Do you think buying toys for kids is a waste of money?

Malaysia
October 1, 2009 11:37am CST
During my niece 4th birthday, she received lots of presents. While she was having fun unwrapping all those presents, a couple, my sis's friends, were arguing about buying toys for kids. One of them was saying that all those toys were just wasting money although he did see that there were other stuff like books and clothes as well... Anyway, some parents would save up a little money to get the things that their kids have always wished for whereas there are some who would never buy a thing for their kids. There are those who would give in to their kid's demands when they wept just because of toys, but then again there are also those who wish they could buy toys for their kids, but do not have enough money... Dear mylotters, what do you think of this issue? Even if you have no children, do you always buy toys for your nieces/nephews/siblings?? Please share your thoughts! Thanks!
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
1 Oct 09
well, i think too many toys are for a child because many have so many toys they dont know what to play with. my daughter is 12 and we have bought her toys throughout the years and when she gets bored, she will go back and play with her bratz and legos. i think toys are fine but the amount of them should be limited.
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• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi, Cher! My nephews and niece are like your daughter. They have many toys and sometimes they would play with the new one for a while before they go back to play legos and the new toys would end up in a box!
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@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 09
Buying toys for kids are not a waste of money. I agree with Cher, we should limit on the toys for the kids, not too buy too many for them. Try getting some educational toys for the kids, so they can play and learn at the same times. Legos is good for kids so they can get more creative and use their right brain more often.
• Malaysia
12 Nov 09
Vingyan ~ Yes, it's true that there should be some limitation on buying the toys for the kids otherwise it can be wasted and in a way, the money will be wasted. I agree about the educational toys, which can help the children mental development as well as creativity.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I think that kids need a variety of things to help them learn, toys included, but not in abundance. I used to buy my kids a new toy every chance I got because, at the time I was a single parent and I guess I was trying to show them through material things that I love them. That was the wrong approach. My kids ended up having so many toys at one point in time that they were over-whelmed. I found that they only had a select few that they really ever played with, so, one day, we went through all of their toys and got rid of the unwanted and broken things. As it turned out, they only wanted a handful of things and they wanted to hold on to their books more than anything else. I have gotten to the point with my kids that they rarely get new toys, maybe a few for a holiday, or as a surprise if they have really earned it. I have also implemented a system in my home where at least once a year, they have to go through their toys and get rid of the things that they no longer play with. It has really helped my children learn that they do not need to have everything and that they can have fun just using their imaginations. So, no, buying toys in moderation is not a waste of money, in my opinion, but buying everything a child wants is.
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• United States
3 Oct 09
You said exactly what I wanted to say, but you said it more eloquently than I did. Thanks! :)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi, Lynnemg! I guess that is what some parents do, buying toys to substitute them with their time or to get the children attention or show their love and how much they care. They don't mean to spoil their children, but in some point, they do not realize what it can do to the children. What you are doing is quite inspiring and something to learn. It is great that they are comfortable with the new system, which is wiser and reasonable.
@balasri (26537)
• India
27 Nov 09
Different stages of a person's life warrants different materials that bring happiness in to the life.If we kiss that opportunity the chance will never return.Children like to have toys when they are young.I I very much live to shower them with toys within my capacity.When they grow old and are in need of a young girl or boy any amount of toys in the world will fulfill their yearning.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Nov 09
Yeah.Moderation in everything in life is the key to happiness.
• Malaysia
28 Nov 09
You are very correct in putting it that way. Some things are a necessity according to our cycle of life. Toys are a part of growing up, so, children should have this experience to help them develop, but I think parents also don't have to buy them toys excessively.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
1 Dec 09
Hi corrycrystal, I don’t think that buying toys is a waste of money. Toys help kids to learn many things in a funny way. There are lots of toys available in the market and we have to select the good toys for them. The choice is also important, means the right toys according to the age of kids. I read that hanging colourful objects in the coat of a new born will increase the vision, observation etc. I think the people argue on toys may be thinking that the books and cloths are more useful to the kids. But it is true that toys are also necessary. Kids can sit and play with the toys and it helps to stay away from mother for some time. This is the first step of doing something independently. There are many advantages with toys.
