Their parent just don't get it!
By blue65packer
@blue65packer (11826)
United States
October 2, 2009 5:12pm CST
Not long ago I had a discussions on some friends who were making wedding plans.Both set of parents refuse to let them plan their own wedding! It continued even though friends stood up to their parents and said they were going to do it their way! The parents did not like that and still refuse to let my friends paln their own wedding! So now my friends plan to go to the court house in the near furture and go to the local court house and get married there! That will pissed the parents off but if they don't do it that way,forget it! My friends won't have a wedding their way! Every couple should be able to plan their wedding their own way without the parents trying to do it their way! Amen!
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8 responses
@Laurie1986 (384)
• United States
3 Oct 09
Hey, good for them for sticking up for themselves! A lot of parents think that they get to decide *every* detail because they are footing the bill...they don't. They get to decide the size of the wedding and they get to nix elements that are too expensive, but when it comes to the design, indoor v. outdoor, location, DJ v. band, what the actual ceremony will contain, that sort of thing--it's up to the couple. The best way to take matters into your own hands if the parents are being too controlling is to hold the wedding yourselves without taking a dime from the parents, and it seems like that is what they're doing. Good for them.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Thanks for the response! I'm happy my friends stood up to their parents! I didn't think they would!
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@BStuff (495)
• United States
3 Oct 09
Yeah, I love my parents but there is a point when they need to sit down and keep it shut and how I decide to plan my wedding is part of that. I think its so crazy that the parents would do that. I would go right on ahead and plan my wedding ignoring them. What are they going to do tackle her as she walks down the isle? That's so dumb. I would be so mad. I wouldnt let that happen. 1 person likes this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Oct 09
hi blue65packer well my hubby and I did this, we just talked to the pastor of our church, and he married us to organ music in his church with the organists husband and his sister as witnesses'to our wedding.I wore a wedding dress and had a bouquet and our marriage cheap as it was lasted forty three years so we did it
our way in spite of my dad and his mom.
@Wizzywig (7847)
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3 Oct 09
I suppose, in cases where the parents are footing the bill they should have the right to specify how much they are prepared to contribute but it doesn't seem right to not let anyone plan their own wedding! Will they be telling them when to have children and what position they must be conceived in aswell??? Good luck to your friends. I hope they enjoy their OWN wedding and have many happy years together 
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Thanks for the response! I hope my friends enjoy their wedding and are together forever!
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
3 Oct 09
I think that a wedding is supposed to be what the bride and groom want it to be. If the parents are helping to pay for it, they should state howmuch they are willing to shell out, but let the details up to the couple. In this case, I think that I would just elope to avoid the conflict. If they choose to have a big wedding ceremony later on or even if they want a nice reception after the fact, then that can be handled at a later time. A wedding is supposed to be in honor or the happy couple and they should not have to battle over the details with their parents.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
4 Oct 09
From what I heard my friends where planing to pay for the wedding. A simple wedding but the parents still didn't want my friends to have one! They want them to get married in a church and have a big ceremony to start with! Another thing was the bride isn't close to her 14 yr.old sister and isn't in the wedding party! Well the parents think she should be and the made of honor! That was the final straw! I'm glad they are going behind their parents back! They wouldn't listen and thanks to that they won't see their kids get married! The parents deserve this!
@kkokitkar (2)
• India
3 Oct 09
This problem with so many young people who interested to marry and thei parents.
Genarally every parents sees some dreams about there childs and there marraige.
But parents also forgets that every individul,young childs have also dream.And then problem starts between parents and childs.Actually this is problem of generation gap also. Two generation have different thinking level.So as parents it is required that they should undersant their child.Also child should understand their parents because thy only want their child should be happy.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Thanks for the response. My friends have divorced parents and step-parents! This is one reason the family have been such pains and wouldn't let my friends plan thier wedding! My friends couldn't take it anymore! All the parents where trying to plan the wedding!
@charlies2805 (777)
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3 Oct 09
Yes, I agree with you that every couple has to be able to plan their wedding by their own way. It is not nice when their parents down to field and arrange everything, BUT I believe that parents know best. =) They just want to give what they could and be the best for their children. But sometimes they express it too extreme and their children just can't take it.
@SuzyLong (775)
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6 Oct 09
I totally agree with your friends, if both sets of parents don't back off then they should just go to the court house to get married. I'm sure it's not how they would like to get married but at least it will be there way. Wish them luck for me, i hope everything works out for the best
