His mum won't come to the wedding

I have am not married nor have I ever been married but like it has already been pointed out, it sounds like she is trying to flaunt a ' control '. You said that he is her oldest, is he a mamas boy? Nothing wrong with being one but my thing here is that she might be feeling like she is losing her ' baby '. I was thinking, and this might sound like you're ' kissing butt ', however, perhaps send her some flowers or something as an apology? That might show you are truly sorry that you did not follow up to make certain he had informed everyone on his side of the family. If that would not work well then she is either being stubborn and wont show or she is making it ' seem ' as if she will not, and at the last moment pull a ' surprise, I'm here ', type of thing. Happy Mylotting! ^-^

Hi Suzy, sounds like your future MIL is playing control games with you... I have a MIL who does this too and I have learned to let it go. My advise is to start practicing letting things go that you can't control. I know it's not your fault, and I know it was an honest mistake, but you can safely bet that no matter what you say, do, insist or plead, your MIL will not believe you. Therefore, you need to just let it go - you can't control it. You are marrying him, not his mother. Now's the time in your life where you need to focus on you, your man, your wedding and the beginning of your hopefully great future together. Don't loose any focus because his mother is acting like an immature teenager! I hope in the future this will be resolved, because I know what it's like to have conflict in family, but you have done all you could. You've apologized, you've explained, your man has apologized and explained - there's nothing more to do. Dont' play into her control issues either - it will only encourage her to act this way. Pretend it never happened, you've apologized and it's time to move on - by doing this, you are showing her how mature, adult women move on after a misunderstanding. Send her an invite, include her in your life, but make it clear that you are not going to grovel or beg for her forgiveness or her involvement in your happy life. She can either suck it up and admit it was a misunderstanding and move on by be there for her son and for you - or she can miss out. Her issues, her problems, her loss - try to let it go. Best of luck to you both.