Pack up your things and leave this house! go!!!!!!!!!

I will also be dissapointed if my 16 year old daughter dates a lesbian. My sympathies are entirely with the single mom. Just imagine the hard ship she would have undergone to raise this girl. Any mother or father will like to see their children having a normal relation ship and having babies. It will always be their wish to kiss and cuddle their grandchildren.

I would never throw my daughter out like that....and especially not over something like who she was dating or if she got pregnant or was failing school or something like that....I have told her that once she graduates high school (she will be 18 then)that she HAS to either be enrolled in college or be working and that she would not be able to continue living with us free of charge if she wasnt...but i would not just say get out on the spur of the moment like that ever....my mother did that to me more than once and to my brother too...i know how that feels .... not good!

having raised 4 teen girls, I am guessing that this single mom shouted this words in anger. At least I hope she did. Teens are rebellious and being a single parent is stressful even in the best of situations. I know how easy it is for emotions to fire up and words to fly that no one means. I hope that is the case with your neighbor. I would hope that she is not holding her daughter's being gay against her as it is not her fault. Anyway, there is no way ever for it to be justified in sending a 16 yr old out on their own. Regardless of issues, we are legally responsible for our kids until they are 18 at least. If she did in fact really kick her daughter out of the home then she deserves to be reported.

We haven't heard the whole story so I really cant elaborate on it. However, in general a parent is responsible for a child until they are 18 or out of college. There are some people that are still living in the stone age. The mother is clearly against homosexuality. Her daughter is on the opposite side of the issue. Being that we don't know all the facts its hard to say this woman is a bad mother. For all we know the child could have been sneaking around, lying about where she's going,or staying out after curfew. Then trust issues come into play. I do think kicking a minor child out into the street is unconscionable. I think that this family is in trouble and need help. As a parent, there are things that are children may do or not do that we dont agree with. We must be ready to hug them when they fail, kiss their boo boos, and support them even though we dont fully understand. If you cant do those things, You shouldnt be a parent. Maybe we can email her a copy of your discussion. She is clearly unclear on how to be a good parent. Im sure kicking her out because she is in love with another girl isnt the best way to parent. OPEN MINDS creates well adjusted, accepting, children. dl

I think it's terrible. I don't think its even legal. I understand it hard to admit you child is gay but she is your child. I hope the day never comes when she regrets what she has done.

I also don't think that a mother or father should say that thing to their children. It is not a good way to discipline the child. If parents said that to their child, the child may take that seriously and would have run away. That will cause a lot of trouble. Some parents do say things that they don't really mean. They do say things like that out of anger and disappointment. But yes, still not an excuse to treat their children like that. They should be talking to their kids properly and in a nice way otherwise kids will turn rebellious on them. That was a common mistake of parents, they keep on nagging their kids rather than solving and getting into the real problem. Children need to feel parents' understanding and care for them to follow or else they will do exactly opposite of what their saying because children gets irritated on them.

Love for your child is unconditional. No matter what path that child has chosen in life. There is nothing to justify what this mother has done. You don't have to like what your child is doing, but your child is always your child.

First of all, the mom can't change the fact that the girl is gay. Second, 16 is too young for a child to be out on her own. I think the mother is wrong.

Was she serious? I mean did she actually drive her out of the house? If you don't have a teen, it's hard to realize how stressful it can be, especially for a single parent raising one. I want to clearly express that THIS PARENTS' REASON for venting and striking out at her daughter is NOT in my opinion a reasonable nor decent reason to get that mad, but that's just my opinion. Some teens do things that are very disrespectful, from not checking in or getting home when they are supposed to, to storming out in front of you when you have told them they were grounded and they do it anyway! Some of them damage property or refuse to do expected chores, or their school work, and there HAS to be consequences for those things, as well as if they talk back or threaten you because they don't FEEL like doing what they should. Anyway, as far as this girl and who she was dating? While I can agree that it's kind of up to parents whether their kids date or not, I don't necessarily agree that it's okay for parents to decide WHO their kids date. As long as it isn't a matter of a 22 year old dating a 16 year old, I mean if the kids are close to the same age and still both minors, clearly the issue here is with the parent's belief against alternative lifestyles, which to me is intolerant and barbaric for this 'civilized society'. Again, that is ONLY my opinion but I do believe that at least MY opinion is civilized.

