how am i supposed to know if he really stops on cheating me......
@marilynjose70 (32)
Philippines
September 29, 2009 7:07am CST
i had a bad experience with my love one,weve been together for almost 20years now am so happy and contented of what we had and never think that he is cheating on me...i discover about the girl all the trust and respect and love is now pain and pain.....
i try to move on for the sake of my kids,accept him and forgive him and start all over again....the problem is here....he cant say goodbye to the girl because she is always trying to commit suiside,i knew it and i saw it....and she also left by her husband with kids on him...she is alone now,no husband no kids....
although i see my husband trying to get away by not going with her everytime she wish to see him,didnt call her the way before and sometimes didnt text her,,,i should know because when that moment came she /the girl text me and looking for my husband....
i dont know now if he really stops on cheating me but to make me feel better,even have worries at all,,im thingking of my family still here and complete....that the most important thing...for me.
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7 responses
@jersey86 (1348)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Its really to say that he already stops cheating on you.. besides on your husband's situation its really hard..
the good think for your husband to do is to stay away from that girl and stop communicating. Change your contact numbers and if you could manage to do.. live away from we're your leaving right now..
somewhere that, that girl don't know. 
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Thats not fair for you to have change everything about your life because of your husbands choice of fidelity, you shouldn't have to change your numbers or move away. your husband needs to stand up and be a man and get rid of his side fling and focus on making you happy. The other women needs to get help. I really commend you for staying with your husband because I would have left him and let him deal with the loco girlfriend. you deserve better than that
@EvilSystem (2)
• Germany
30 Sep 09
Of course, its not fair, but maybe its nessesary.
This deep pain you cant escape is tremendous.
It could be a good idea to look for professional help to recue your love and your family.
Good luck and warm regards from Germany (sorry for my bad english)
Guenni
@vaideki (19)
• India
1 Oct 09
Seriously I feel so bad for ur situation. Its so easy for some people to back stab them. If spoke to all u 3 people they will have their own justifications and teories which doesn't change a thing of wat already happened.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
It is unfortunate that after 20 long years, everything will just go down the drain.
The most ideal thing that should happen is everything will go back to normal as they were before. But if it doesn't happen, I guess, we just have to collect the pieces and with what whatever is left, just move on. There is more to life than just feeling sorry for what happened and harbor mentally draining thoughts.
The world out there is just awesome and beautiful. We must not let ourselves get bogged down with failures and sad experiences. If he doesn't want to leave that woman, then so be it. It's now all up to you to accept things as they are and live with them or you may want to start a new life and make the best of what remains.
have a nice day.
@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Hi Marilyn! We are the same here. I and my husband has been dating for 5 years and married for 3 years already. For more than a year of our marriage I've discovered him cheating me. It is very painful, even until now I am still suffering from this pain. Even if he tries to stay with us but I still feels he still cheating me. When I tried to confront him, he won't accept it. Plus he would become angry if I ask him about it. I like to move on with my son but he won't let us go but the cheating is still there. I don't know also what to do. I want peace in my life.
In your case, I know your feelings. And I know it is hard to leave and it is hard to dictate our husbands mind for changes for our family. If only it could be that easy. I think only God can make miracles to happen and touch their hearts. Just keep praying to God that he will make a way for us. He should be the one who will provide us with justice.
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Really? That' sound very complicated. Let the girl all by her self. It's her fault not yours. Tell your husband to let go the girl totally. Its a shame on her to keep running to your husband unless your husband let her in into your relationship. Bring your family with your husband somewhere far from that girl.
@Craicha (801)
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30 Sep 09
its hard to know if he stops cheating in you...he starts to lie and cheat if he stops for a couple of months it might be back or what..it depends upon with your hubby if he really want to stop or not...how about talk to him tell him how hurts you are and that since he get mistakes at first time and u forgive him and your trust is gone and then if he do it again thats his choice just ask him to leave respect in you....coz if he do respect you he will nah do things that can hurts you....
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Your husband still cheating on you, Marilyn. He never stop seeing on the girl. If he really want to change I think the girl did not remember him always.
I'm sorry to know that your husband cheating on you. There maybe a lot of husband being cheated their wife. They are not consider the love that their wife give for them...?I hope you did the right thing, friend.
Don't acted like you don't know the happening in your life. Your husband get that option to do repeatedly how he cheated you today. Just talk to your husband and create a good conversation in that matter...Don't let him to take advantage of your weaknesses.
I hate those husband threatening their wife like that. Why they are not contented what they have? What is different of any girl other than to their wife? Isn't their wife have no hole that is why they find someone else?
I hope your being happy today and this discussion will give you some idea...have a nice day!
