Does your past haunt you?
By tara007
@tara007 (5)
South Africa
September 29, 2009 3:04am CST
I am 32 and have suffrered from depression at times, I have ahd the same boyfriend for 11 years but we did break up fro 6 months, I am happy but he cannot let go of my past I was a bit naughty but looking back I dont recognise that person, it's not me. Yet ehen we argue he keeps on bringing it up, I cant forget about it so what should I do or has this happend to you?
3 responses
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
sometimes yes specially if im alone in my bed before i sleep. or if sometimes im too lonely, i really cant help but think about my past. those saddest moment that make me feel so guilty and angry. though sometimes it helps a lot so i know what to change and what to avoid.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Hi there Tara!
I'm really sorry to hear that. My friends told me that you should not always be honest and open about everything in your past to your significant other. I think that it's wrong. I think that to have a successful relationship, you should both know each other really well and be able to accept and love each other including the dark past. That was in the past and it can't be helped as much as you'd like to. You can never undo everything that you did and just bear in your mind that whatever you did in the past lead you to where you are right now. I think that your boyfriend is being immature if he continually bring the past up. You should talk to him and make him understand that your past is a part of you and he should accept it and have enough trust in you when you say that you don't plan on doing those things again. I guess that if he refuse to do that, it would be impossible for your relationship to grow and flourish.
@tara007 (5)
• South Africa
29 Sep 09
Thank you for that yes you are right I love him dearly though and I dont wnat o loose him, he has a dark past aswell and I just wish that he would forgive and not forget, I mean these stupid things happened in my teens I am now 31. I was just a little premicuous thats all but I know that is was nothing to major but he seems to make it seem like I was a prossi.
Oh well I will sort it out one day. He is very odd, my baby sister is dating another guy thats 38, she is 22 but the issue is that he is a different race, Now it take some getting used to but we are not racist if you are happy then so be it. But he now hates my sister so mch si that he has told me he doesnt even want to hear of her. Its breaking me apart I love thme both, I feel that my sister is dating a man that is to old for her whethere he is pink blue or yellow makes no difference, She is still very imature so I am kind worried abou her, Eitehr way she says he is nice
What are your thoughts on that
PS. My BF is not that badI think he has small man syndrome lol
@forestgold (792)
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29 Sep 09
Not in the same way, but if you have moved on, then tell him to let it go!
You have moved on, so why can't he?
Tell him to stop dragging up your past, we all have one, i bet he has too?
Try not to let it get to you, and dont let him keep reminding you.
