BReaking up with someone you love is difficult...

i can understand people finding this difficult,when i was younger i can remember feeling hurt upset and damn right miserable,but now if i split with someone i don't really feel much as i've learnt to cope by shutting emotional feelings off

It's very difficult. Very very difficult if you do that with your all sincerity & emotions. I can say that because I have had that experiences still not sure why this happens. In my case she stops receiving phone calls from me after talking a large amount of favour day by day, even her family only on a single cause that I don't have a permanent job & fat moneybag. But still from my heart I can say that she was not so. I still don't know why this happens. It is impossible to forget and that is the cause of my everyday sorrow and distress. You don't know how difficult is to stay alive after this sort of bad experiences. Sometimes I thought why don't God make us animals to save us from these heart rending experiences.

it is really painful for me if the person i love has fallen out of love and just seek or find other love beside me. it makes me feel that my world has crumbled down in front of me and there is no hope in the horizon. it makes me afraid or fearful. sometimes i wish that i am very attractive person so one person ditch i can easily find replacement. so forgetting will be easy. but it is not the case, i don't find love that easy so forgetting the last one takes a long time if not forever.

breaking up really hurts a lot, the time i had my break up with my first and only boyfriend till now, i thought my whole world shattered and i felt i was about to die, i cried my heart out almost everynight, and tears were alway overflowing, it came to a point when even my work was affected by this. but one day i found myself ruined and i look at myself in the mirror i didn'g recognized myself, this wasn't me, i was the known strong girl who fights bnack at anything and stay strong in every trials in my life, i asked myself how did i ever allow this to happen to me and just right there i just snap back into reallity that i need to stand up and face the music, his gone but life goes on. I know deep in my heart i can never forget that guy i fell in love with but right now and when you find someone new and manage to think of him its not being unfaithful, its called being smart, u need to remember him only to remember how you need to deal with your current situation, learn from the mistakes you had made with him and it will make your current relationship stronger because you are now wiser becuase of him

I think that it is ok to compare relationships. Sometimes, that is how we decide if a relationship is good or not. We can notice changes in the relationship and warning signs, say, if we have been in an abusive relationship before. If a relationship is over, then it's over. It may take a while to completely get over the person, but one must move on. And no, moving on is not being unfaithful. Moving on is not a betrayal. It is what it is. Getting on with your life. If something is over, there is no use to dwell in the past.

First of - if you love someone why would you break up with them? Secondly, your love must not have been based on a solid foundation for you to even think of breaking up. Or perhaps you are not willing to work for love to be preserved. Pain aside, breaking up should be the last resort to resolve a perceived problem. When two people feel so much love and attraction for each other, if two people go beyond 10 on the chemistry charts, the idea of breaking up wouldn't even exist in their vocabulary. I can understand that "Love" is a term used loosely. People even love Styrofoam cups though they throw them away as soon as they have used them; they even love the weather. So what kind of love are we talking about here? Please help me understand.

It's human to compare and co relate no matter what you do your experiences in the past do affect your future and shape your future too. How much ever you may philosophized but fact still remains its hard to stay in the present completely. You learn lessons all through your life and its not being unfaithful at all. The longer you stayed with a person longer its hard to break the habit of being with him and thinking of him. He becomes part of your life forever but how much you let him have control of your action in today's relationship depends entirely on you and you have to be clear about it before you seriously start a new relationship. If you are an emotional person then it will be harder on you and your partner to start afresh.

Love doesn't always work out and endings are always painful. Still if it isn't right it is important to move on and learn from the mistakes made in the previous relationship. I don't think it is fair to compare your prior relationship to your current one. After all, we are all individuals and no one likes to be compared to someone else. I don't even like being compared to myself from my past. I've grown and changed because of my experiences and so have we all.

Getting over and breaking up with someone is very hard to do so. I always want a healthy and happy relationship but sometimes we need to inculcate to our mind that we need to let go if both of you is getting rough to continue the relationship.

Breaking up with someone is really difficult if you really had the feelings. It is not an easy task to make-up and very hard to let go the pain. I've been in that situations many times. I always need a friend to lean on to cope up the pain and let go the guy totally.