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• Malaysia
3 Dec 09
Hi, Sree! You are right about kids being independent when we let them play with their toys and they do not have to tag along their mothers all the time. I also agree that we play an important role on which toys to give to the kids according to their ages. Even though books are beneficial for the kids, but yes, toys are important for them to have some fun time.
@techgurl (451)
• Greece
27 Nov 09
From one side I do think that buying toys is a waste of money as most kids would just play with them a bit and then either break them or just get bored and toss them aside. But on the other side they are kids and they should enjoy their childhood by playing with toys. Probably a mix is the best. Some useless toys, some educational ones, some books, some clothes, art supplies, a rubik's cube (I want to get for my 1 year old nieces ), etc. I think this way the child's horizons will expand and the child will find a lot of interests, some fun, some educational, and some both fun and educational.
• Malaysia
28 Nov 09
Hi, Techgurl! I like your answers. Children do need to experience and play with all kind of toys. At some stage, we will notice which toys they like to play with and it will be easier for us to determine on the toys that interest them or help to develop their interest in educational toys if they seem to have lack of interest in them. A Rubik's cube for your one-year-old niece?? Wow, that will keep her busy for a while.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Oct 09
Do I always buy toys for my children or my nieces, no I don't. For my nieces I will buy them two toys each year. One for their birthday and one for Christmas. For my own children I will buy them things more often, but not nearly as often as I used to. My children were very spoiled when they were younger and when we moved earlier this year we realized that they had too many toys to even ever find the time to play with. So, my husband and I decided that we wouldn't buy them toys anymore without any reason. We've decided instead to start rewarding them for their good behavior with commissions. Meaning, when they do their chores or in the example of my daughter, get 100 percent on a spelling test, we write it down on a commission sheet. At the end of the month we pay out their commission and the children are free to do whatever they want with their money. They can save it up to buy something that they want or they can even use it for the ice cream truck. Since we've quit buying as many toys for the children, it seems to me that they are more content and rarely just ask for something.
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• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi, Dorannmwin! I normally would only buy toys or other educational stuff for my nephews and niece during birthdays and Christmas. So, those are the only time of the year they have always been waiting for. Your idea is great for children at this age. They are very specific on what they want and money is quite a good alternative. Perhaps when my nephews and niece are a bit older, I would suggest this to my sis or do it myself when I have my own kids. Thanks!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
1 Oct 09
This is a great idea! I would surely try this with my kid. He's the one always wanting to buy games for his DS and WII. This will give him incentive to do better in school.
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 09
Well, I think it depends what kinds of toys we are buying for the kids. I always like to buy some educational toys that can help developing the kids' skills for them, and I don't think buying these toys are a waste of money. My baby is 7 months old now, and I have been buying toys for him since he was born. The toys are to help him developing his skills, such as toys from Fisher-price, Lamaze. I really like the toys from these companies, as they provide toys for kids from age to age, and to develop certain skills too.
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• Malaysia
13 Oct 09
Hi, Kaka! Yes, buying those educational toys much worth the money than those breakable ones that do not last long. I seldom buy toys at one place or with the same brand, but I think it's good that you have your own preference as you already know the quality and more money will be saved.
@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
10 Nov 09
no, i dont think that buying toys is money wasting as through personal experience I have come to know that being a child, the best thing for you is the toys as children loves it than any other thing in life. it brings happiness to the kids, what else does a parent want?
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• Malaysia
10 Nov 09
I don't think it's a waste either, but I always believe that there is a limitation when buying toys for kids because they don't need too many toys, which could spoil them and some of the toys might even end up being neglected after just a few days.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
9 Nov 09
Hello friend. I think that it is good to buy some toys for kids as they can help the children develop their wisdom, especially some toys that the kids will have to use their own hands to install. I have been buying toys for my children all the time. Toys of different kinds will be bought for them at a different age of their.
