What is your reaction to people that DEMAND best responces and good ratings?
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
United States
September 30, 2009 6:57pm CST
i have been on mylot for over a year and yet i have ran into this quite a bit when i go to do br on my past discussions (which i am so behind in currently) and it drives me NUTS when some one gives their reply the says "please mark me a + and give me best response" at the end! i mean seriously! there are other people that answered the same post and what makes you think your so great that you deserve it? if anything i will NOT rate you br because of your attitude.. i wont rate them negatively because of it but depending on their reply (quality) i may rate them well or if their reply isnt that great i just will skip rather than take revenge lol..
even worse is when they reply and its not even about the post! its like they made up a different post in their heads and answered that one but demand they get recognition!
do you purposely not give br or good ratings to people that ask for it in their reply to your post? do you rate them badly or skip rating them at all? or do you just ignore that part and see what their reply is like and rate them as if they didnt say it?
some of the people are newbies that do it so i guess they dont know better but when they have been around a lot its quite irritating! or maybe im just in a crabby mood lol
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24 responses
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 09
I have not come across such remarks. Why do they have to force others to give them br when it is supposed to be the choice of the poster. I don't think I like the idea of someone forcing me to award the br if they don't deserve one. It is quite irritating. It is like a deal, I response but you should award me a br. No way. I have my own good judgment as to who should be the rightful recipient.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
yeah its kind of insulting to the poster and the other replies acting like your the only one that deserves it!
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I don't let them bother me. I'll give a BR if I feel one is merited. No one is going to tell me to give them a BR or a plus rating. I do it when I feel it is warranted.
I give a few BRs but usually wait awhile. The BR may come in a year after posting a discussion. You just never know. Sometimes, there are so many good responses that I can't give any one person a BR, not if I'm being honest with myself and them.
Anyone who demands a plus rating and a BR has to be an extremely insecure person because these two things do nothing but stroke the ego. I honestly don't care if I ever get a BR or not. I mean, they're nice to receive but, if I never received another one, that would be fine with me. I'm not here to get top ratings or anything. I'm here because I love it here. There is so much to learn and great people to meet. It makes the ratings seem very insignificant in comparison.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Oct 09
yeah i have some really old ones i need to do but havent gotten around to.. heck before i got back on adderall i couldnt read all the replies and remember what i had read to pick which was the best on some that got a lot of replies!
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
23 Nov 09
Most of the time, I will just rate them positive for the effort to reply in my discussions. And unless I read a reply that really knock me off my shoes, I will just leave the BR till one comes along.
No point going batty over them posts. No one is going to be able to see or hear you. So, save your energy for something better than getting angry with these posts that annoys you.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
23 Nov 09
i dont rate them period since they are being obnoxious and wait for a good responce that deserves it.. which reminds me i should choose some br's lol
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@marguicha (223810)
• Chile
1 Oct 09
I haven´t seen that in my responses. And that is good for the begging mylotter because I would probably rate it with a minus.
I don´t usually rate responses unless the are very good or so rude the merit a minus. I give BR and, like you, am behind in that work.
I´m usually kind with newbies although I tell them to go and read the rules. Most of them come to mylot to make a fortune. I tell them links are out and that they can have a whale of a time here but won´t end like Bill Gates.
I don´t think rating minus an answer is taking revenge. There are many people that take care to go by the rules so it´s not fair for them if you don´t make a difference.
Happy posting!
. I tell them links are out and that they can have a whale of a time here but won´t end like Bill Gates.
I don´t think rating minus an answer is taking revenge. There are many people that take care to go by the rules so it´s not fair for them if you don´t make a difference.
Happy posting!2 people like this
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Oct 09
i always rate everyone that replies to anything i do with a plus unless they get rude or just put one word or something.. then i may minus or just not rate
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I have to be completely honest, I've never seen this in any of my discussions. However, were I to see it, I wouldn't be able in my right conscious to be able to give that person a best response because it wouldn't have been rightfully earned. I see in the discussions that I start that there are lots of responses that deserve to be rated a best response but I can only give it to one person. They make things so difficult on us.
Whenever I go through my discussions to give my best responses I will typically take all of the responses that I think are particularly thoughtful and then randomly choose a number between them.
But, I wouldn't give a br to a begger.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Oct 09
yeah its really hard sometimes to figure out who between several people should get it.. too bad we cant choose like 2 or 3 instead of just one
@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
hi there. nope, havent encountered it yet, thank goodness! i think it's unethical to ask or beg for points. sorry for the term, no offense meant to others but it looks pathetic. sometimes, if one sentence is enough coz it already made sense, elaboration is not needed for that matter and so i gave it some commendations. 
