expect me to re-add them, so that's just creating more problems. Unfortunatly these are definitly the type of people who would notice us gone. I've deleted plenty of other friends, either because I got sick of all their crazy invites to stupid apps, or because I strongly disagreed with things they posted, or because we just never spoke, no sense in keeping them around. But these people are different... I can't give them a good enough excuse except the truth, and admitting the truth would be letting them know they won.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Exactly. I'm wondering why she feels the need to brag when I already know so little about her! She rarely comments on my posts, and I never comment on hers. So why all this and why now? Right after that she posted her own status update that said "I'm in a bad mood.." then something about she was being provoked! I'm not sure if that pertained to my post or not.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hey kats! That really sounds kind of strange. I wonder what
she's up to and what kind of point she was trying to prove!
I would probably either ignore her or delete her! I think
that is one of the reasons that I don't want to deal with
Facebook! I haven't got the patience to deal with that kind
of stuff! I don't want to keep posting my every last move
since my life isn't that exciting to being with! I just don't
like the way those sites work. I do hope that your visit went
ok and that the birthday celebration went well! I can't wait
to hear about that on this site! Hope your family enjoyed
the cakes and the visit!
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Facebook isn't all that bad. You don't have to update your status at all! My hubby doesn't, he actually like never signs in. I do just because it gives me more chance to yap with my friends, they'll respond to my status, I'll respond to theirs.
Our visit and birthday celebration went allright, nothing much to report really.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
28 Sep 09
Kat, I do remember what you posted about this so called lady weeks ago and I have also read your other post re the husband now butting into your private life. These Kind of people cause nothing but trouble and my advice to yo is to delete them out of your husband's and yourself;s life.
They do not mean either of you any good and are out to try to cause mischief beteeen your husband and yourself. They get their pleasure out of other people having troubles. Get rid of both of them. Won't be on line after today - well perhaps only rarely until next week Thursday.
The bottom, line is that you do not need these rotten people who mean you no good. They are obviously jealous of your happy marriage.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Yep, you're right, and I've been thinking the same thing since it happened. I already spoke to my husband, and he's okay with deleting them too, because he knows they're doing nothing but causing problems. The only reason I haven't done it yet is because I worry about the reprocussions. They'll certainly notice neither of us are on their friends list, and they'll probably come asking questions. That's the part I don't want to deal with!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
28 Sep 09
Do you mean that they will phone you? If so then tell them you have limited time so are only accepting stuff from family only. Do not give out any information to these people as they are longing to use it against you and cause trouble. They are both toxic!
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
They do have our phone number.. I don't know if they'd call though, I guess it depends on how badly they want to confront us after realizing they're not on our friends anymore. I don't have to pick up the phone, but they'll leave a message that I'll hear. I just don't want to deal with all that!
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Wow that is pretty rude. I think I probably would delete her too. What makes her think you wanted to know her entire daily schedule? If she wants people to know what she is doing she should have posted it on her own status. I'll have to go look it up and see what she posted lol. Sounds to me like you need to ditch her and her husband.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Well the kicker is, right after she posted on my status she sets her own status as saying "in a bad mood today" her hubby responds on it "no sh*t" and then she says that her bad mood is being provoked, and I took it as she wasn't pleased with what I said, because she never responded a final time after I reminded her I had 5 kids myself! Maybe I'm a little paranoid, but it seemed odd she'd post that the same exact time as we're going back and forth on my own status!
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I took it more as she was trying to brag, and I can't understand why. I imagine she's pretty insecure about her own life, but I really don't like people who try to make themselves look better than they are, or people who try to make me believe they're better than me, and that's how I'm seeing her. I do want to delete her, I'm just worried what sort of problems they may create because her husband is also on my friends list, and they're both on my hubby's friends list as well. Her hubby and mine are old school friends, they'd notice if they were deleted, and they'd come back asking why, and I don't want to deal with that drama or confrontation.
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
28 Sep 09
She seems to think she's in competition with you for some reason. I don't know what her deal is but I would just ignore her. Keep her on your Facebook if you want to keep up appearances for your hubby and his buddy, delete her if your don't. Either way just ignore her crap. People like her live through that Facebook BS.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
My husband has no problem deleting them both.. he also sees they're just trying to create drama. I guess I'm just baffled because it's not an everyday thing in my life! I really don't want to leave her on there, because I'll just continue to be upset whenever she pops up and comments on my status or whatever... but I'm worried about the confrontation that may be caused when I delete them.
@dmrone (746)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hi, katsmeow! I just joined facebook a few days ago, and i already have friend requests from people i don't even know. This woman sounds very irritating, and i would just delete her from my friends. It does not sound as if she is a friend of your, and it also sounds as if she is trying to prove herself "better" than you. Why? only she knows. I would delete her and be rid of the pestering she is doing.
@debbie_19 (226)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
28 Sep 09
I think she likes you. It's kinda irritating though. Maybe you could confront her and ask what's happening for once and for all. But keep yourself calm, and treat her as nice as possible. In that way, you could somehow annoy her. After doing so and nothing happens, then do what pleases you. Ignore her. Block her account. Ask your husband for help. :)
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@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Ugh! I think you found yourself a doppelganger 
Maybe she wants to live your life because I think she doesn't want to live hers. I think if you offer her to switch places for a minute she would definitely agree. I suggest you delete her because she's clearly is not doing you any good and is a major annoyance:)
Maybe she wants to live your life because I think she doesn't want to live hers. I think if you offer her to switch places for a minute she would definitely agree. I suggest you delete her because she's clearly is not doing you any good and is a major annoyance:)
@happybear (56)
• China
28 Sep 09
It is really annoying.I think the only way is ignoring her when she makes contact with you again.Treat it as nothing ever happends.I think she would not trouble you as time goes by.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 09
I've always ignored her. I don't have much to do with her because I find her so annoying, she's the one who comes to me and tries to talk to me.
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@happybear (56)
• China
28 Sep 09
Or as long as she brags again,you praise her,approve her.on the contrary,the more you angry or disagree,the more she is crazy.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
29 Sep 09
katsmeow1213,
I think with all these happenings, it is just clear that the other party is just another empty vessel vindictive attention seeker. Remaining status quo is just of no use to you and I would suggest a direct and straightforward deletion.
It is just pointless to have these attention seekers around which will only spoil our day or mood when they just should not have any business with you at all. I do not see anything that justify you keeping them as friends in your social networking site. They are just degrading!
You deserve better.
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
10 Oct 09
My self, I would have never accepted the friendship in the first place. I understand that some people have trouble doing that, when you delete and I highly recommend not consorting with those types of people, be sure to block her as well. My step brothers mother is still trying to figure out how to find me on Facebook again.
Cheers.
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I think she just want to waste you time by just making fun of you. Maybe she is not happy with her life now that's why she kept on disturbing you. You better delete her on your facebook friends list to stop bragging.. I'm sure she will do it again and again..
