Which one is better, short engagement or long engagement

A short engagement sounds like heaven when you are in love. For some, that decision works out well. Then there are some who should have opted for the long engagement. I think you can be more sure of making the right decisions when you put more time into the planning.

My husband and I were dating two years before we got married, but wanted to get married before that. I have to agree that it's not the length of engagement so much as it is what you put into the marriage and what you take... It's all about knowing how to balance the two, you've got a give a little to take a little... But you've gotta know what's too much and what's not.

We had a longer engagement, but I have had friends who have had a really short engagement too. I don't think it makes a difference. I like the longer one so that you have more time to plan the wedding, but if you're not having a big wedding, then either way works.

My husband and I dated for a long time, lived together for two years and then we were engaged for a year and a half. For us that was perfect. I think that every couple is different and aside for profound love and respect you need to really know each other before you're ready to marry. Some people are easier to get to know than others and to me that should be one of the biggest factors on the length of your courtship and engagement.

if you ask me, i'd go to short engagement. why? because i believe if it would take a long engagement, i know the couple will be bored with each other that why their engagement took very long :(. yes it's true and you are right as long as love and respect with each other exist in a relationship, you'll surely live a happy life with a strong love life :D

That part about love and respect is true. What you are missing is caring and understanding as well, but for time wise you should just go with long time not short. I found many couples that are in love want to get married right away. That is the bad part. Later they break up and get devorced. The reason they didn't do what you said or what I put. So ya i say long engagement works the best to know if you realy do love, respect, understand, and care about each other.

I agree that short or long engagement doesn't matter as long as the relationship is based on love. But the amount of time is also relative, ten years may be too long for a new couple, but too short for an old one. The most important is how happy you are in a relation. A short engagement giving you good memories is still better than a long term plenty of tears.

My hearty congrats. My husband and I decided to get married and got engaged after three or four dates. But, we waited for four months to have the proper engagement at church and we got married one month after the engagement. I don't think short or long engagement makes a big difference. We are happily married. There will be small issues sometimes, but we are ablet o manage, solve it, and leave it forever and it makes the love deepens.

To me, a short engagement is better. If will help set the mindset and an early wedding date can be fixed. Also both parties will have to get ready psychologically to settle down. However, if the wedding budget is an issue, a long engagement would be so much better to allow savings to accumulate.

Hi Sabrina, I am in favor of short engagements. Long engagements wear out the freshness in the relationship, and therefore, marriage as such doesnt have any novelty remaining in it for the couple. Six to eight months is just fine. Having said that, length of engagement does not really guarantee compatibility. That comes from nature, and six to eight months is enough time for normal people to observe and decide whether there are disagreeable aspects.

Lets see, if the courtship is considerably long, I would prefer a short engagement. Since I would know my fiancee in and out, I wouldn't like to waste any time. But if there is any other concern, like a career choice which needs us to get married after a long engagement, that cannot be ruled out as the outcome. It all depends on how soon one wants to start a family, how young the couple is and lot of other factors.Of course love and mutual respect is the foundation for any successful marriage, no doubt.

It doesn't matter if you are engage in a short and long duration of time as long as you want to settle down or you both agreed to settle down because you are ready to th e responsibility and obligation and the most important thing is you love each other.

Really? Nice to hear it from you. I agree with you that it won't really matter if you have a short and long time engagement as long as you are meant for each other, then it's really you who are going to settle for the rest of your lives. It's a matter of valuing commitment to each other.

Short term works for some, as well as long term. I would prefer long term, but not too long, only because I believe in making arrangements and making sure that everything is in order before making such a commitment. I know things won't be picture perfect, but would like for it to be close enough.....But to all, it also really boils down to when you feel the time is right!!!!

Personally, I prefer short engagement. The shorter the better. Engagement is just a tie before getting married. I should already know my partner before tying the knot. It just a matter before moving into the next step as husband and wife. I don't intend to prolong it.

hi sabrina^^;; how nice to hear such lovely story. I had a 5-year relationship with my ex but it didn't succeed. We didn't have heavy arguments and it went smoothly but there were complicated situations we were not able to overcome and didn't fight for our love. now, my bf and i just met for 10-days and became couple we've been together 10months now and hope to get married if everything goes well. i cannot say which is better. I guess it all depends on which one one pursues. it doesn't matter how long or how short we are engaged but how long we would like to keep the relationship.