It happens for a reason
By violeta_va
@violeta_va (4831)
Australia
October 2, 2009 1:06am CST
I am strong beliver of this as of few weeks ago. I went out with this guy for 3 years and we broke up and I was totaly crashed because of that. Now I am married and have 2 wonderful kids with another man. I found out that this ex of mine is actually an abuser and all was great with his wife untill they got married and then he fliped and started abusing her now I know that could have been me.
Another e.g I loved a specific name for my potential daughter and everyone in the family knew that, and then my brother in law had a girl and gave her that name. Again I was very upset about that. Few weeks ago I found out that my high school sweethard and boyfriend (this was totaly inocent relationship between a 15-17 year old and 18-20 year old) has a daughter with that name. Lucky as it would have been so bad if I called my now 5 month old girl that name.
Do you think things happen for a reason? Did something turned out not the way you wanted and then realised that it was great that it didnt?
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7 responses
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
2 Oct 09
First of all violeta_va, it is truly nice to hear from you, and I am betting that it is that new little girl that is keeping you very busy. Congratulations!
I believe there is a rhyme or reason for everything that happens in our life, possibly at the time of occurence it may seem dispassionate, but as time prevails we are able to understand the reason, even tho', at the time, didn't seem the best!I m sorry about the "name Choice"~~ but with time, there will be logic to that, too!
Did I miss the discussion, on the birth of your beautiful baby? Once again, congratulations! Give her a big welcoming hug, from B.C., Canada!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
3 Oct 09
Thank you, violeta_vu...I am so,so, sorry I missed the birth of your little beauty!And what I don't understand is how I missed those discussions...have checked & your profile is turned on! Another glitch!
I am truly thrilled that thru all your trials (heat wave, noise, etc.,) that you experienced this "little miracle." (And I think, a little jealous...as I only have one child.) Take care & Cheers!
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
4 Oct 09
hahaha well put it this way you only had to do the nappy, not sleeping, not going out, dirty clothes and stains only 1 time does that make you feel better:) I had the worse pregnancy and I dont think anything more could have happend to make it any more worse than it was but I survived and I will do it again (not that I can convince my husband on that one) I am going to post a picture to see my little one
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
4 Oct 09
OH MY GOODNESS.....WHAT TRULY, TRULY BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN!!!!!!! THANK YOU, SO KINDLY FOR SHARING THE BEAUTIFUL PHOTO! wow! wow! That photo just proves that all good things are worth struggling for (e.g. heat-wave, sickness)...you are truly blessed....and if you want more, I think you should have more...as it seems, you and hubby have the supreme genes! Once again, thank you for the peek into your world...I truly appreciate it! May I ask the name of your beautiful baby....besides Cherub or Angel? Thank you, violeta!
@maezee (41988)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I agree with you about everything happening for a reason. I strongly believe in that too. I don't believe in fate, but I believe in the fact (or opinion, I s'pose) that mistakes are meant to be made; hardships are meant to be experienced. The only situation I can relate to this is deciding to withdraw from the University of Minnesota, and transfer to the University of Wyoming, Laramie. A lot of people disagree with my choice but I know that it will all work out in the end, and that even if it turns out to be the wrong choice at the wrong time, I'll at least have learned from that!
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@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
3 Oct 09
well you will just have to wait and see what happens and dont let others tell you what is good for you, you are the only one who is going to benefit or not from your decisions re educations so be proud of your choice and stick to it.
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
3 Oct 09
I also believe that things happen for a reason. I think that sure you were crushed when the relationship ended but like you said if you didn't end things or whatever, you could be the one getting abused, better even you wouldn't have met your husband who I am sure you are happy with. Things happen for a reason and I am always excited when I realize the reason.
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I don't believe it when it comes to everything, but I do believe it to a point.
I do believe there was a reason for my parents getting divorced. Even though it happened back when I was just a kid, if it wasn't for their breakup I would have never met my husband or had the kids that I have. So, I definitely believe there was a reason for it as strange as it may seem.
Now when it comes to things like rape and murder, I have a hard time believing the saying "it happened for a reason". Because there's just no good reason for something like that to happen to begin with.
Happy mylotting!
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Yes, I believe that everything happens for a reason. There are times I contemplate on things that I expected and never happened. I always say that God has a greater plan for me. Even though we ourselves are the driver of our own lives, we are still unknowingly guided to certain circumstances we never really expect. It may be very disappointing if you don't get what you want but in the end you'll be thankful for it. Very nice discussion. Happy Mylotting:)
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
3 Oct 09
Sometimes i have the strong feeling that things happend for a reason and that if you lose today, well, there's something better waiting for you. But when bad things happend to your life it's almost impossible not to complain about why should this happend to me?
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@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
5 Oct 09
Oh yeah, I believe things happen for a reason. I was once in this relationship and it lasted two years, I really loved this man, if he asked me to marry him I would of said yes, but I had gotten sick and was in the hospital for a couple months and he only came to visit me maybe twice in that whole two months. Well when I got out of the hospital I couldn't wait to see him, and I found out he already had someone else there visiting him, needless to say, I never went back to see him again. A couple years later I ended up marrying a wonderful man, and we're still married 6 yrs later, I'm so glad things happened the way it did, or I wouldn't be this happy now.
