My interpretation of a participating in mylot discussions.

Yes I agree fully with your views.It is important to make others feel that their responses are being accepted with due credit and when we comment back,the interaction simply grows and that is the way we learn and grow.I harbour similar thoughts as you so thanks for sharing your point of view.Take care.

You are correct. You are such a gentleman and I hope you are respected by everyone here on MyLot.

That is so beautiful but coming from you its not a surprise at all. I think we should create an environment of sanity and fondness so that whoever has participated could feel the halo. They should be treated well with love and caress. I try to do that myself. I feel, its my honor to have them in my small world of love and happiness and sorrows. People here are beautiful and many of them have entered into my world in MD and made it a wonderful place. O am really grateful to each one of them for their precious sharings. Thanks Deepak for being a wonderful friend.

Hi Deepak! This guest seems to be six hours late for the party and here I have a legitimate excuse for this.My computer had crashed once again and I was unable to participate. Joking apart, it is ind of you to say these words and I feel as honoured to be writing a response as I would consider a response[I too feel very honoured that a person has been kind enough to respond to my discussion topic.] As far as the "mimimum courtesy " expectation I think this is just in a tiny corner of my mind and not in the forefront. In short, I feel honoured when someone responds.I do not hold it too much against them if they don't comment.Of course then there is not much fun in the interaction and it becomes jsut a matter of writing a few lines for a few cents.

Your home and guest analogy is good. It really is as simple as that and we are conversing with people and sharing our minds and thoughts. And it is more than just thinking of how much we are going to earn. People who are just after the points and the little pennies won't last anyway. Keep up the good work and happy mylotting.

I appreciate it when people respond to my answers to their discussions. I also try to respond to those who respond to mine. I can only do that for like the first 3 days after I ask the question though other wise it gets to hard to keep up. So for 3 days after I ask a question I will check to see if there are new comments and I will respond. After that I just can't do it especially because I try to ask at least 2 questions per day. But I try I really do, and after someone leaves me a comment and I respond, I always go to their account and answer one of their questions if I can.

I like your analogy very much. It teaches us to have a certain respect for others, even if we disagree with them - it is, by the way, quite in order to openly disagree with someone as long as we do it with respect. Actually, it is the element of disagreement (or, perhaps, more accurately and completely, the existence of different views) which probably contributes most to a discussion. A topic on which nobody has anything to say except "I agree" cannot really become a discussion and what can you say as a comment to someone who simply says "I agree with all you say"? The Guidelines are actually a little misleading when they say: "DON'T Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings." It has been proved beyond all argument that adding substantial comments to peoples' responses DOES increase our earnings! What is meant, of course, is that merely saying "Thank you for responding" out of politeness does not contribute anything to the discussion and is bad practice in that sense. I don't have any particular animosity about people who don't comment on my responses but I tend to think of them (especially if they don't comment on ANY responses) as, perhaps, not being very interested in their own discussions! As a matter of fact, I don't always comment on every response in my discussions. In some cases it is because I would have very little different to say to them from what I have already said to others and in some cases it is because the response itself is so minimal that there is nothing useful one can add (except, perhaps, to encourage them to say more). There are all kinds of people in MyLot (as in the world). So long as people don't say anything strongly disrespectful or hurtful to me, it doesn't matter greatly to me whether people choose to comment on what I say or not. Saying nothing is not necessarily a sign of impoliteness or that one is being ignored in my culture, at least, and I don't have any notion that everything I say is necessarily always valuable and relevant to the 'discussion owner' (or to the discussion as a whole) - I hope that my responses usually are, of course!

Hi deepak, Your interpretation is so good but I am accepting the first part only where you felt as the host and treating the responders as your guest. I am also valuing them and acknowledging the acceptance sooner or later. In the second part when I respond to others discussion, I never expect the treatment as a guest. I expect the responses from close friends only otherwise I won’t think that they should acknowledge my response. But many of them are responding and resolving their discussions and only some are not bothered much or don’t know to keep the courtesy. Have a great weekend and enjoy the holidays.

