do you get mad if your partner is using your personal belongings?...
By acie_21
@acie_21 (5633)
Philippines
September 28, 2009 6:44am CST
do you...?what you think..?
like for example...you bought a expensive perfume...even though your husband/wife has one
still he/she is using yours...
will you get mad about this?
does it bothers you?or not at all?
please do share!...
keep on mylotting!..
have a nice day!...
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22 responses
@forptc (287)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
I'm fine with that. In fact, I shared my stuff with my (then) partner. Everything that was mine was hers, specially my clothes. She looked really good in my shirt. I've even given her some of my clothes. Though I just don't know if she kept them or threw them away. But that's fine, it's all hers.
@forptc (287)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
He he, I really got great memories with those. We've traded some stuff but of course, as expected, I can't wear hers. I just love the scent she leaves on my clothes. The most valuable I've given her was a bunch of tulips I ordered from a flower shop. I think they were from Belgium or something because it wasn't tulip season then. Only times I could find tulips here is during valentines day. It took about two or three weeks to arrive and I had them delivered to their place. I was supposed to give it to her on the day of our anniversary but it got delayed due to the request time and delivery. Got delayed a few days but it was okay, she loved them. She loves the color purple and I requested for purple tulips but they didn't have any so I settled for red. I really miss her a lot. I remember the very first time I gave her a tulip, it was our first valentines. I can't forget the look on her face.
@forptc (287)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Cool. I know only few people who like purple. Well, if you could recall one of my responses in one of your discussions, I messed up and she broke up with me but I never knew exactly for what or why, and that I'm still living my present as if we're still together. I'm caught in limbo here. Sheesh. I may sound or look okay but it's just my way of letting it all out. There's no chance of me seeing her anymore unless she decides to. There's no contact whatsoever between us anymore and I'm hoping she's somewhere safe and very happy. It's all up to her now.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
hello again acie!
well, it does not really bothers me...its just fine with me that we are sharing our things...hehe i feel like we are already one when we get married...haha
but sometimes, i feel irritated when i saw him using my perfume (the expensive one) in a way that i feel like he's just wasting it! haha... its fine with me that he uses it...but just small amount! hehe coz its not easy to buy a new one!
with other belongings, its just fine with me as long as he ask permission...but i think i will be mad if he uses my undies! hehe
how about you?
but sometimes, i feel irritated when i saw him using my perfume (the expensive one) in a way that i feel like he's just wasting it! haha... its fine with me that he uses it...but just small amount! hehe coz its not easy to buy a new one!
with other belongings, its just fine with me as long as he ask permission...but i think i will be mad if he uses my undies! hehe
how about you?
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
29 Sep 09
I will be angry with her for sure.. lol =D Though things are meant to be shared among couples, but there will be certain things it's just meant for each individual.. hehe ^_^ And i dun like anybody to just take my things without permission, for it's a form of taking for granted.. haha =D
However if my partner wanna use any of my personal things, if they ask me, i will be sure to share it with them.. haha =D
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
Hello acie why I should be mad? How about you will be mad? As with me even if my partner borrows my underwear I would still let her...
@med889 (5941)
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28 Sep 09
Oh yes I do get angry when my boyfriend takes my toothbrush to brush his teeth, I know some will say that we do kiss so why should we bother to use the toothbrush of our partner but I simply cannot use the same one as his. I scold him every time for that. I buy his body shampoo and mine separately and I often find him using mine and then leave it open so I really get angry about that though.
@med889 (5941)
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28 Sep 09
I like to share some things with him but not everything though like my toothbrush. I can share my shampoo but I want him to at least do not leave it open. He will always ask me to either leave a little of what I am eating for him or give him some drinks in mine. I can accept all these as we are together but not my toothbrush.
@virgonian1988 (119)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
actually i don't have a husband. but i have a boyfriend and we're living together.
ofcourse I share almost everything to him because he shared his very personal thing to me. Just like when we just starting living together, I don't have my personal things with me, I have not brought my toothbrush and got no money to buy one so he lend me his toothbrush and I used it but for 1 day only. haha!!
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
hello acie_21,
not at all. why should i get mad at her, if she likes she can use it anytime. that is partnet at for, share what we have. same thing with me to hers.