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• Malaysia
9 Nov 09
Hi, William! Nice to see you here. Yes, most kids will get smarter and wiser when they have toys especially the educational ones to help them thinking and use their brains or simply some toys like you mentioned to build or make something using their hands. Buying toys according to their age is also good for their mental development, however, it shouldn't be too many for the kids to handle as it can be a waste of money I think.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
I do not think buying our kids with toys is a waste of money. It is also important for them to play and enjoy life as a child. One way of doing so is to have toys to play. The thing to consider is not to overdo them. Meaning, just buy toys that are appropriate for them. Some have to much and some have nothing at all. We also have to consider our financial situation and status.
• Malaysia
14 Oct 09
Hi, Jpso! Yes, kids need toys as part of growing up and they are not able to enjoy them once they grow up. Status is another thing. Even if we have more than enough money, I don't think the money should be spent buying all the toys that are not needed. What for buying something that will be left untouched. Might as well just donate them to the orphans. So, I agree with you, just buy toys that are appropriate.
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I think most of the time it is a waste because the kids usually get bored with the toys in a day or two. Most children are bombarded with way to many toys and games. They are everywhere and they tend to overstimulate the children and keep them wanting more and more things. When I did not have children I did do a lot of buying for my nieces and nephews but they were mostly practical gifts. I did not believe in trying to get every toy they saw on TV and in stores. Today, I do not buy my daughter a lot of toys. If fact, I buy her less than I bought them and you know what? She's happy! She loves nature and her favorite treasures are rocks and crystals. She loves to sew and knit so I buy her those type of things. Nothing fancy, nothing expensive and she is very very happy!
• Malaysia
13 Oct 09
Hi, LumenMom! I agree with you that kids will get bored easily with their toys and sometimes too many toys will just make them confused and some new toys will only be touched for a few days, and after that it will be left lying around or never being played with again. It is consider a waste of money especially when the toys do not interest the kids. So, I think it is best to learn what your kids love like your daughter so, it wouldn't be wasted and when she is happy with what she has, we will feel satisfied, too.
@haiershen (1080)
• China
10 Nov 09
i think it is good and necessary to buy toys for children on their each age,as toys would be develop their wisdom and skills.at the same time, it is a good way to communicate between children and parents. but due to every family have different finacial situation,so i think we should be limited the quantity of the toys.as the toys isn't very cheap,and if the toys too large,it is no more time for the child to play all.good luck and have a nice day!
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• Malaysia
10 Nov 09
I agree that it can help to develop strong skills for the children as well as communication tools between the parents and children. Again, yes, I also think that every parent should limit the amount of toys as kids usually would only be excited to receive new toys, but they only play with certain toys and the rest will be a waste. Anyway, thanks for your response, Haiershen, and you too, have a nice day!!
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
10 Oct 09
I have no children now and I don't think that it is a waste of money to buying toys for kids. In fact, your story reminds me of something when I was very young. When I was just 6 years old, my parents had no money to buy something during my birthday for we were poor at that time and there no relatives of mine gave me one toy. Yes, I felt so unlucky for other kids were always having so many toys to play. Nowadays, I have grown up and have some money to buy all toys that I like, But everything have been late. So, it is really not a waste of money to meet the kids' hope.
• Malaysia
10 Oct 09
Yes, you are right. Sometimes, there are parents who could not afford to buy toys for their kids, but as long as they love you and you have something to eat, that would be more than enough, I think. However, being just a little kid, we do not understand that, and then it is the responsibility of the parents to explain, but not scold the kids when they are asking for toys. My hubby did mention to me before that he also grew up without many toys. Sometimes he would invent something from another few toys he had to make something. He would still talk about it sometimes.
