I hate those SCREAMERS in the store!!
By Sissygrl
@Sissygrl (10912)
Canada
October 3, 2009 3:43pm CST
We've all been in a store i'm sure at one point and thought.. omg that poor child..
Today there was a mother with two kids.. one of them LEFT her side with you telling her, to look at something else with the OTHER ADULT she was with.. and her mother started SCREAMING her childs name, LACY LACY LACY!! and when she DID find her.. omg that poor child, she LAID into her screeaming so loud i'm sure the whole store heard her and shoved her into the cart (the buggy as some people call it). I admit i do yell at my kids once in a while.. well the older one, when she refuses to listen to what i'm saying i yell her name and if that doesn't work then its time out.. but i wouldnt ever yell and scream my face off especially in the middle of a busy store. darn.. we where not even in walmart!
Do you feel bad for these children ?
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11 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Oct 09
I think that the mother or father is usually just so upset that they left their side, and starts worrying about the kid so much that when they do find the kid what was worry becomes anger or at the least aggravation or agitation. I think that the parents should try not to scream and find a different way to convey how they felt, but I'm only just married and we haven't had children yet. I know when we do, and we're in those parents shoes we'll see how it feels to have a child walk away... lol, so I guess what I am saying is that I don't want to say too much because my opinion is just that, an opinion, I've never experienced this for myself. Have a niece and nephew but never been to the store with them.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
3 Oct 09
i see your idea cowgirl, but i am a parent. and of two small kids, so i know they like to walk away.. i dont take my eyes off them unless they are with someone else. If i know i can't keep my eyes on both, into the cart they go from the beginning! besides.. even if you are mad at your children because they walked away from you.. you still shouldnt loose your patience.. you should be relieved they are okay. and then you can talk to them in a normal tone and tell them how upset you are.. yelling doesn't help anything.. At least i dont think so..
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
4 Oct 09
I think that sounds really sensible, I've seen mothers put their children in buggies straight away, they have those new car buggies so that the kids are entertained a little, which is always good.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
3 Oct 09
Well, now we know why the kids ignore their parents when they're screaming, don't we? Must be a constant thing. Someday they'll be half deaf and ignore her even more.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
3 Oct 09
haha yea.. darn screamers.. my older daughter is 3 and a half and weather i talk nicely or i scream at her, sometimes i get ignored either way, so what is the point of wasting my energy and making her not enjoy me or her time.. she seems to respond better if i talk to her normally, and then if she's still not listening, well we go on timeout till s he's ready to hear what i have to say! or do what she's supposed to do! i must say though she is a very good kid compared to some kids i have seen!! i am BLESSED with two good ones.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
3 Oct 09
Sounds like you're a reasonable parent to me.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
3 Oct 09
I do feel badly for those children, I see it so much. I feel that a parent should treat a child with respect and the child will reciprocate. That's how I treated my children and they respect me. Their dad didn't respect them and now, as adults, they don't respect him.
Another thing that gets me is the poor tired, hungry little children who are screaming and crying because they are too young for such a long outing.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
3 Oct 09
Yeah, my parental situation parallels yours with the same parent screaming, and the same parent not screaming. However, my mother didn't stand up to Dad the way we all wished she would, because he scared the $hit out of her too. Now as an adult, I am not scared of much, and if I am a witness to that kind of child-tratment, I'll get right in there, and see to it that the kid is not treated that way. My Flashbacks tend to do that to me, and that's how I deal with them, by fighting back against the cause.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Oct 09
hi sissygrl wow yes I do as there is no excuse for that
and the woman was just simply overreacting, and being
hard on the child is not going to help anything.i know'
I panicked when I lost track of my little girl once'but I
did not scream,I just told the clerks and we all looked
and one of them soon found her. She was lying down on a'
stack of dress goods behind the dress goods counter, sound asleep. I was so glad I just hugged her and hugged her,I would never'have 'thought of screaming at her.
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@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
6 Oct 09
I think its uncalled for when a parent has to yell at there child like that. My child is always with me in the store. My kids have never been far from me when we are in a store. I don't trust a lot of people when it comes down to my kids because to many people like to kid nap kids. I do feel bad for kids that get yelled at like that. Those kids will grow up doing the same thing there parents show them.
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@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
6 Oct 09
very true. I can't believe that lady yelled like she did at her kids in a store of all places. People might have thought she was nuts or abusive. You think anyone turned her in for that? I seen a lady spank her child real hard on the skin in the mall one day. Talk about messed up because you know it hurt that little girl.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
3 Oct 09
I used to be the screamed at child, and not because I did anything wrong, but because one of my parents had a really bad temper, and a short fuse. To this day any type of raised human voice in frustration gives me honest-to-goodness PTSD level FLASHBACKS!!! (my husband just yelled at the cat for getting infront of him when he was trying to walk...hubby's almost blind...and I had to REMIND HIM not to do that because loud frustration is like second hand smoke, it affects others too, and he calmed right now). If I was in the store in your position, I'd have probably DEFENDED THE CHILD, because the flashback would have put me right back in my old "kid shoes", the shoes that the child would be wearing now, but the adult in me would take over and do what the child in me longed to do all along.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
9 Oct 09
yea,i do.
i was at a walmart once where the store actually asked a woman to leave for screaming.i mean,she was resounding through the whole store,it was terrible.
i think everyone was glaring at her.
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
4 Oct 09
My kids rarely got away from me and if they did, just that "mom" look from me was enough.
I think what bugs me worse than the screamers are the ones who let big huge hanging globs of snot run out of their kids noses and don't do anything about it.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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4 Oct 09
Hi there Siss
Well I don't usually scream at my kids in a store only if I an frantic because I can't find them but that doesn't happen very often because I keep a close eye on them. I just would never scream for the sake of screaming at my kids in public.
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
4 Oct 09
I think that sounds really sensible,I have seen Fathers and Mothers put their children in buggies straight away,they have those new car buggies so that the kids are entertained a little,which is always good
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