My mom and her BF are splitting up?!?!

United States
September 30, 2009 7:59pm CST
Hi Everyone! As if you must know, I am very attached to my mother, I lover her very much! Recently, she has told me about some problems that her and her partner are having... At first I though it was nothing, being that all relationships go through some rough bumps! But than, she told me that they might be splitting up! They have been together for so long! I feel as if I am going to be losing someone so valuable to me! You think it is okay to feel like this? Should I be more on my mothers side on this? Would it be wrong to keep in contact?
5 responses
ShepherdSpy
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
1 Oct 09
It's a sad fact of life,but relationships do break down...You refer to him as Her BF,and not Your Dad,so you may well have been in this situation before when You were Younger? You have stronger ties to Your Mom,which is Natural,but if This Guy has been around for a long time in Your life,He's as close as family can Be to You,though no blood relation.There's no reason why You shouldn't keep in contact with Him if You want to,He's been part of Your Life.The only thing might be,if things have gone sour between him and Your Mom,that She might rather not be reminded of him...You'd need to talk this out with them Both and talk about their feelings on the subject..I hope You're happy with how things turn out..
ShepherdSpy
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
2 Oct 09
The easiest way is just come out with it to Him.."Can I still keep in contact with You afterwards?" Everybody has cellphones and email addresses now anyway.. Have things gone to that stage yet that it's definitely over? Would He stay in the Area,or did He come from somewhere else that he might move away? Being close to Your Mom,You should be able to discuss this with Her..good Luck..
prikayjo2436
@prikayjo2436 (699)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Hi sherpherdspy! I know that is something that we do need to talk about... But I don't even know how to bring things up! Thanks so much for responding!
Pjstorm12
@Pjstorm12 (2)
• United States
1 Oct 09
My parents split up a while ago, you cant stop it and you just got to get thru the tough times
prikayjo2436
@prikayjo2436 (699)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Hi Pjstorm! Yes I know! I just don't know how to feel right now! Its not like my mothers bf is my father.. Has been around for such a long time, I know that he would be missed!
spalladino
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
1 Oct 09
There's no reason why you need to get in the middle of this so take your cues from your mother and her boyfriend when it comes to future contact. The main thing that you need to do is to let both of them know that you care and that you are always available if either of them needs to talk.
prikayjo2436
@prikayjo2436 (699)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Hi spalladino! Well I am sure that they are aware of me always being around for the both of them! I will just wait and see what happens between the both of them! Thank you so much for responding!
Rainegurl
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Hi, prikayjo Unless the reason for the split up is that your mother's partner is hurting her or abusing her, then I do not think that there is a need to take sides. You just have to respect their decision and continue being friendly with the ex-partner of your mom. Of course, you have to also make sure that your mom is ok with that and that you have to protect her always. Have a nice day!
ybong007
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
You have to respect their decision. I'm sure as mature adults they have talked it over before they came to their decision to split up. You don't have to take sides either, if they separated as friends then there's no reason why should not remain in contact. You may be in a difficult situation right now, but you'll all feel fine in due time.
prikayjo2436
@prikayjo2436 (699)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Hey ybong007!!! Thanks for the response! Yes! I agree, time heals all wounds!