Your interpretation is very good. When I start a discussion and see the responses I feel happy that someone has participated in my joys / sorrows / thoughts / beliefs. It is nice that when I am not around my mylot friends feel my absence and express their joy / happiness at seeing me back. It shows that people here just do not respond for money but respond as friends. It feels nice that even though I do not respond to a lot of mylotters discussions they still take the trouble of responding to my discussions. Our discussions are like a home where all mylotters visit as guests and come in with their "gift" of responses. Very often we like the "gifts" that we receive but sometimes we do receive gifts that we do not like. But we quietly take those too without complaining.It has always been a pleasure visiting your "home" of discussions and receiving your "gift" of responses.

I think that the way you see it is very admirable. It really can help to make your responses longer, kinder, and more at ease. It's also fun to visualize what a person's home may look like by the way they respond, and by what their interests are. I have wondered how a person looks when chatting online, but to my knowledge I've never visualized their home. I hope that you are doing well, and are having a great time mylotting!

I think that is a wonderful view on discussions' particiaption of mylotters. Yes, in my case i feel so greateful and appreciated when my friends comment back on my responses. It is such a great interaction with friends on here and i also agree that it is a give and take process. I hope i conntributed a little on this.

Hi Deepak its really a very nice imagination that you are host and inviting all of us to your home.. I totally agree with what you said .. expecting from others is what we all of us do when we respond to any discussion.. few friends comment us back and few will never do that..

hello deepak! that's so nice of you! something that i can't really do with my 'guests' in some of my discussions...but anyway, i am always thankful to all those mylotters who responded to my discussions... and i think you have a very nice way of interpretation about the discussions...huh! as for me, i also see it this way but just there are times that i was not able to respond or comment back on their responses... sometimes i also treated discussions as chat room! hehe where i can chat with my friends about certain topics... have a nice day deepak! and thanks for letting me in in your 'home'

Hello my friend dpk262006 Ji, Well, you are very right in your way, but tehre is no harm if we replace 'home' with heart so that I will be more closer to venu of discussion. May God bless You and have a great time.

even i think along similar lines,that is the reason why i feel so guilty if i dont comment to their responses in my discussions but now i genuinely dont have time(hope my friends will underwstand that)

Hello Deepak, I think everything depends on what kind of person you are. what kind of nature you have and how important are social values for you. If a person by nature is a kind of who gives equal importance to every matter, and deals it with lot of interest and enthusiasm, appreciating the respondent like a VIP GUEST...then his feelings will be very much like yours. But all are not same. Some may give importance only to earrings, some may not mind even if his/her best friend did not answer, some may just forget........some may not have time for follow up......and some may be confused for no reason ,like me....., and since I am confused, I better stop here....

I always accord a 'red carpet' welcome to each and everyone who come to pay their visit and avail themselves in my discussions. I treat each one as an important guest so they will not shy away from my future discussions. When they took their time to response to my discussions it is only fair that I repay their sacrifice by coming back to them to comment to make them feel comfortable and welcomed as it is not everyday that I have the chance to welcome them to my 'open house' and it is only through posting of discussions that I be able to interact with other mylotters. I assure everyone that they are not sidelined or neglected in my territory. Every response is treated with utmost importance as without them, a discussion is kept longer in the cold room and eventually becomes history, no responses mean the discussion is a failure which also means our efforts are in vain.

What I hear from your discussions is that you have the utmost respect for what you and others do here at MyLot. I appreciate that. When I first joined MyLot I never gave to much thought about respecting anyone’s time for writing or reading my work or anyone else's for that matter. I sort of looked at it as a site people came to in hopes to make a quick buck without to much effort and I was one of them. It was kind of hard to treat it seriously actually because there appeared to be too many MyLotter’s writing one lined silly questions begging for one word silly answers. However eventually I noticed that there were some conscientious MyLotte's and through them I learnt to take the whole MyLot process very seriously. I just wish I have had more time spend here!

Hello dpk, Your interpretation of Mylot participation is really nice. I never thought of that. But in a way you are right. Treating our responder with much respect and appreciation is good in making the discussion alive and active. I would always put this into my mind. Thanks for sharing!

Wow! You have made an amazing interpretation of my-lot world. A place where each discussion is a home of a member and users are invited to drop in their opinion is awesome comparison!! I too have a similar opinion. My interpretation is that my-lot is a meeting place of loads of members where one or more members come up with a topic to discuss and any one who can add his/her opinion can participate and respond to that topic. Some topics get loads of responses, some don't and some of the topics get banned by main judging team thats my-lot team here . Some get best responses and some get positive ratings or negative ones. So a complete package of discussing and posting is available here at my-lot! Have fun participating!