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
I buy toys for my child, educational and musical toys. I can't help myself from buying something for my child which I know would make her happy. I'm a first time mom and when I just gave birth to my daughter, every time I go to the mall to buy groceries I always dropped by the department store in the kids' section. There were times when I only have a budgeted amount with my only for groceries but when I passed by the kids' department I saw this very lovable toy. No matter how hard I tried to stop myself from buying but I was failure. I spent the money intended for groceries to buy that toy for my baby. It made her happy the first few days and she played with it all the time but a week after I just found it broken and she won't even care to play with it anymore. I've learned my lesson I don't splurge on my baby's toys anymore, I still buy some but only those that are educational and those musical toys since my baby likes music so much. Happy Lotting!
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• Malaysia
10 Oct 09
Hi, Air! Thanks for sharing your experience. I did that to my nephews before. I love making them happy and I bought them not only toys, but sometimes something cheaper, as long as there was always something that could make them happy whenever they received something from me. So, I perfectly understand what you have gone through, you spent your money on not some useless things, but for the love and happiness of your child. However, it is a great achievement that you have grown wiser in managing and controlling your money, and the toys will not become wasted and you can save some money as well.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
i don't think that it's a waste of money as long as mothers and fathers put limitations on the toys they give to their children. Children don't have an idea of how much is the price of the toy, as long as he is happy receiving toys, so it would be better to buy inexpensive toys rather than the expensive one and then be broken afterwards, then it's one way of wasting money.
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• Malaysia
9 Oct 09
Hi, Anne! That's what most of the members here agreed on with that parents should have some limitations on buying toys for the children. It is true that children are likely to break their toys so, buying those costly toys in a way is indeed wasting money. I also think that children should be taught and explained why they can't have certain toys.
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 09
Hi there.I think it depend on how you manage your money.important to know that our kids need toys because at the age playing is their world.Children like playing because that's the way to learning.I buy some toys for my son but I choose education toys,i mean the toys that have education value (you can read about kids growth) and sure,I had to allocate money for it.But we could plan when kids need and love,or is it suitable woth their age.don't buy toys every time they ask.
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• Malaysia
10 Oct 09
Hi, Zhizho! Thank you for your response. I agree with you that money management is quite important when buying toys for kids, and yes, children world are playing. It is a part of growing up and it has great influence on their growth especially those educational toys. Age is also important to consider when buying toys for kids because kids below 5 years old tend to break their toys easily. I think it's wise of you to allocate some money for toys.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
not at all.. toys helps kids develop emotionally, mentally and physically dpending onwhat the toy is.. they are essential to a kid's growth...
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• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi, Pat! I agree, toys are part of children development.
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
I have children, and I do buy them toys. Whether it's educational toys or not, I make it a point to buy them toys once in a while. Not always though. This is because I believe that every child has the right to enjoy their childhood and have fun. Children are supposed to have lots of fun, since when they become adults, they can no longer do things such as play all day. So why not let them enjoy, right? Even before I had children, I bought my nieces and nephews toys as well. Having fun isn't wrong, and sometimes, children learn from toys as well. I just make sure I choose toys that are safe to play with, or those that are educational so they learn at the same time that they're having fun.
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• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi, Calientemamma! Yes, you are right! Toys are a part of growing up. That's what children do, having fun, play with their toys and learn especially from the educational one.
• Indonesia
2 Oct 09
I think that is not waste your money. Toys is one way to make our childs creative and get imagine. That is give trainee to our childs brain. But we must controlled what type of toys
• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi, Masteronline! Yes, those educational toys can help the children to use their brains and be creative. It's great that you think buying toys is not wasting money, and I am sure that you already know what kind of toys is suitable for the kids. Good for you!
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
I don't consider it as a waste of money. Buying a toy for a kid gives so much joy for the recipient. When this kids grow old, they will always be reminded of your love and kindness. They will consider it as a treasure for their whole life through. However, there must be some limitations. And this limitations should be properly explained to them so that as early as possible they will understand the importance the value of money and how difficult to earn money.
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• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
Hi, Angelswings! You are so right and I agree with what you were saying. Since toys are a part of growing up, children will always remember the toys they have and bring sweet memories to them. However, if parents tend to forget or ignore their kids' needs, some children will grow up feeling neglected and sometimes will affect their relationship with the parents. Kids should be explained why they can't have toys and when they will receive toys.