I think I am going to lose it!

I have to say that although it might be difficult to hear, I think that Aharter has some good advice and made some good points. If your boys are sleeping until 11:00 and then going to look for jobs in the afternoon, then they are not making a very good first impression with the places to which they are applying. Employers want to see prospective employees in early to prove that they will indeed be able to be to work on time, especially if the job is during the day. There are obviously exceptions to this, but in generally it is better to apply in person and early in the morning. That is one of the things that will make you stand out and make employers notice you. It is also better to dress professionally, even if you are only applying to a burger joint. Don't overdo it and wear a business suit when you are applying to McDonalds, but do wear a nice shirt with a collar and trousers at least. The more you do to make yourself stand out from others (in a good way), the more chance you will have of getting a job. Also, getting to an employment agency at 5:30 in the morning might sound unpleasant, but you do what you need to do to get a job, especially in this economy. If they are not willing to put the extra effort in, then they won't find a job, because there are plenty of other people that are willing to put in the extra effort. It might be tiring at first, but their bodies will adjust to the new schedule.

Hello bitoffun I have been in a situtation something like that before. I know this might not be what you want to hear but please hear me out. My older son a few years back didn't have a job and his girlfriend kicked out. So he came running to me. He knew that I wouldn't put him out either. I did have to tell him a little later that time was up and he needed to do something. He did that and got out within a couple of weeks. My point being that the boys probably know that you will support them as long as need be. That might have a big part in why they are not working toward getting a better job. I know no mother wants to hear this but I would highly recomend that you tell the boys that it it time to find something else to work at. Let them know that it can cause problems between you and your hubby. I wish the best of luck and have a great day..Let us know how it turns out. Keep smiling..

I would sit them down and tell them that living with you is not a free ride. They are responsible for getting out and finding work. You have to stick up for your husband. Your boys are now adults and should have responsability. They should have things they do at the house to help you out and should be trying every day to find something, even if it is a fast food joint. It sounds like they are trying, but they need to try harder. You guys cannot keep this up. As for your husband, you need to sit down with him and talk with him. Find out what he would like them to do, to make him feel like they are pulling their weight. He has alot on his plate also. My daughter lived with us at that age. She left at 18 and couldn't make it because she wasn't working. She would sleep all day, and up all night. We finally had to make a plan and sit her down and tell her what is expected of her, and that there would be no excuses from her. We did not get nasty, we sat down and made a plan, we then sat down and told her how it was. You have to be strong, your kids won't want you with them forever, and you need to have someone to be happy with too.

Ma I am not sure how to handle this. The stress you and your hubby are going threw is difficult. All i can do is be here to listen. I would try to talk to him and let him know how you feel. Maybe the boys could look for part time work too?