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
i havent seen it in awhile but i had tried going through my unresolved discussions and found several i needed to choose a br for have some one ask for it which reminded me about running into it over the last year or so
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Luckily, I have not seen that one too many times when it comes to a lot of my discussions, but personally I think it is a little tacky for sure. Unless they were to really give a Great response I felt worthy of giving them a BR too, I would never choose that one for sure. As for Rating, we are supposed to remember to Rate but to ask for something like this could get them rated negatively or not rated as well.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Oct 09
moonlitmagikchild well mylot rule says we are not to ask for best response to be given to us, or to be married plus or have more comments, we are not to ask for those favors. they further stated that discussions where this is asked or responses where it is asked will be deleted. so tell this pushy mylotter no you cannot do that and her asking is breaking a mylot admins. rule. that should stop the little beggar for sure. that is really going to far, I would tell someone who asked that of me just what I have told you. okay?
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
i think i might hunt up the ones i had and report them if they are still around.. they were prob fly by night users anyways but still..
@biman_s (1060)
• India
1 Oct 09
Well till now I haven't really come across any such thing. And I don't wish to confront with any such situations. Do they really beg? How dumb is that. When I post a discussion I generally receive very good responses from very good mylot users. The quality of their posts are also good. Its the new comers that generally make small silly posts.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
yeah the newbies do tend to do a million short posts and sometimes you can give them a clue that thats not how to make money and some times they know and dont care which is annoying.. but ugh to beg for a br is pathetic!
@bziebarth (228)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I think every serious MyLot user would like to get more best response answers. However, you bring up a very good point. If a person believes that they have given the best response, then why do they need to ask for it? Personally, I would immediately disregard anyone stating they deserve a "best response". If you do give these people a best response, then you are reinforcing bad behavior. They will believe that this is the way to get more best responses. In return, they will make a habit of asking for best responses. If all MyLotters would make a habit of not rewarding this behavior, there is a good chance people would stop doing it. Just a few quick thoughts.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
exactly.. even if he had the best response in the world i wouldnt have given it to him just because he had put that because i would be afraid it would incourage the madness
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
1 Oct 09
chill out friend, i only received one response post that encouraged me to give her a br rating. it's okay with me because i was impressed with her response so i gave her the br that she's asking for and even acknowledge her effort in responding to my discussion.
you will be fine friend and please don't get affected with this... they're just enjoying mylot and maybe wanting to be recognized for their efforts. but don't worry i understand your feelings. cheers!
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Oct 09
i think some think it will help their earnings which who knows if it does.. when i get several in a row i dont notice a jump in earnings so i dont think it does much
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
1 Oct 09
hi friend,
who knows it might have some bearing in the earnings hehehehehe but again it will allways be our judgment call to rate or not to rate them BR.
enjoy mylot and smile a lot!
@DCLehnsherr (1037)
•
1 Oct 09
Hi moonlitmagikchild,
Wow I have to admit that I am shocked to hear there are members like that around mylot. So far I have only come across ones that either give good responses, or those who give a sentence, never someone who gave a sentance and ordered a best response at the same time! Then again I am also terribly behind with regards to BR's, so maybe they know they wouldn't get one even if they tried, so they just don't bother LOL!
Should I ever do a discussion and get someone like that I would hate it. Heck I think I would have the sudden desire to try and locate a delete button to remove their response! I definitely would not give them a BR though, simply because by asking me for one they will have indicated that they don't think their response is actually any good, so I probably woulnd'nt bother reading even it! That and I am instantly on guard of anyone that tells me what do so and will do the opposite in a form of childish rebellion, so they would probably get ignored and maybe negatively rated depending on how annoyed I was at them.
I hope you don't get too many more of those in the future.
All the best,
Dranz
Wow I have to admit that I am shocked to hear there are members like that around mylot. So far I have only come across ones that either give good responses, or those who give a sentence, never someone who gave a sentance and ordered a best response at the same time! Then again I am also terribly behind with regards to BR's, so maybe they know they wouldn't get one even if they tried, so they just don't bother LOL!
Should I ever do a discussion and get someone like that I would hate it. Heck I think I would have the sudden desire to try and locate a delete button to remove their response! I definitely would not give them a BR though, simply because by asking me for one they will have indicated that they don't think their response is actually any good, so I probably woulnd'nt bother reading even it! That and I am instantly on guard of anyone that tells me what do so and will do the opposite in a form of childish rebellion, so they would probably get ignored and maybe negatively rated depending on how annoyed I was at them.
