The Hurt

I think that with the ones we love we are authentically ourselves and that includes all of us warts and all, the good, the bad and the ugly. The beauty of true love is that, yes there is hurt sometimes because as imperfect beings we get angry, possessive, jealous or complacent, but isn’t it nice to know that no one is going anywhere?

hi feodda we do not mean to hurt the person we love .. it is just that we are being true when it comes to them .. when it is the others, we tend to hide our actul feelings and follow the flow ... .. so i guess being tru really hurts us cheers

only the one who cares can be hurted.

hmm... i agree with you that we hurt the people we love because we know that they do understand and would always forgive us. However, come to think of it, we also like hurting our enemies... So i dont think it is always true that we hurt those we love. We can actually hurt anybody intentionally or unintentionally.

I don't think we hurt our loved one's purposefully. Sometimes we hurt them not because taking them to granted. its because of how much possessive we are to them.

yah theres a time i dont noticed that i already hurts my love one...but i dont mean it to hurts him thats why i didnt noticed the what im doing that makes him hurts....but im glad me and my love one if we feel theres a problems especially in our relationship we really talk about it and settle it down at once we dont let it reach tomorow or nxt day....

Love is indeed a big word. We associate it too much with expectations. We expect perfection even in the most imperfect world. Our world hinders us to achieve a more forgiving kind of love. Accepatance should be of importance. Expectation should be set aside to avoid misunderstanding.

hello feodda, the reasons why the person hurt the ones they love are; possiveness, they tend to choke their loved one with what they want. insensitivity - not being mind ful of what they say or do until they realized it after wards it was a mistake. and then lastly, taking you for granted.

We do hurt people we love unintentionally. Who wants to hurt the people you care so much anyways? But we are just humans; we are weak and impulsive most of the time. We do say things that unconsciously could hurt others. What I mean is, we are tactless because we think that bad truths must come from us rather than to others that might put them in a more shameful situation. It's the closeness that made us feel very comfortable and thus lead us in hurting our love ones. We are much secured, as you said--we think and know that they will understand us no matter what. Sometimes we are more careful in dealing with others who we don't know much because we don't know how they will react or feel if we say things that could hurt them. And I know that is unfair... It should be the people we love that we must treasure most. Oh! I cannot understand it as well.

yes i believe so but its either we ..do it porpusely or we did it unconsciously..

may be not

Yes,really when someone to whom we love hurts we really depress.But no one doing this genuinly.It happens only because of miss understanding.One is expecting other should resonse only as per his expectation. If response comes negative then this miss understanding starts and get depress. For this it is very necessary that both should think from other prespective and then you will not get disoppointment. I am really agreee that love is understanding others feelings.We should respect each other then only our relation becomes healthy and happy.