What do you think it is worst in a relationship?

This is not good and if there is no trust and honesty there is nothing. I would not be able to deal with a man if he was not paying the bills fully or equally. Lying about how much he made when the bills are late is horrible. On top of it for him not to worry or care that is not good at all. The only way I could see this being ok if he lied about how much because he used some money to buy you a special gift. I doubt that happened but even that would be inmature knowing there are bills to be paid. I wish you nothing but the best but I think you need to have a serious conversation with him and straighten some things out before they get even worse. If he doesn't want to hear it then I guess you know what you need to do.

lack of trust and transparency make a relationship miserable. You mentioned about your husband not being a responsible person when it comes to being trasparent about his income, this is sad. If indeed, he wants to keep some for himself for some reasons, at least he must see to it that bills are settled first and that you don't have to go in debt. Obviously there is a domestic problem that needs to be sorted out. This not unique in your situation and I'm sure many couples face the same. I just hope that you both will exert effort to sort this out before the relationship gets sour. They say that it is impossible to find a perfect husband, we have to be satisfied with someone who is close enough, not perfect but real. You can talk things with him and I'm sure in time, you will find a solution to this problem. Cheers.

The worst relationship is I think when you don't go along with your partner and when you don't trust each other too. In a relationship, trust with each other is very important because that's where everything starts. When you trust your partner, then chances are you won't get along together as you will always keep watch of him/her. One will never be happy if he/she doesn't trust fully his partner.

You and your husband should read "the total money make over" and get on the same page with finances. Money is the leading cause of divorce and I would hate to have someone else become a statistic. There are many reasons a person lies about money and it is hard to say what his reason is. You and hubby really do need to get on the same page, and remember it is never to late to change your financial situation.

This might be a worst scenario. Lying and hiding something from your beloved is not healthy at all. It will only become a valid reason if he was preparing for an emergency scenarios that he knows he has no one to ask for help. Ask him in a proper & calm manner about his reason. There might be a valid reason for his doing. But be prepared for whatever reactions that may occur. Weigh things first and know what are the possibilities & what will you do with the certain reaction that he may show you. Explain to him that you are bothered by this. Be sweet and loving to him while you are talking to him. There's might be something wrong that he does not want to share it with you he perceives your reaction to that certain issue. Pray before you do the conversation with him that God may guide you both to avoid whatever worst things or actions may occur. Good Luck, desteny114!

Wow! I can't even imagine being in your current situation. Dishonesty is never a good thing, and with today's economy, financial dishonesty is crucial. Regardless of how much money he made, he should have informed you. Some people may not agree with that but when your husband made the decision to marry you, he agreed to build a life together with you. House payments, car payments, cell phone bills, groceries, everything adds up on a regular basis and they all have to be paid. Whatever amount of money that your husband made should have been brought to the table so it could be accounted for. I always have my husband's pay checks spent within a few days of them coming in. This is not because I blow all of his money, but because I pay all of the bills. He always wonders what in the world could have happened to his entire paycheck, but he has no idea how much our style of living actually costs. Either way, hiding something from your partner in life is never a good idea.

Really hard to response, Even the most unbiased cannot judge domestic affairs...so the most effective way to fix your current issue, i think, you should have a openly and effectively communication with your husband, but please make sure to calm down and don't argue with, you should tell him all your worried about him and hope he can give you a reasonable explanation. before this talk, i think you'd better find serval ideas for avoiding argument...Good luck

Both are dishonest. I think it's the same.

A man might not tell his wife about money her earned if he thinks he will have to put it all in the family pot and not get any of it for himself. I think if a man went out and made some money he ought to be honest with his woman, or wife, about how much he made. But I also think he should be able to spend some of the money on himself like maybe 1/5th of it or whatever seems fair. I guess this would depend on what bills need to be paid. I think money tends to be to important to people. But having some money does make life allot easier.

It is annoying if your partner not being truthful to you. But this kind of act deserve a second chance (after severe talking session~~~) Though I must say irresponsible act like this can snap my restraint too. Especially when he care less about the household and leave the thinking part to me. Your man really is a carefree man.

Hi, sorry to hear about you. In my opinion, lying is the worst thing in a relationship because trust is the base of the relationship. If you can't trust somebody, the I don't think that you can get along with each other very well. I guess it is better that you can talk with you partner patentially, about you idea, your worry and your feeling. Best wishes.

to me, the worst thing to happen in a relationship is infidelity. i could not take my partner betraying me. everyone wants to have open communication with the other and expects loyalty from each other. in ur case, it is also very hurting having to know things from one who is obliged to divulge something because he is "trapped in a corner". it is also very disheartening to know that some things are kept away from u when u expect to be the first person or the closest person whom he shares things with. it would surely make me wonder why he does that and have suspicions. i know this is not healthy in a relationship. as much as possible, talk things out with him in a nice way, at a time u are alone. there aren't things that can't be resolved if these are handled with love and respect for each other.

Maybe you need to talk with your husband calmly and relaxing. Maybe he has a reason why he lie to you about it. Just take it easy, I'm sure you can both make up of what you have both misunderstood. My father before lie sometimes to my mother about his salary because my mother get everything he earned and my father look forward he can buy something for me and give me an additional allowance.

i think the both are just as bad. you need to be honest with each other and you should not have to hide anything from each othe either. i think that its okay to lie about certain thing though liker not telling her shes fat or something along those lines.. Also if your commited to each other and trust one another why would you hide things that shows no trust at all. happy mylotting!

I completely understand your situation, and YES, it is ANNOYING when someone who is OUR OWN RELATIVE lies us. Well, in family, money could be the reason for anything, being one or maybe being separated. But I don't realy like the second one. But I support you so much in order to find out 'how much' is the actual amount of the man's income. Regardless whatever the source is. But you have to be very careful and down to earth when facing our 'leader'. Just keep respecting him and act as nice as you can. =)