Hi manong~ A parent isn't supposed to act this way to a 16 year old child. They are still responsible by law no matter how they feel about what the child is doing, because she is still their child! They are the parent and are supposed to love their child unconditionally. I do hope that this mother will realize that this child no matter what she is doing is still her child and still needs her love and guidance and will realize this before it is too late!

Is that in the United States. If it is, it's against the law, you can't throw minor children out of the house. It just doesn't work that way. I think it is over the top. I love my children no matter what they do. Actually, that is the way I am with anyone I love. I don't understand conditional love. I really, truly don't understand it at all. That mother needs to wake up and realize there are worse things in life and figure out a way to work things out with her daughter.

We do not know the circumstances which led the mother to ask her daughter to leave home. So may be there are things that ticked the mum off. But no matter what, parents should not be throwing their 16 year old children out! If the child did something wrong, then the mum needs to help her understand. That is what parenting is all about, is it not? You use your own life experience to teach your children. And if the mum asked her child to leave coz she is a lesbian, I think that is by far the lamest thing. This is really sad!!

there are inappropriate things that we utter because we are in the fit of anger and disappointment. in our effort to guide and mold our children into the right path, we feel disappointed, hopeless, frustrated and angered if things don't go as we want them to be. we always want the ideal and the best for our children; no parent would do otherwise. if things really go out of way, the best to do is to accept the reality and do something to uplift the situation.

I think the mother needs to calm down and think of a better alternative than the one she is using. I'm sure if she sat down with her daughter and explained her feelings and her daughter explained hers, then they would eventually come to an understanding. Maybe the mother is old-fashioned, but we don't live in an old-fashioned world anymore. These type of situations are becoming more common and we have to learn how to accept and deal with them. Just because people don't live according to our beliefs doesn't make them wrong. As long as their way of life does not harm anyone, then how people want to live is up to them. Also, the mother should not be shouting so loud that the neighbors can here. You know the old saying, "Never air out your dirty laundry."

This is not justified as the mother should try to understand all the daughters actions.The mother must speak to her about good things and try to tell her what impact it may have in here life in the future.Because the mother has bought the daughter up since she was small she should not say such words.Later one day the mother will feel lonely in the house and she will start crying for the daughter to come back.

It does sound overly harsh. My parents had similar issue with my sister when she was around fifteen. I was no longer living at home because I’m 15 years older and I used to hear about the argument between my sister and my parents all the time. They used to throw all her things out onto the road and throw her out of the house which almost always resulted in her coming to me for a place to stay. I always obliged of course because I care for my sister but I always resented my parents for shoving their responsibilities on to me!

we have our ways on how we disciplined our children. but would they learn if we are like that to them. but what is important is that we shre them our views. neverlet them see that we disagree. and if so, let us explain our reasons to our children. so that their respect wont be erased from them to us. we have many reasons and many ways but that is not the right way to discipline our children jhelai

I quite agree, this is no way to express any form of discipline to a child. 16 or not, she's still a child. And regardless of the reason, telling her to leave is something that shouldn't even be thought of. How is the young girl going to learn from her mistakes? If she is a lesbian, so be it. There's nothing wrong with that. People need to be more open minded about life and happiness. All that girl is going to learn from this is that she can run away and leave all her problems. Even if the mother was looking out for her best interest.. this is no way to do it.

I think natural mother doing it because his daughter hanging out with things that deviate from civilized society and religion

I would never turn my back on my kids, no matter what. And being a lesbian, is nothing at all to be ashamed of, so if the mother is doing this because of that reason, then she should be ashamed of herself, in my opinion.