Is a cheater going to always be a cheater?

I'm sorry to hear that, dominiqueen. It's a hard problem, and I think nobody can give you a correct answer. I also say that the first step is the hardest. That means, when we want to something, the first step always needs our most courage. But in the other side, we're supposed to admit that some people did something wrong before can correct their behaviors and minds. We should give those people the second chance. Now I just wonder if your fiance always tells lies or not. And is this time serious? Why did he do this? I think, you're supposed to get the answers of these questions. After then, I believe you know what you should do. Anyway, once you make a decision, don't regret anymore. Because once you decision, that means you must give up another way. It's really hard. I really hope you can get the solution on it soon.

i understand how you feel and what you are going through...for i also have been there... my boyfriend for about 3 years then admitted that he have sinned on me by being involved to another women which really put our relationship at risk...it was very difficult for me to decide then whether to accept him again or not... but since i love him, and we are far from each other when that happens, i decided to accept him and forgive...but i am telling you, forgiving don't come that easy, it takes time before i can say that i really forgiven him by heart...and that was also the time that i learn to forget about what happens... now, we are already married and leading a happy & peaceful relationship...and when he told me that what happen before will not happen again...i take his words and trust him again...and i am thankful that till now he's still true to his words... on your part, i can't say anything more, coz more than anyone else, you are the one who knows your bf more...listen to your heart... maybe there's nothing wrong in trying again...

Sorry to hear that. 5 yrs is long and emotional investment and time are all there already so your fiance cheating on you was a disappointment. I think if you understood the reason *WHY* he cheated then it's okay to give him a second chance. For me it really depends on the reason why. Men could slip and get tempted no matter how faithful they seem to be. I say deal with the reason why he did it. Was it him? Was it you? If you did sit down and talk about it and he promised not to do it again then I think giving him a second chance is the right decision. However if he just promised that he won't do it again but both of you did not really talk about the reason why he cheated then I guess you need to talk to him again and tell him what's bothering you. A cheater is always a cheater if he did it cause he wanted to. I mean the other girl did not force him or anything. Talk to him and hopefully you guys work it out.