I hope you don't get too many more of those in the future.
All the best,
Dranz 1 person likes this
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
not to mention its insulting the other repliers saying that what they said is crap compared to theirs that deserves br.. im the same way. tell me to go right and i will go left lol
@LdeL0318 (6400)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
I haven't encountered those people yet. And If I did, I certainly won't like that also.I would only give the best response and positive ratings to those who are really deserving. I know that most of us here are working sincerely and as much as possible I want to give it to them. I just hope that those whom you are talking about won't take it against us. I know of some who rated you negatively because of some misunderstandings. Let us all work for the better here. That's all I can say.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
well the good thing is they wont know if you did rate them or not they would just know if you did br if you did it and they checked back.. yeah some times you can get people mad with misunderstandings here.. i know when i first joined over a year ago i swear it seemed like every discussion i posted i was being misunderstood! every reply i was trying to explain what i really meant and it drove me crazy and my star dropped low and everything.. but i think people arent as quick to judge as much now but i havent been around a lot to know for sure..
@artistry (4151)
• United States
1 Oct 09
....Hi moolitmagickchild, Now that is interesting, I just arrived in town at mylot, and very much enjoy the site and the communication, except for a couple of people who have their own agenda and cannot understand that everyone does not see things as they do, and that it is okay to agree to disagree, they want to run it in the ground. But, I have never had this experience that you have laid out and I hope I never do. I think that it is rude of anyone to request you chose them in any respect, for anything.
I can understand why they would want a positive response, anyone would, but not to demand it under any circumstance. Thanks for posting the information, perhaps it will reduce such activity. Take care.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Oct 09
no prob on the C lol i have had my user name butchered far worse by accident.. i have ran into it about half a doze times but ive been here over a year and posted god only knows how many discussions so its a small percentage that has done it but it just blows my mind when i do have it happen
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
1 Oct 09
it drives me NUTS when some one gives their reply the says "please mark me a + and give me best response" at the end! i mean seriously! there are other people that answered the same post and what makes you think your so great that you deserve it?
are you serious??! LOL omg I dont think I've had that happen...it might have I jsut dont remember though....LOL OMFG I would laugh my butt off to be honest with you...sure I would have a little more understanding if it were a newbie but even still its a pretty arrogant thing to say IMO..
are you serious??! LOL omg I dont think I've had that happen...it might have I jsut dont remember though....LOL OMFG I would laugh my butt off to be honest with you...sure I would have a little more understanding if it were a newbie but even still its a pretty arrogant thing to say IMO..1 person likes this
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
yeah if its a newbie then i can be like ok the person is just stupid and go on but some of them arent and its like wtf?!?!
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
We live in a competitive world and the desire to excel is normal and commendable but not to the extent of begging people for a rating. It is to be earned and a result of hard work.
Yes, it is annoying to read responses that have got nothing to do with the discussion posted as if people are not reading them properly, it is even more annoying to hear them demanding or begging for a rating. This is going overboard.
We just have to live with that I guess. For the many years I have been in mylot, I have run into several people like the ones you mentioned.
Cheers.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
i just wonder if they stay around for a long time or are the type that give up after a few days and not making their first million and disappear?
@EnglishTeaDuck (862)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I have not experienced that in my discussions, but I tend to agree with you - if you want a best response, you know what? Write as good a response as you can, and then leave it up to the person who wrote the discussion. Its not your place to decide if your own post was the best one, though if you want to sit at home mumbling at your screen 'hmmph, MY response was best' I suppose thats your own business...lol
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
haha not to mention that some people will give br to their friends or have a totally different view of what was good.. everyone chooses different so sometimes the person that does do best doesnt get it but at least they didnt insult themselves by begging for it lol
@irefed (200)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
I have recently joined mylot and I am still confused of the ratings and star code that being discussing by some of mylotters. I have encounter once that ask to mark a + to their posted response but I never follow what he suggested because I have the right to choose which gives me the most relevant and quality response. I agree with you it is sometimes irritating to let you do something which you have don't feel he/she deserves it.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
yeah i cant remember what points you have to reach before you get your first star but im sure you will get yours soon!! some things in mylot are confusing and took me awhile to get the hang of it
@bettydeng5 (1822)
• China
1 Oct 09
I'm a newer here, I read every topic and discussion carefully, and give my response seriously, because I would like to share the friend's real feeling. maybe some newer didn't do that like me, but I would like to tell other friends that we need to treat each other with our kind heart.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
2 Oct 09
and a lot of people love people like you that really think things out.. i hate it when i post something and i literally get TWO WORD answers that dont even make sense..
