have u loved more than 1 person at the same time

India
October 3, 2009 2:27am CST
have u been in more than one relation evr and have been in such a situation that u love more than one guy/gal and are confused or were confused which one to choose for ur life who would be the best who is the best then what did u do to get out of it , how did u handle it ?
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@feodda (579)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
It happens to me that I have love more than one person at the same time. It is very confusing. I always wish, I could have more than one heart and body for these guys. But I can't do it. And I have to choose careful and not to hurt their feelings because they are very dear to me. I just let the time goes by and know them very well. By this, you can know who loves you truly. And very serious for their feelings for you. Not only their feelings, but your feelings too. Time will tell you. And time with clear your thoughts too.
• India
4 Oct 09
ya feodda this happens when we are confused betwwen two persons and dont know whome we should go with thank u
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Oh no, that's cheating and I haven't done that in my entire life. I am a one-man woman. And I am proud for being one. Well, it's so important to be faithful if you want your partner to be faithful to you as well. So, if you're committed don't try to have an affair with each other You don't know how much hurt you can cause a person. You should also think for the person involved, about his or her feelings and take it into consideration. Just put imagine your situation if the person you loves does the same thing to you.
• India
4 Oct 09
best of luck be happy
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Yes, I have. They both knew about it and it was okay with both of them. I dated a boy and a girl for eight months junior year of college. He lived in Seattle and she went to school with me. The two things I didn't I didn't like about it were that other people who knew regularly thought I was cheating on her when he came to visit. The other thing is that they would both gang up on me and make me do things I didn't want to like going to the doctor for an x-rays or seeing an orthopedist. Overall, even with the difficulties, it worked out really well until the guy turned out to be a jerk.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
4 Oct 09
loved both, no. loved one but liked the other one, yes. so it's clear in my mind and plus in the end, the other one kind of slipped off anyway. so it made it easier for me to find out who to marry. if only the other guy insisted to stay, I would probably have certain degree of confusion although it wouldn't be as much confusion since I didn't love him, only liked him. the person that I loved I still love him. We have been married for almost 9 years. sometimes I noticed people can't tell difference between 'love' and 'like very much'. then they will include s ex in it too. for me true love is more than physical. if a marriage is based on physical only, it will not last, or it will last but the one will suffer to some degree. I don't know other people though, but in my marriage, our love lasts even when s ex is rare. I wouldn't refuse if he wants to do it more frequent, but I don't mind once in 6 months and it won't make me have an affair. my husband thinks the same, so our understanding with each other is really the key.
@nitu1952 (286)
• India
4 Oct 09
I think it is not possible to love more than one person at the same time. but one thing is there that is love is sentimental or something related to romance. this is really a silly question.there is no proper answer to this question.this really looks cheap to love more than one person at the same time.
@vopols (204)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
No I haven't tried being in loved with two women I am the type of person who loves only one woman but when it comes to liking I probably have more than 5 women I like but liking is different from loving. Loving for me is to experience being in love and be accepted as who am I regardless of my age my physical appearance. Liking happens when you like a particular person in terms of his or her physical appearance the way he or she dresses or the way he talks to you liking for me is based on what you see but loving is based on what you feel.
• India
3 Oct 09
i think u r right thanks
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
I have never loved a two or more persons all at the same time. At least I let gor the first before I take the other and I make sure that I don't love the person anymore when I let him go. But there was one instance when I was "forced" to let go a person even if I still love him because he was a three-timer, that is, I learned that he had a girlfriend (which I only discovered after a month of being into a relationship). He also has another girlfriend, a woman 10 years his senior, whom he eloped with when I was not in town. I was so glad that he was not the man I married because for sure, he would continue cheating on me.
@mjweed21 (693)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
It never happened to me yet because when I love someone it should have to be him alone.
3 Oct 09
Well, I have ever impressed 2 persons at the same time, but I have never loved 2 persons at the same time. It is very hard for me to give title 'love' to someone else, it needs time to see the truth. Choosing our life is pretty hard thing to do and I believe everybody wants their life to be at good condition. =) And remember, we are hardly able to love 2 persons at the same time, because when we're loving the number one, we will be betraying the second one.
@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Of course I have love more than one person at the same time. I love my mother and father at the same time and I love my girlfriend also. It differs only on what kind of love you offer to each of them:) I'm really a committed guy, I try avoiding doing something foolish whenever I'm in a relationship. Specially now because it's hard to maintain a long distance relationship. Great amount of trust and commitment must be given to endure and survive the kind of relationship I'm in. I believe having too love two person at the same time is just an illusion. It's either you love one of them and infatuated on the other.:)
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
3 Oct 09
i dont think if you have a relation with more than one person you are loyal with any. in this case you are not loving any. that may be the cause that you dont want to lose any. but it really does not mean that you love anyone.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
There are different kinds of love and for whom. However, if your question is into a by-girl relationship basically I've never been in love with more than one man. Take this quote "You cannot serve two masters at the same time." You cannot simply say you love them both because there is no such thing as like that. One must be infatuation, obsession, love or liking. You must distinguish the different of each words and ask your self well. After that, answer your own question with all honesty and you have to make your decision as soon as possible. Remember, your mother, your sister (if you have one), an aunt or if you have a niece are all ladies. If you have fooled one of your girlfriends it is like the one you are fooling around could either be your mother, your aunt, sister, or niece. Imagine how they feel. Put yourself in their position so that you may clearly understand how they will react on that dongs of yours.
@asem93 (48)
3 Oct 09
i have experienced this mate it is a very hard sutiuation so mate think as hard as youcan to choice the best and wanted in your life the one that one that suits a go whith it so if your girl and your man leaves or cheats you just dont talk to him for along time and i bet you he will come back so i hope have read and did what i have told you.
@pkevin (1)
• Qatar
3 Oct 09
yes i have and how would i get out of it without hurting someone thats what i fear since am still involved in the relationship