Don't you hate to hear complaints a lot from work?

Yeah, I highly avoid those. I mean, if you don't like your job - then quit! Rather than just yapping there for something that obviously wouldn't change. It's quite draining too not just for the complainer but also to those who are listening, or even over-hearing. I get this a lot from my partner. But it's okay if it's not everyday that he does this. We just needs to vent out once in a while. But he knows how to avoid doing so everyday. I too have my share of complaints in my job, but no sense nagging about it day-in and day-out.

I totally agree with you. What pissed off me the most is sometimes those colleage of mine that resent each other at work will nag about it to me. So I am hearing their whining simutaneously. I do not know what to react at all as they are noth saying negative to each other. How I wish they just settle their differences rather than nagging about it to other people. They are both close to me and I'm just kinda upset on the situation.

Where I work there is someone like this as well, and it can be quite annoying. And often these are people that never want your advice, as they think they still have all of the answers as well. I work with one guy that is always finding fault with everyone and everything and always complaining, but if you complain about him, then you are childish and he never does anything wrong. It really can be annoying for sure.

Hi Xlorissa123 I think there is one of those in every job! And yes it can be quite annoying I have one at my job and if I don't hear her complain about one thing or another it just doesn't feel like I'm at work A lot of people complain at one time or another at their jobs she is not the only one who complains at my job I do to and so does everyone else from time to time but she kinda does it in excess so I do get where your coming from but I will say this we have been working together for 15 years longer than anyone two people at that building so we grow on each other I would really miss her when she retires because we talk about a lot of things

Clorissa, you might try thinking up some inane topics to have on hand as an arsenal. This worked well for me. I had one guy like that. I found out he owned a dog and loved him a lot. So when he started to get on my nerves and I couldn't get away from him, I would ask, "So how's your dog?" Everything he said after that I would ask something else about the dog. Sooner or later he either started talking about the dog, which I could ignore, or he huffed and walked away, which was fine. Eventually he caught on and complained less. When he started, I would say "So how's your dog?" with a smile. He would look at me for minute, then smile and back off. Hint taken, delivered with a smile, and problem solved.

just do your thing. do your job. if he is a friend, you can talk to him and tell him that he is just wasting his energy because hes not being productive in complaining. =)

There are always people like that.. in the workplace or in any other environment. They are the complainers, pessimists, negative ones. It is really annoying especially if you hear about their complaints almost everyday. They can't seem to find the good things in any situation or in anyone. I just hope while you are with them in the workplace, your attitude and outlook in life will not be influenced by them, lol. Maybe you could teach them by simply saying to them positive things like the blessings that God has given you everyday. Have a happy day!

hi clorissa123! i think its natural to people to complain when things don't go their way.so everyone of us must have done it .but cribbing about your work place everytime and to everyone definitely gets annoying.i usually restrict my interaction during work hours and if at all i get somebody coming over and complaining i just listen without being a part of it. but mentally i try to take a note if thats a genuine one or just out of jealousy becoz there are people out at work who like to run over others.and the victims usually don't have the guts to be assertive so try to vent their feelings by cribbing about it to others.so i might allow the poor fellow to unburden a bit.but my involvement is nothing beyond that.

yes because you want to keep a distance when you are at work. what i mean is work should be home and home and personal life should be different from what happens at work. i am like you, i just want to go to work and get it done.

I agree with you. For me when someone complains about the job it makes things harder for me. I usually don't really think about the task at hand negatively and get it over with ease. This one time I was working in a garden and boy those guys loved to quarrel. And with the sun beating down on your back at around noon it only gets worse. i felt really weak.

Hi, clorissa Yes, you are right. What's important is that you do not say anything negative about anyone. Keep your comments to yourself in order to avoid trouble. I have learned my lesson the hard way not so long ago. One friend was complaining about the other to me and that too was complaining about the first one to me also. To make a long story short, I ended up being the bad person because...oh, I forgot what their reason was. Anyway, when your co-worker starts his bashing just give non-committal remarks and act as if your thinking about something else so that he would feel that you are not really interested in his whining. Cheers!

Yes Absolutely I agree. There are lots of people who think that they can never do any mistake in office. And just complaining other persons make them feel good. Often their charges are bogus, and they do it because they have nothing else better to do than complaining. I think this is one of the worst habits they have.

I do not agree with you in keeping a distance with your old co-worker. I think that he has reasons why he kept on complaining.He might be that he feels alienated,like what you are doing, he is humiliated, he might be overworked, he might be depressed or he might have some problems at his home. The best thing for you to do is to help this co-worker by asking /talking to him why he is always complaining? Tell him frankly its not good to always making complaints. Encourage him instead to do his job according to the best of his ability and if possible reduce if not totally do away with a lot of complaining. This way, he will be efficient and productive in his work. And, you yourself will no longer hate hearing complaints from your co-workers.

Yes,complaints brought bad mood easily. And someone likes complaining because he takes it as a way to relax.So don't care much about your co-worker who often complains. And as ourselves should realize that complaints mean nothing and we should just work harder. Good luck clorissa.

hi clorissa If a person so dislikes his work and those around him then tell him why does he want to work there then. I have'also worked with people like that and usually they dont last too long before they get crossways of someone with all their complaining and finally get fired. here is hoping huh?

I am a person who keeps distance with people at work. I am a friend of everybody, but not a close friend of anybody. I try to maintain a good relationship with everybody at work and don't purposly create problems for people. If I find that somebody purposly creates problems for me, I will never let the leave peace. I will counter attack them with all my strenth. I don't involve too much into the problems that happen at work. I just listen to them and if I have suggestions to improve the situation I will share it with the concenrned situation. I will never do the work of adding oil to fire and make the situation worse. I also dont' force people to take my opinion or suggestion. I always don't try to get into the personal space of people.

hi clorissa, sounds familiar...hehehe i also have some co-workers who's so consistent in complaining about everything...from people, work, salary, benefits, etc. i used to tell them if they're not happy maybe this is not the right place for them and maybe it's high time to look for another job. i just encouraged them to look at the positive side of things... for them to be thankful that they still have a job amidst the crisis that we are experiencing right now.

agree! dont have time dealing with a wet blanket. have other things to prioritize other than spending time with the whinings. not bad to hear them sometimes coz they might be really needing someone to talk to. it might help us or them to become a better person but to make it a habit? oh, man, it's not helping. how about the words "moving on"?

Well, I agree with you. I hate people who always complains by the other fault of co-worker. Maybe a employee doing such habit is insecure with his/her co-employee. I always do my job and finished my work at my own pace. I don't mind others what are they working.

Yes, I also hate that kind of person which always complain other people. I appreciate your peace in your mind.If a person has his own peace in his mind,he will much more peaceful. So, I think the guy has some unstatisfication in his mind. Maybe he is not so satisfied with his job, or salary, or he thinks he worth more. Or maybe some unfair things happen to him and he can not accept that peacefully. And also maybe, his family are not so good and loving. He is always be complainted by his wife. I believe this kind of things can inflence him a lot. Make him complaining. Another reason,I can think about, is that he is at his clmacteric age.Man also have therir clmacteric age. He is upset because of his biological reason. My dear, forgive his insolence by your peace!