is saying sorry means your weak?????

Accepting the truth and saying sorry doesn't mean you are weak it means that you are brave enough to admit your fault. Its takes a lot of courage to do something like that. No everyone has that much in them. Its good to say sorry sometimes.

According to "Webster" you are both right. 1. full of sorrow, pity or sympathy; also used as an expression of of apology or mild regret. 2. inferior in worth or quality; wretched; miserable. The american that told you that sounds like a ignorant one that i used to know. If he were intellegent enough to look up the meaning he would have to just shut his yapper. Maybe he was just a weak person. Like in the second meaning.

That's what Americans think. Saying sorry means to show your love and to accept your own faults. This will increase your respect. Saying sorry shows that you love and care about the relation what we have and you dont want to loose this relation. You really care about your friend, lover or anyone who is involved. The last thing is this dont always say sorry and sorry again, use it only when you truly feel that this time is your fault. Dont excuse for other's mistakes. This will ruin your respect also.

No, i would first guess your an asian, cause saying sorry most of the time is an asian culture. this is not a sign that you are weak, it is an acknowledgement of your error or mistake. this is a culture difference that we and americans have. Western people are proud people as most told me so themselves. That is why most of them don't say sorry even if its just a small mistake or error, they will only say sorry when they did things that are terribly wrong. For us Asian we are raised differently, we are mostly in the gently side specially women. Thats why the next time you encounter an american, tell him this information. so he will get the idea. And FYI him/her that we Asians may be gentle but we are not weak thats for sure.

no. Apologies is a mark that you are a wide minded. ready to accept mistakes. mature enough. and it takes Guts to accept that your wrong. so.. who's weak now?

no, i dont think so, i think its only a way of humbling yourself to know that you are absolutely wrong with what you've done or with what you are doing?

I would say that saying you're sorry would be weak only if it wasn't true. If we really mean that we're sorry, then I think it is more strong than weak, to admit that we were wrong or made a mistake. - Derek

If you're apologising because you have done or said something wrong then saying sorry shows STRENGTH not weakness. If you are saying, Sorry, I don't want to talk about this subject right now or at all, because you know that it will cause an arguement, again I think it shows Strength. The only time I think saying sorry is wrong is when you say it repeatedly (say for example because you are always late for appointments) then never doing anything to change your behaviour, or if you say it when you don't have anything to be sorry about, or don't mean it! Even then I don't think it shows you're weak, it just means you are using the word incorrectly! I can't think of an instance when saying sorry makes you appear weak as a person.

I completely agree, but of course from his point of view, he/she probably says sorry for the majority of the time just to end an argument, like you said. I know when i apologize, it IS because it's my bad.

NO! Saying sorry I believe is completely the opposite. I think it shows strength beacuse it is allowing to show that you can admit when you did something wrong and you can try to fix it. Sorry is a big thing. when you say sorry, it means you will try not to do it again. So it is a big deal. People need to think sorry is a bigger thing to understand the importance of it.

what a GREAT TOPIC......i can totally aware if this american phonomenen!!!i am on a website which is 95 % american and i am labellled "too nice".....weak.....boring... i have NO idea where NICE or saying you're sorry became a bad thing....americans are under the impression that NICE..SORRY mean weak.....i am sorry but i will not change for anyone..saying you are sorry in MOST cases is NOT weak by any means....i tried once to change and stop being "nice" and i wasnt be true to myself..nOW ..mind you if one says the are sorry for NOTHINg then that is a little much but mostly ...i make it habit of being nice and if i feel sorry ...I SAY IT!!so i say stand your ground and be a NICE caring person..it never hurt any one!!!

you are right. and i was really surprised to see this discussion because i have just asked someone, another american oddly enough, who told him that apologising was a sign of weakness. being able to accept mistakes is if anything a sign of strength. of course constantly apologising even though you know or think you are right is not.

Hi, Jhaszy. Not at all. I mean saying sorry does not show ur weakness, rather, it shows u r strong enough to accept what u have done. Also, if one does not want involve in a matter, one says sorry. Then, if refusing with politeness is a sign of weakness, is refusing with rudeness a sign of utmost strength??? A complete nonsense. I must say apology and respect for others is an integral part of nearly all world cultures. But, some nations on the individual scale are eliminating this part just to hide their guilts in the name of their strength. I mean to say somebody who can not control even himself/herself is not strong but one of the weakest. It is tragic that saying sorry is many times considered as the symbol of proof of one`s guilt. But, that is because of the people like us inheriting these traditions of arrogance from some people. So, please, don`t rethink ur decisions of saying sorry, it is not weakness but strength. But, it does not mean that we keep on doing things that deserve an apology and then just say sorry and repeat our mistakes. Happy Mylotting!!

I don't agree with him. Whatever you did was right. Why because, sorry is a golden word. You are saying sorry means you are giving importance to the others feelings. When you did the mistake, you accepted it. That is why you said sorry to him. When we hurt others with our actions or words, we should definitely say sorry. The word sorry comes out from the mouth only when something went wrong unintentionally. So, saying sorry is good habit and is also indicator of good manners.

The greatest STRENGTH you can show is being able to say those two words. It shows you have the strength of character to acknowledge when you are wrong, have possibly shown bad manners, or are comforting another for their loss. I don't know where that American came up with stating that if you say you're sorry that you're weak. He's full of prunes!!! Of course I have met a LOT of Americans that are full of prunes...but I am an American and am subjected to a larger amount of them than people living in other countries. Stick with saying your sorry. It shows true strength and character when you admit that you are wrong or apologizing for other reasons.

I don't believe that saying the words I'm sorry are showing any signs of weakness....I belive it shows that you have respect and are willing to admit to some mistake you may have made and taking responsibility for it....I say sorry if I've done or said something wrong to hurt another....

I agree that saying sorry is not a mistake it's the attitude of good manner we must do that because it's the way of making life appreciate beautiful things so that you not to be bad to every one.

No it's not means you are weak.. i think if you feel your guilty and say sorry to someone..then it's your polite nature..it shows the good effect on other person.. it's not your weakness.. it id a good thing..that you have..so i don't think that if i say sorry to someone..that i am weak..

hi, To me saying sorry comes naturally and i know a guy who i know very well and he is such a honest character and very strong mentally and physically and yet he never shy from saying sorry. He told me saying sorry even if there is not fault of yours doesn't mean you are wrong or at fault but it means you have given more importance to the relationship ( ur gf, sister , friend or any other relationship) than your self ego. Also Mahatma Gandhi said it takes a big man to admit his mistake which normally normal people wouldn't do and when you admit mistake then sorry has to come automatically.

Every time sorry doesn't meas u're weak... It tells that u're valuing more ur relationship