I really don't care!

Your dad must have really caused you grief and pain for you to dislike him so much. However, he is still your dad and if you don't meet with him in his hour of need you may regret it for the rest of your life. Maybe now is the time to address with him how you feel - get the whole thing out in the open whatever it is. Redemption is possible!! Leave it and you will carry it around inside of you forever. You may never be able to totally forgive him but you can come to an understanding that what he did has caused you to feel how you do. Sometimes you just have to express your inner feelings in order to get some relief from them. We waste our lives and our relationships never saying the things to others we should and then it's too late!!

I was thinking exactly like you with my aunt. I hated her, and when i head she got cancer, i thought yes! Which was very stupid from me. Every day I still feel stupid and ashamed I didn't went to the hospital to say goodbye to her, even though I didn't liked her at all. It took me months to get over it. I don't know your situation at all, but still it's family, and I think you would regret it one day, that you weren't able to say goodbye. Ofcourse it's not something really serious for now (I think), but who knows what happens next time..

blue65spacker I know what you are feeling as I had felt much the same way about my hypocrite dad but the hatred made me so ill I almost could not function. so I did what' I did not want to do but had to , and you probably will have to one day too, forgive him, not forget as we will' never forget but forgive not for him,this has nothing to' do with his welfare at all, but for your own sake. hatred loads you down and makes you so bitter you take it out on those you love who dont deserve that. forgive and the burden lifts. you can live with yourself again and be' whole. You have every right in the world to feel the way you do, but don't let hatred make you ill and it will believe'me it will.

hello blue, please allow me to say that I don't quite support what you done. hope that you can call him and give him your best wishes, this way, no matter what his situation now, he will feel better in his heart, at least he know somebody cares about him. Though you know like your father, you didn't get along with each other well, but no matter what, he give birth to your life! why don't you feel gratitude to somebody who give birth to your life??

I don't have a relationship with my father, I haven't for years. But I have always wondered how I would feel when I got the call that he was in the hospital or had passed away. I guess we never know how we will feel till we are in that position. I understand your feelings completely. and you have to deal with things in your own way. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty if they don't agree with how you are feeling about your dad and the relationship

i am new here so i hadnt read abt previous mentioning abt how u hate your dad..my dad has done a very bad thing too in our family,but i didnt kept hatred,maybe its the way i am..and wiht your case maybe he has done something very bad too thats why u hate him that much..so i dont blame you..

Oh you have so much hatred in your heart. You might think for now that its okay that your father will die and you don't care a bit about him, but I tell you when it happened you will have mixed emotions. He is still your father no matter what. You have to learn how to forgive even if how big is your father's sins to you and your family. You cannot deny the fact that he is still your father and without him you wont be here on earth. Your mother cannot bring you out on this world alone... You won't have a peaceful mind if you don't learn how to forgive. There will always be an empty space inside your heart. Do not let yourself suffer from not giving your father a chance. He is dying and everybody needs a second chance. I know in his heart he knows that it is his time already and as a dying man the greatest gift that you can give to him is your forgiveness. Allow him to ask for your forgiveness. Please do not lock your doors on him. He is probably thinking about the things he did before and would really want to ask personal forgiveness to all he has hurt. I wish that you find a heart to forgive your dad. Release yourself from anger. Good luck to you.

I understand how you feel... you probably have some bad feelings toward your father because of something he's done to you in the past. I used to feel the same way about my father, until I got a call from my mother last year saying he had a brain aneurism and wasn't expected to make it over 24 hrs... I still thought about some of "messed up" things he had done to me in the past, but I tried to remember some of the good things he had done for me also...I know you feel the way you do, and it's your right... but if it's possible, maybe if you think of some of the good things he's done for you also; you'll have a change of heart towards him.