@barbiejune (125)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I have to admit this discussion is kind of perky and funny. Well i don't really mind sharing personal belongings with my partner. This is because if you're with someone and you have that bond, you will consider your things as your partner's belongings as well, especially when you're married.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Hi, acie 
Nope. Sometimes I think it's funny, especially when my husband started putting on my facial night cream every night. I am actually glad he started taking care of his looks, as I am always urging him to do so.
There are things, however, that are a no-no. Toothbrush and body scrub are prohibited. But as to comb, shampoo, shower gel...he is welcome to use them.
Have a nice day! 
Nope. Sometimes I think it's funny, especially when my husband started putting on my facial night cream every night. I am actually glad he started taking care of his looks, as I am always urging him to do so.
There are things, however, that are a no-no. Toothbrush and body scrub are prohibited. But as to comb, shampoo, shower gel...he is welcome to use them.
Have a nice day! @acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
lol!hi raingurl....
facial cream..heheheh!funny but thats what my hubby is doing too..
i dont put facial creams cause im just in the house always..
not like my hubby who always go to work..he needs to protect his skin..
to prevent from skin aging..lol!
but me...to lazy to do that..i just do it seldom..
cause im not stress at all..
my skin looks very ok..i take care of my hubby by buying things like creams,vitamin e and etc....
he looks young in his age!...
love it!...
thanks!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
29 Sep 09
That is an interesting question. I will never get mad if my husband uses any of my personal belongings. He can always try them. I don't know how he thinks about it. Sometimes I buy things like snacks, choclates, biscuits, etc. and if he won't touch them I will get mad sometimes. I buy it with the intention that it is for both of us and I don't want him to seperate the things because I paid for them.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
30 Sep 09
I do not allow anybody to use my personal belongings. Nor do I use anybody else's personal belongings.
The very word 'personal' has to be understood. It means a particular thing is mine and only mine and nobody has the right to use it, unless I give him the permission to use it.
But I do not get mad if somebody uses my personal belongings. I remain cool and with the strength of that coolness, I stop the person from using my personal belongings. If I got mad, that would be useless because the other person would only want to enjoy a fight.
@biman_s (1060)
• India
29 Sep 09
I and my partner share a lot of things together but we don't fight over it. Actually we love sharing. The main reason for it is that we believe that we are 1 not 2 separate person. These are very silly things to get mad upon. When we get married we vow to share everything so there is no need to get mad later on.
Peace.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
4 Oct 09
yeah, I will mad about that! and I would blame him/her for using my personal things, and warn him/her, that if he/she use my personal belongings again, I will give him/her a good beat! kidding, just show you that I really angry with such thing!
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I don't really mind, we are suppose to share everything, why should I be bothered if he chooses to use mine right? though its not very likely that he will since my scents are totally different from his. I don't think he would want to smell feminine at all hahaha
@2babita (1072)
• India
28 Sep 09
Well,sometimes i get very angry then i cool down and stay quite.After sometime i explain him and ask him.But he just keep quite,then i realise i can't do anything and no point getting angry after all he is mine-my hsuband.
@youless (112561)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Sep 09
I have no problem to share my personal belongings with my spouse. I think it is good because at lease we can use it faster and then we can buy a new one. But my husband doesn't use my perfume, facial cream and so on. We just share the same toothpaste:)
I love China
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Other than my toothbrush, I don't care if my husband uses anything of mine and he feels the same way about his things. We're partners...a team...both sides of the same coin...as close as two people can get. So, what is mine is his and what is his is mine.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 Sep 09
It doesn't bother me at all. My husband and I share almost everything, I wouldn't like it if he used my toothbrush, but aside from that he can take anything he wants (my toothpaste, my soap, my shampoo, my perfume etc) I am happy that we can share the things that we have got, because my ex was very different. We were together for almost 6 years, but he never touched my things, and he got very angry if I used his things for instanse his shampoo. My husband doesn't get mad if I use his things, and I am happy that we both like to share our things.
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 09
acie,
Of course I wont! Because I use his stuff too. In fact, I love it when we share stuffs. It just make me feel... nice! lol. If he wants to use my perfume, so be it. He'll only going to end up smelling like a lady and that will definitely put him off towards other ladies! Hehe..
