When Strong Is Too Strong...

Hi Queen. Today, I just signed up and I found this discussion that hit the spot for me...Well, I will try not to be longwinded but...no, as women, we dont have a breaking point. I am 31 yrs old, been divorced for 1 years in about 2 wks, have 5 yr old twins and my 12 yr old uses a wheelchair daily but is in 7th grade Honors classes. I do not believe God created us as intricately as he did for us to BREAK. When I was married, this WAS ( I soooooo stress that)my weekday routine. At 1am, I'd get up to go throw newspapers, come back home by 3 am, awaken my husband to go throw his papers. Get back in bed, back up at 6 am, get my 3 and his 1 (kids) up for school, cook them a HOT breakfast, (oatmeal, bacon, eggs, grits, waffles, etc....) and pack the 2 12 yr olds and my hubbies lunch, and out the door by 7am. Drop all 4 off at 2 different schools, arrive to work by 8am, use my lunch hour from 2-3 to pick up big kids and take them to YMCA after school, return to work within that hour, clock out at 5, get twins by 5:30, back at YMCA by 6, home by 6:30, starting dinner, twins in the bath and big kids doing homework with my hubby, by 8 we have all eaten, 9 we are all in bed, 10 my hubby has had his DESSERT (me) and 10pm, I'm out ready to get back up at 1:30am. Now for 2 yrs I did this, until he began cheating but being on my own, I still have bills to pay, a FT day job and a PT salon job on fri and sat. So again, we cant burn out. The kids are lookign to us and for those who dont have kids, family or friends are lookign for you. I hope I answered your ? and also take a look at this link too... totallyher.com/the-proverbs-31-woman-meets-todays-woman-part-1/ I am at mrscrief@gmail.com

I do have a breaking point. Usually when I feel more overwhelmed than normal. I don't know why as women, we feel we have to take on everything. Maybe it is just our nature. But I try to step back when I feel at that breaking point. Like this weekend. My 16 year old came out of her room with that "i want something from you mom," look on her face. I told her before she could speak. I'm not taking you anywhere, and I'm not picking you up from anywhere. I need a break from waiting for you, your friends and your plans. I need a day off. She said so that means that I can't hang out? I told her I didn't care what she did as long as I wasn't driving her around. It seems like daily, I have to pick her up, drop her friends off places. I spend most of my evening driving teenagers around because for one reason or another they family can't or won't. I even had an occasion where my daughter called me, she was at work, and she told me that a friend of hers was stranded and can I pick him up. I told her no, but I'd be at the subway station to get her when she got off work. That would have been 11pm. She then thought after I picked her up that late, that I wanted to drive around find her friend and drive him home too. She got pissy with me when I said, "I'm not responsible for him." She was like "wow, you gonna leave him stranded?" And then she got mad when I said YES! LOL So that was my breaking point. I don't care how late or who's stuck as long as she's safe. I mean really. I almost lost it!