Why Do People Try To Ruin Relationships?
By tinsky
@tinsky (163)
Philippines
October 3, 2009 5:27am CST
I have few friends and classmates in college try to ruin my relationship. They lie to my boyfriend and that makes me and him have disagreements. I can tell when they say these lies that it really hurt his feelings. I just can't understand why someone would do something like that. I am too good for them and i didn't do anything wrong to them... Any reasons why?
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6 responses
@JessicaSearcy (117)
• United States
10 Oct 09
They are jealous, plain and simple. They see that you're happier than they are and they really just can't stand it. So then they do everything in their power to make sure you and your boyfriend fall. Don't let them.
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@manoj1502 (854)
• India
3 Oct 09
What ever you said its true and most people might undergone this problem. Hey remember one thing they are selfish about you and might have ego too so they try to spoil the relation. Your good be always good like that truth will never fade keep that in mind and you have to trust him and he as to trust you fully if so whom so ever say anything no problem will come . Or else be straight forward to your friend ask him not to trust them expect you. Take Care
Hope so all will be fine
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
10 Oct 09
I dont understand why people would try to ruin someone else's relationship. I have had people try to ruin my relationships in the past and it made things harder. Hopefully he would understand that they tell lies after time of dealing with it.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
13 Oct 09
tinsky,
Ya, why do people lie?
I am sorry you state that you are in college with your classmates lying to your boyfriend to ruin your relationship. But in your profile, (pardon me) you state that you are 24.
See my point?
So, which is more important now for you?
The reasons why your classmates are lying or the relationship with your boyfriend which is deteriorating to reach breaking up?
I am going to comment a little here on the relationship aspect and I feel that you should be looking into this especially when it could be so easily destroyed by "lies" from your friends.
Could this relationship be so fragile and frail to be innate to handle weak hearsay of one of the partners?
Or, is this relationship is actually bound to fail before it even started (as deemed by you) in the first place?
I really hope that you are able to see the bigger picture here.
Take care.
See my point?
So, which is more important now for you?
The reasons why your classmates are lying or the relationship with your boyfriend which is deteriorating to reach breaking up?
I am going to comment a little here on the relationship aspect and I feel that you should be looking into this especially when it could be so easily destroyed by "lies" from your friends.
Could this relationship be so fragile and frail to be innate to handle weak hearsay of one of the partners?
Or, is this relationship is actually bound to fail before it even started (as deemed by you) in the first place?
I really hope that you are able to see the bigger picture here.
Take care.@tinsky (163)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
thanks for the advise... until now they are still few people who are trying to ruin our relationship with my boyfriend right now...more people were trying to ruin when i was still in college.. i told my boyfriend right now that we should not be affected by those people who are telling lies so that we will break up... i think we have learned from it coz we are going stronger and im sure we will not be affected by it for now coz we know that we are together for more than 8 years already... before our relationship is on and off because of them who tried to ruin it...
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@jerrismith (27)
• United States
6 Oct 09
In this world there are people that are for you and there are those who are against you. All i can say is that you need to leave these people alone and move on and find a better group of friends. Because the reason the lie and deceive you is because they are hating on what you have and they want to do any and every thing to destroy it...
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@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
There are people who are unhappy with their life and take time to intrude other relationship for them to get the attention. I have a friend before that always give a wrong information about my past boyfriend for us to break-up and she really did it. So now, I never listened because I trust my current boyfriend.
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